Embarrassing crush on one of the dads

[Cumbrianlassie]

I’ve got a crush on one of the school run dads. His child is in my son’s class and they’re friends.
He always talks to me on the playground. We easily chat and to be honest he’s the only one who really does engage with me. Also at other events like parties and extra curricular stuff. I feel most comfortable speaking to him over the other parents, especially mums.
He’s actually very good looking too and definitely my type 😳
I feel like a school girl.

He and his wife are very much in love from what I can see and a happy little family.

I just need to get over this , and wondering if I’m alone, has anyone had similar? So embarrassed!

I realised my crush had an outy belly button and I try and think of that now, outies are not bad but I didn't expect him to have one

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You should be embarrassed

This happened to me, and the other post the PP was referring to could well have been mine.
Difference is I am married, he was single.

Not sure how he felt about me, but he was always respectful of my situation and platonic boundaries, was friendly with DH too and whatever the case I would never ever have gone there, as I have a happy life with a lovely husband and obviously it's morally wrong.

It all peaked a couple of months ago for me after he started putting a kiss on texts- i accientally did it once then he did it back having never done so before- which I guess made me wonder if there was something more on his side.That was around the time I wrote the post pn here, then I just kept thinking about him for awhile often, which i felt very guilty about, but it has really faded off recently.I don't see or contact him much anymore which probably helps things, as our kids friendship has fizzled out quite abit, and we don't collect on the same days so never see him at school.

I think i just liked the buzz of someone who i found attractive giving me attention...could that be the same for you? I think as mums we can often forget about still being ourselves too, not just a mum, so it's exciting and a confidence boost to feel like someone fanciable might have a crush on you back, even if you know you'd never take it further.
And i guess that would be even more so for someone who is single and available.

I appreciate it must feel harder as you aren't in a relationship,but give it time, pull back abit, and like my situation I'm sure it will pass for you too.
If you meet up with him for playdates etc, maybe see if the wife can come too and you may become friendly which might help you get over it.That's what I did with getting my DH to join in the playdates...made it much easier to suppress any feelings as it wasn't just 1-1

Op I’m so sorry that you’re getting a hard time on here. Some people seem to be incapable of thinking in any way other than in black and white - a real lack of emotional intelligence that seems to be all over social media these days. I’m sure they think they’ve never had a bad thought or said a nasty thing in their lives and are whiter than white themselves. But having seen their complete lack of empathy in action on here I think they’re sadly mistaken.

Anyway, a crush is a crush. You’re human, these things happen. Keep it to yourself, let it fade, remain friendly but a little detached and don’t encourage the friendship to go any further. I hope you get some good empathic advice on here x

girl!!! I found your post on Google and I am in the same situation. I have a mega crush on this dad and we're both taken... it never happened to me in 10 years and this guy is just really my type and he's always looking at me and smiling when I go pick up my kid at Daycare and the attraction is there and mutual. I'm can't stop thinking about him it's really intense... I just want to forget about it but it literally consumes my mind everyday... ughhhh what are the updates on your side?

OP its just a bit of escapism, you are allowing yourself to re-experience that thrill and excitement of the early stages of romance not because you actually really want this guy but because it offers a bit of relief from the daily grind, stressful situations and the fact that he is attractive and nice to you makes him the perfect image for your fantasies.

However you don't really know him and you aren't free to know each other in that way. He is just a man no matter how nice he seems I guarantee his wife could tell you things about him that would put you off him!

A bit of escapist fantasy is harmless as long as we know it is just baseless fantasy and that we don't let it take over our minds. If you find yourself thinking about him too often then try some mindfulness meditation instead.

ffs I have had crushes and that’s all they have been. I should imagine my husband has had them as well because we are human. I don’t buy into the notion that you suddenly stop finding other people attractive when you get married.

the other parents won’t have noticed op they have other things to worry about. Ignore the batshittery on here. Most of you who are condemning the op have a word with yourself. Having a crush is not the same as taking someone’s husband away.

Exactly everyone has crushes!! It's human! I know my husband has had crushes.. it's like a fantasy and it's exciting. It's another thing to act on it... honestly I feel like a teenager lol I can't wait to see him at daycare 😂

I think this was maybe something you should have kept to yourself . Nothing wrong with fancying someone but you are going to get comments that won’t be great .

Hes a married man , that’s the end of the story , no need to even think anymore of it . Be very careful to not make it obvious .

If you made the same level of effort with the women as you are with this man, I'd be very surprised if no one would engage with you. Women who use being ignored by other women as an excuse to flirt with men are.. well...making excuses.

Things like this usually occur when we are lonely. Maybe think about joining a meet up group in your area or join a group in something that interests you.
I think your feelings will dampen down when you start building connections with other people