Embarrassing crush on one of the dads

[Cumbrianlassie]

I’ve got a crush on one of the school run dads. His child is in my son’s class and they’re friends.
He always talks to me on the playground. We easily chat and to be honest he’s the only one who really does engage with me. Also at other events like parties and extra curricular stuff. I feel most comfortable speaking to him over the other parents, especially mums.
He’s actually very good looking too and definitely my type 😳
I feel like a school girl.

He and his wife are very much in love from what I can see and a happy little family.

I just need to get over this , and wondering if I’m alone, has anyone had similar? So embarrassed!

Anyone? Or am I alone in my embarrassment 😂

The thing about a crush is that they just happen. Years ago I had a crush on my boss. He never knew and it passed after a while. I was at a very low point in my life then and he was supportive. He was married so I knew nothing could come of it.
As long as it stays a secret crush and you don’t start finding reasons to be alone with him or thinking it could be something more then there’s no harm in it.

Can I just warn you that the other parents will have noticed! I would nip this in the bud as your child is at school for many years!!!!

You just have to make sure you never show it and never act on it.

…I mean noticed he is the only one who engages with you .

@bossybloss Noticed what? We just chat on the school playground and occasionally at parties.

Yes sounds super embarrassing. Let’s hope you don’t give any indication; I bet he’d be freaked out and feel super uncomfortable that his friendliness has been taken this way and you’ll get a horrible reputation which will really affect your child. Pull yourself together and avoid if you have to.

Have you posted this twice as there is another post exactly the same on relationships, if so you are starting to sound a bit obsessed. No this has never happened to me but none of the dads at my kids school are attractive (to me)

No that wasn’t me on the other post.

I just don’t know how to avoid without being rude. I’m going to try and say hello, be pleasant but then rush off. I just don’t want to be stand off ish as our kids are friends too.

This. You most definitely have let it slip which is embarrassing for you. Please respect his wife and most importantly your child who this would be awful for if you acted on it.

I definitely won’t be giving any indication. I can’t help a crush. I’m hoping it’s just a passing phase , soon to be over!

@Roundroundthegarden

Let what slip? We just talk on the playground for 5 mins - I think he feels awkward maybe around the other parents or feels he doesn’t know them well I’m guessing? And just says hello and a brief chat because we’re both standing there.

There's no problem chatting to him at all, it'll look much weirder if you suddenly start looking uncomfortable and rushing off every time he comes along. Just treat him like you'd treat anyone else and it'll be fine. The other mums probably haven't even noticed.

I’m not going to act on anything, it’s the absolute last thing I’d do. No way am I going to break up a family. They’re very much in love as far as I can see.
I think I’m just having a silly crush.

Theres no harm in a crush, you don't need to ignore him he will wonder what's up and that would be more awkward

Long as you don't act on it one way you could try getting over him is picture him having a poo or scratching his balls lol I'm trying here 😂 joking aside it'll probably pass soon enough

They will have noticed that he is the only one “who really does engage “ with you ….. your words!! You are flattered and now have a crush on him ( your words).

I am assuming the parties are kids parties and you don’t socialise with him without the children !

Yes the parties are kids parties!

I hope the wife notices looks you up and down, links arms with her husband, hair flips and walks away with him and their children in their happy marriage with neither looking back

But surely that would be really nasty when the OP hasn't done anything to indicate (and in fact doesn't want to) that she would ever think of acting on the crush?

No need to be nasty to the OP here I don’t think. You can’t help a crush and she clearly wishes she didn’t feel that way and doesn’t want to do anything about it

Who pissed in your cornflakes this morning?

I certainly wouldn’t act on it, it would be totally immoral and ridiculous.
It is nice to have someone to chat to on the school run anyway. I just need to try my best to rid myself of this silly crush l.

Crushes come out of nowhere but you should do what you can to pour some cold water on it, especially when dc could be collateral damage.

Focus on something small you don’t like, or picture him farting, picking his nose or cutting his toenails. And lean in to a celebrity crush with a Netflix binge to take the edge off.

Do you have a partner?