Me and ex took dc to playground in pub. Dc is 2. It was late afternoon and neither of us were drinking. We had mentioned on the way that we might both get a coke or lemonade as it was hot.
We got to the bar and the lady asked what we wanted but sort of looked more towards me and so I said a coke please. She immediately turned round to get it and then put it on the bar and turned to look at ex for his order. He had a miserable look on his face and ordered a coke. The lady went to get it and then put the bill through.
I was astonished by how rude ex came across and when out of earshot of the staff I asked why he thought it was ok to barely say thank you to the bar staff. He said I was the one who was rude and that I knew he wanted a soft drink too and why didn’t I turn to him to ask what he wanted before I ordered my own drink.
I didn’t really know what to say so just said that the staff member had looked at me and so I told her what I wanted and reminded him at the same time that I was also checking dd was ok and not running off etc. He said it was very rude and it’s normal to ask the person you are with what they want first, even where the bar staff have made eye contact with one of you (yes I am exhausted typing this as it seems so petty!).
I said regardless, it wasn’t the staff member’s fault and there was no need to be rude to them if he had a problem with me.
(As to why I am at the pub with ex, we take dd out once a week together which we both consider to be nice for her. I know I don’t have to spend time with him and I am questioning it after this behaviour too as it’s not a one off).
AIBU? Was I rude?! I did think perhaps if I was with a friend then I would have asked what they wanted first. It makes my head spin to be honest.