Order what you want and don’t eat others unless offered!

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Just a lighthearted one…

A debate came up between me and dh. I wanted to see what others think.

here’s the backstory.
I love my food, I have a good appetite. So does dh.

we ordered burgers the other day. He decided he just wanted a burger, no fries, no drink.
I love a fountain drink (pregnancy craving too!) and fries are a must.
so I order a whole meal, regret not ordering a large in hindsight lol

so we order, have our food. He gets his double cheeseburger and finishes it. I’m eating my burger and fries… he then proceeds to take a few gulps of my drink and almost half my fries.

I made the point that if he wanted some he should’ve ordered them himself!!!
his response was he didn’t want any at the time…
my response is.. I never do it to him, I always order mine and eat mine. I wouldn’t take his food without asking or being offered (I did not offer!)
he agreed, he said I never do that and he’s grateful for it (the cheek!)

obviously this isn’t a make or break situation, just light hearted. I’m not a monster who kicked off. I just made the point that you should order your own sides!
it’s not that I can’t share, I ordered just enough of what I wanted - could’ve got some sharing fries and another drink if I knew he was going to do this!

AIBU or is he?

Yes that what we normally do -one gets a meal or large meal. Plus extra burger.

But it's agreed upfront we are sharing.

I would have pointedly ordered a second fries and drink to replace the purloined items.

And agreeing to share is completely different. The issue with covert piggery is that, unlike the perpetrator, the victim doesn't get agency in deciding how much food they want. They order under a misapprehension.

I loathe cross-eating at any time and people who won’t order what they want are the pits.

Yanbu I don't share food #teamjoey

sometimes i order large to cover this angle

Thursday. I'm eating the last four finger KitKat in the packet. DH "can I have some of that, just one finger?" Me "no you can't" there was a quite prolonged silence...

My TED talk for the day:

"If your OH steals your food from you and you need to put a stop to it, be environmentally conscious. Plant endangered plants on top of the plot so that it will be illegal to dig them up. You're welcome."

My DH can be like this with pudding so now I assume he wants to share

If I’m happy to share I will order one pudding and if I don’t want to share, I order two and either share both or give him the one that I least fancy.

If he doesn’t want one then I have two 🤓

Covert piggery is my new favourite phrase. 🐖

And under the endangered plants, on top of the body bury and animal carcass so if the police do dig they assume the sniffer dog smelt the animal body and don't dig any further

now this is why you need to take a (sharpened) fork with you when you go out to eat somwhere that does not provide them. usually just laying it on the tabkle beside your food is enough.

My partner once offered a friend chips off my plate because he turned up early to meet us from a restaurant while we were finishing a meal. His friend said that if looks could kill, there'd have been a funeral to arrange. I may not always be able to finish my meal due to my health issues, but that's my decision, no one else's! And chips, given time, I can nibble away at and finish. 😊

Excellent advice! I will add that part to my next TED talk. 😆😉

Reminds me of my dh when we went shopping. When I was buying treats (ice cream/crisps/chocolate) I always asked him what he wanted. Nearly always said nothing, so I just got what I wanted. However, more often than not, when I went to get my “treat” it was gone. If I moaned to him (which I did), he would just say “you hadn’t eaten it, so thought you didn’t want it”. No, I hadn’t eaten it, as we only did the weekly shopping yesterday!

Plus if we both wanted crisps, I would get a cheese and onion multipack, while he got prawn. What did he do, yes he ate the cheese and onion ones , so I would go into the cupboard to open my crisps to find them open and only 1 or 2 packets left. The prawn ones…..not open yet! If I complained, he would say “I just fancied cheese and onion, but I don’t mind you having some of my prawn ones.” I loathed prawn crisps and he knew it!

Men 🤬😤

I feel like I’m in the minority but myself and my DH share food and drinks all the time. It’s really common for one of us to buy sides and the other will help themselves 😬 after all, sharing is caring 😂

No, the saying is ‘ordering what you want to eat so that you don’t have to eat someone else’s food is caring’.

I will share food. With certain people we sometimes agree to order different food and switch plates half way through- especially deserts.

But the day someone reaches across and takes food from my plate or glass uninvited is the day they are dead to me.🤬

My dh used to do this with chips from the chinese takeaway. He started off by hinting that they looked nice, so I put a few on his plate, then asking 'is that all I get then?' I told him that they were my chips which I had ordered because I wanted them and frankly I wanted all of them and he was lucky I was polite and gave him any. Next time, he decided to dish the food up (first time ever possibly) and gave himself at least half. That was it. I took all my chips back and accidently some of his food as well. After this he did learn and now orders his own. I don't care about chippie chips but chinese chips are sacred!

Ok this is wholly unacceptable!!!

for me its the egg fried rice thats my hill so to speak

Same and I’ll offer if I’m overfaced but that’s my choice!

I love how you haven't forgotten his outrageous behaviour 50 years later 😂😂😂

Well I really appreciate my DP tonight!

He knows I have a small appetite but my eyes are always bigger then my belly so I usually order more then I can eat. He never asks for bites, takes food off my plate or hints for my food even when he’s finished and he knows I likely won’t. He waits till I put my knife and fork down and say I’ve had enough, then he checks several times I mean it then tucks in.

The only thing was it backfired last week, we went for a meal and I ordered steak which was expensive, he wanted the same but knows I usually leave half so ordered a burger (his second best choice)
However… on this occasion the steak was absolutely amazing, I let DP try some (which in hindsight was cruel) then for the first time in years I finished my meal! I struggled a bit with the last few bites and did offer them, DP said he just couldn’t take me up on it because he knew I must be enjoying it to have eaten that much.

Well the steak was obviously on his mind because less than a week later he’s taken me to the same place tonight and ordered it for himself!

He has his faults but I’m actually feeling the love for him right now knowing he could be the kind of evil monster who would steal my food regularly.

@LookItsMeAgain @LauderSyme Some said crispy means fizzy so it’s a fizzy Coke, but I thought it was someone trying to say “crisp, ice cold Coke” because she did said “crispy iced cold Coke.” And “crisp ice cold” is a way they market a lot of drinks (beer, water, etc).