Embarrassing crush on one of the dads

[Cumbrianlassie]

I’ve got a crush on one of the school run dads. His child is in my son’s class and they’re friends.
He always talks to me on the playground. We easily chat and to be honest he’s the only one who really does engage with me. Also at other events like parties and extra curricular stuff. I feel most comfortable speaking to him over the other parents, especially mums.
He’s actually very good looking too and definitely my type 😳
I feel like a school girl.

He and his wife are very much in love from what I can see and a happy little family.

I just need to get over this , and wondering if I’m alone, has anyone had similar? So embarrassed!

@LittleMonks11 Not at the moment why?

So you’re a single mum making eyes at another woman’s husband. Grow up and stop that nonsense

This is a wind up.

To be fair…. I think people are trying to be helpful.

Crushes happen! On married men or not!

Still chat op, would be weird if you just stopped all of a sudden.

You know not to act on it and you'll soon get over him 😅

I was crushing on a man who I was with in my 20s and I saw a picture of him on Facebook and something put me off. You need to find something you don't like about him.

No way you’re going to break up his family?
That’s nice of you…. You seem pretty certain he’s there for the taking?

Why is everyone being so horrible?! We all have crushes! She said she's not going to do anything and wants to stop the feelings, I've certainly been there.

We don’t.

Indeed.

You are all bonkers

No, I don’t think he’d be interested in me anyway. His wife is beautiful and has a great body (not in a weird way).
I just meant I wouldn’t even consider the idea of taking it further, although it would never happen.

I know, right?! The replies to this thread are both hilarious and sad. Of course crushes are totally normal, and of course it’s totally fine to have one as long as you don’t act on it with a married man. Jeez.

OP, don’t feel bad. It will pass.

God people are being weird about this. It’s so normal, I wouldn’t even worry about it. It’s not like you’re snapchatting him pictures of your tits. Just carry on being friendly and be mindful of boundaries.

One of the other mums when DS was at nursery quite clearly had a thumping crush on my DH. He didn’t even notice and I just thought it was quite sweet, tbh! DH is a lovely man.

You must know that’s not how she meant it!

Some people are being really harsh over this. It’s not like she’s pushing her tits in his face! It’s a harmless crush!

I feel like tricky crushes can be telling you something and aren't always exactly about the person you're crushing on. Perhaps its your subconscious and body telling you that you want the things that you like about him and that it's time to start dating people that bring those traits and that connection (if you're not already, and you're in a position to).

Are you dating? You should set up a few dates and liven up your summer.

Just let the crush wash over you. It will soon fade. In the meantime, can you crush on an actor, time for a new box set?

“Taurusenergy · Today 20:40
Theres no harm in a crush, you don't need to ignore him he will wonder what's up and that would be more awkward
Long as you don't act on it one way you could try getting over him is picture him having a poo or scratching his balls lol I'm trying here 😂 joking aside it'll probably pass soon enough”

This. I’ve had occasional crushes. Just laugh at it. Treat it as unimportant and it will feel unimportant.

No need to be embarrassed, OP. They just happen from time to time, sometimes in relation to the most unlikely peiole. Not to worry. It’ll pass off. Just don’t get drunk and confess your love.

I don't think you need to avoid him, you just need to talk to other parents as much as you are speaking to him

Oh my god I totally feel for you. Having a crush comes out of nowhere. I hate it so much when it happens; it just makes you feel so awkward.

Sending sympathy and also acknowledgment that you've never said you're planning on acting on it & he and other parents won't have realised.

God people are horrible. She isn't a homewrecker, she has a crush that anyone can get and is asking how to stop it. Op crushes are horrible, I have had one for ages with someone at work, only he is single and still doesn't take things further! Sometimes I think they develop because we see something in them that we want in our lives or that is missing in ourselves. I realised my crush had an outy belly button and I try and think of that now, outies are not bad but I didn't expect him to have one. Be careful because crushes can turn in to limerance and my god that is brain consuming!

Another desperate woman who can't seem to find her own man and latches onto unavailable men. there are plenty of single men go for them and stop giving attention to men who are clearly happy with someone else. Plus, have respect your children in the same class. It's just seedy.It! Stop it.

She's done nothing wrong. She hasn't or isn't acting on. Crushes are normal

Nothings happened.... bit premature to call op desperate