Order what you want and don’t eat others unless offered!

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Just a lighthearted one…

A debate came up between me and dh. I wanted to see what others think.

here’s the backstory.
I love my food, I have a good appetite. So does dh.

we ordered burgers the other day. He decided he just wanted a burger, no fries, no drink.
I love a fountain drink (pregnancy craving too!) and fries are a must.
so I order a whole meal, regret not ordering a large in hindsight lol

so we order, have our food. He gets his double cheeseburger and finishes it. I’m eating my burger and fries… he then proceeds to take a few gulps of my drink and almost half my fries.

I made the point that if he wanted some he should’ve ordered them himself!!!
his response was he didn’t want any at the time…
my response is.. I never do it to him, I always order mine and eat mine. I wouldn’t take his food without asking or being offered (I did not offer!)
he agreed, he said I never do that and he’s grateful for it (the cheek!)

obviously this isn’t a make or break situation, just light hearted. I’m not a monster who kicked off. I just made the point that you should order your own sides!
it’s not that I can’t share, I ordered just enough of what I wanted - could’ve got some sharing fries and another drink if I knew he was going to do this!

AIBU or is he?

The night I met my DH he witnessed a fierce falling out between me and a friend who didn't want chips then tried to help herself to mine.

She said she hadn't ordered any as she only wanted a few and didn't think it would be a problem. I wanted all of the chips I ordered. All of them!

If she only wanted a few she could have asked if I wanted to share or ordered some and just eaten what she wanted. But I was Not Happy that she decided I would be sharing without asking.

I'm actually in DH's camp on this. I like a few fries with a burger, but a whole serve of fries for one person - even though they are sold as a single person serve - is vastly more fat, salt and calories and general unhealthy goop than one person should eat at one time, especially with something that's already fairly high in fat and carbs like a burger. His mistake was not saying at the beginning "let's get one serve of fries to share".

Re the drink, even if you don't want to order a drink you ask for tap water? Of course you need some liquid with a salty meal.

But he didn't ask first, that is the point and the problem. He just assumed and decided on behalf of someone else which is pretty rude

Dh learnt early on that nobody touches my food upon pain of death. Now my appetite is not what it was I do actually ask him if he wants certain items of my plate. We do sometimes share a dessert or he will offer me some of his dessert but I only have a couple of spoonfuls as I'm not really supposed to for health reasons.

You are definitely not being unreasonable. I would be cross too.

I think it's partly a chip thing. A lot of people seem to think that chips are a communal food and that it's OK to take them off another person's plate. Why? Would they break off a bit of pie from your plate if they fancy it? Would they pick at the bits of salad from someone else's plate? I don't think they would. So why us it OK to do it with chips?

DH did this to me once so I always order him extra fries now to prove a point 😂

If anything, the person helping themselves to someone else's food without invitation should be detained until they prove they can be trusted out in society.

I know a few people like this. Regardless, they have to have some of what you are eating. It is about power, not hunger.

Is that a fountain "all you can drink" drink?

If so, YABU not to cheat the system by sharing a drink as £4 for a glass of sprite is outrageous (looking at you Nandos)

However, it would be his last drink as I'd bury him under the patio if he tried to eat my chips

patio time

Yep me too. If you touch my food you will end with a fork through your hand.

Then he should have ordered his own and given what he didn't want to his pregnant partner. Obviously.

You make that decision for other adults?

Remarkable!!!

But the OP didn’t want one fries to share. She wanted her own fries. So that wouldn’t have been a solution.

I am exactly like you in this situation. I am also pregnant and could not imagine DH or anyone taking my food 😂 unless they want a very pregnant reaction

Someone attempting that when I was pregnant would have lost the hand. You were very restrained, OP!

Yanbu

Taking a fry isn’t so bad but half of them is worse than cheeky

But most of us want our full portion that we ordered.
I can't stand people who do this "I didn't want any at the time"
Or when they eat your snacks and say "well I didn't want any when you went shopping"

Sorry but what is a crispy coke?

And no yanbu BUT you do realise your child-to-be may very well want what's on your plate rather than what's on theirs?

My DH wouldn’t dare do this.

Athough he will order a fountain Coke for me (it just tastes so much better than from a can!) and a tap water for him, and then try to grab some of my coke. Tight git.

I hate it when people do that OP.
Especially when they are all smug and virtuous with their mini skinny portions and make you feel like a greedy so and so for ordering the amount you honestly feel you could eat, and all the while eyeing up your lovely fries.
The cheek of it!

My husband does this.

do you want a drink?

no I’m good, I’ll just have a sip of yours.

o rly!

I'm really grossed out by other people drinking from my cup/bottle and I would never eat leftovers off kids plate etc so that would totally give me the ick.

I vaguely remember a bad case of impetigo going round the school when I was 5 and the 'sharing' kids all caught it, think that put me off for life!

Stab him with a rusty fork. It’s the only response.