Order what you want and don’t eat others unless offered!

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Just a lighthearted one…

A debate came up between me and dh. I wanted to see what others think.

here’s the backstory.
I love my food, I have a good appetite. So does dh.

we ordered burgers the other day. He decided he just wanted a burger, no fries, no drink.
I love a fountain drink (pregnancy craving too!) and fries are a must.
so I order a whole meal, regret not ordering a large in hindsight lol

so we order, have our food. He gets his double cheeseburger and finishes it. I’m eating my burger and fries… he then proceeds to take a few gulps of my drink and almost half my fries.

I made the point that if he wanted some he should’ve ordered them himself!!!
his response was he didn’t want any at the time…
my response is.. I never do it to him, I always order mine and eat mine. I wouldn’t take his food without asking or being offered (I did not offer!)
he agreed, he said I never do that and he’s grateful for it (the cheek!)

obviously this isn’t a make or break situation, just light hearted. I’m not a monster who kicked off. I just made the point that you should order your own sides!
it’s not that I can’t share, I ordered just enough of what I wanted - could’ve got some sharing fries and another drink if I knew he was going to do this!

AIBU or is he?

😂😂 I like your style.

We also share the sides etc. The portions are huge, it surprises me when people say 'I want the whole portion myself' because its so much food (genuinely, we're not teeny tinies at all).

Even big eater DP can't eat a whole takeaway or restaurant meal and I genuinely only want a few chips or whatever, so we're a perfect match in this regard.

If I ordered my own, I'd be leaving about three quarters of it so it makes sense for DP to give me a few chips as I'm only eating what he would leave anyway.

Presumably that's an agreement between the two of you though? Not one of you saying "I don't want any" and then taking what you know you're going to eat?

Also, when I was pregnant and the sickness had finally subsided (up to halfway through I couldn't keep anything down), if anyone tried to take my chips I would have eaten them too!

I mean, you do sound like teeny tinies if neither of you can eat a whole restaurant meal 😁

Unless you live in America where the portions actually are huge!

@Bjorkdidit If you can't finish a meal each then yes you are not typical, most people can. So it's good sharing works for you but that's not usual.

I have a 'friend' who i occasionally meet for lunch. She always picks food off my plate and takes sips of my wine. She doesn't order wine herself as she drives home. I get the bus. She then quibbles over the bill. I find this so annoying that I haven't met with her for over a year.

I would have been furious and I've never even been pregnant

This kind of shit drives me mad. It’s usually people who say, ooh I couldn’t, how can you eat all of that? that go on to steal half your naan.

No. No. I won’t stand for it.

Chips are just for nicking off other people. That’s why chip shop portions are so big.

Greedy

You're pregnant. Next time, order double fries and a double fountain.

He'll see it as saving you from yourself.

You'll see it as becoming an experienced married person, and knowing him better than he knows himself.

When I was in my late teens my mum always appeared to eat like a sparrow. Never appeared hungry ever but would always nick your food and spoil your plate. My Dad would always make me 2 fried eggs on top of two slices of fried bread before I went out with mates to line the old stomach. Whilst it was being dished up in the kitchen she would always cut off a slither of bread and pop both of my yolks before it arrived with me. Drove me round the bend to the point I started hovering as it was being made and went out stinking like a frying pan just because I hated having my meal messed with. To this day I don’t share my food and if anyone tries to pinch off my plate they get it both barrels. I think it’s plain nasty, entitled and rude.
My mum and sister when we go out actually pick off each others plates to try stuff and share meals too. Can’t stand it 🤣🤣

How is he with a Chinese?? My pet hate is ordering what I want to eat and then someone suggests putting all the food in the middle of table to share. Just no. My food and I’m eating it!

hello smithy. Nice to have you with us on mumsnet

I totally agree! There's certain Chinese dishes that I want all of it, others I'm happy with a share. I do make it known before ordering and luckily I'm not alone in my friends as we all do this.

Oh he has to order his own dish for Chinese, loves a spicier dish - I mean I would too but I purposely order my standard dish so I know he won’t take any 🤣🤣

I’m sorry, why are you friends with this person 🫣

🤣🤣🤣

I adore my DH and kids but I don’t share when it comes to take out 😂😂😂

I always get FOMO when I see something I didn’t have, now to the point where my fiancé will anticipate it and order large if I decided not to have something. Tbf he does offer though, I don’t think I’d just take his food

Go Nessa!

Err no, why should the other person have half a portion if they want a while meal to themselves?

You finding them too calorific is your problem. Ask for a 1/2 portion or leave half but don't expect others to have less.

I announce beforehand if I'm not prepared to share and if sides are wanted, people had better order their own because they won't be having any of mine.

My kids always end up having my food and it annoys me but they are kids, I have given the death stare a few times tho but to no avail!

my OH is definitely a Joey does not like sharing whatsoever but will kindly help himself to everyone else’s and will even take food without asking is this being eaten? The greedy pig he is🤣

im surprised you didn’t kill him especially being pregnant and eating for two❤️

Touch my food feel my fork.

I agree. Especially if I have ordered exactly what I want/need and someone wants to take some because they’ve ordered a smaller portion - gets on my nerves. Mainly because I don’t often ask people for their food because I don’t want someone else’s food.

My partner has learned to leave me and my food - I’m now breastfeeding and the hunger is worse than pregnancy haha