to LOATHE the word "Situationship"?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Its nonsensical!

Surely its "Going out with...."

So you have Dating ( going on dates, maybe sleeping together but not exclusive), then Going Out With (not living together,but not seeing other people and developing/developed feelings), then Relationship (for me this is more than 6 months but less than 2 years because...) then Long Term Relationship (whether living together/married or not).

Its a bloody stupid word. To me it would mean, if I had to define it, people who have been in a LTR but have to stay in their current arrangement for practical reasons, such a cant afford to run two homes or their house wont sell or similar. The first few times I read it, I assumed that that was what it meant and had to Google it.

Probably going to be told IABU but it really bugs me!

Its a stupid word and I cringe when I hear it. Normally means theyre having sex with someone and filled with angst because they want commitment but their sex partner doesn't. & they can't accept that. Its right up there with grown men and women actually writing "It's Complicated" as their FB status.

I quite like it and am surprised it's taken this long to become a word. It seems so obvious now it exists even though I'm not sure when it's meant to be used. I'd assume it's that stage when you're not quite sure if you're in a relationship yet. Or an affair.

I’ve heard it used outside of any attraction based relationship- so odd platonic situations - still gives me the cringe tho.

I'm not certain I'd understand that differentiation between dating and going out with, but I do agree that "situationship" looks silly. I'd assume it was another version of "it's complicated" (also strange, imo) and/or a FWB situation.

I also find the term and concept of exclusive weird.

It's another word that is used to give the impression of intelligence where there is little, and to try and label every aspect of life
Completely nonsensical

It was easier when you were asked on a date and thereafter were boyfriend/girlfriend until you lived together (partner) or got married.

It’s one of those words which have become meaningless because it’s been used out of context so much- originally it seemed to imply a relationship or friendship that is highly dependent on circumstances and wouldn’t endure beyond those particular circumstances. An extreme example would be you both work on a 2 man oil rig with no Wi-Fi 🤣. Or that person you chat to for an hour when your dc has ballet, but you know if your dc quit ballet you’d never see them again.

It’s for people who are a booty call but can’t admit it.

I can understand if you don’t like the word.

But then the fact you offer ‘Going out with’ as the legitimate alternative probably just tells me you grew up in a certain era and haven’t accepted that life moves on.

The reality is most ‘situationships’ are most definitely not ‘going out’ anywhere together. It’s mostly a hanging out at each others homes on and off and a relationship conducted over messages that doesn’t really develop.

This is how I’ve always thought of it too. A relationship (not necessarily romantic) that is driven mainly by the situation around it.

Totally with you on this. I hate it too. Just say you’re dating someone, fgs.

I agree. It's a stupid word.

But you've missed out so many options @PyongyangKipperbang 🤣

By your definition, I'm in a LTR with my FWB. I'm really not, as it's not exclusive (another word I hate) and the word relationship implies we have commitment to each other. We don't. We hang out to have fun and have sex.

I tell people "The man I'm seeing..." Suitably vague.

Why would you hate the word ‘exclusive’?
How bizarre.

Because for most people "exclusive" is the norm of where a relationship is heading and should be implicit when "going out with someone." (Using op's terms) It's used about every relationship when it doesn't need to be imo.

Interestingly, I don't mind "not exclusive", as that tells me something about your relationship is different to the norm.

To me, saying our LTR is exclusive is the same as saying my water is wet.

I’m not sure I have the energy to loathe it, but it shouldn’t be used by anyone over the age of 18.

But you're not necessarily dating them?
You could describe what I have as a situationship. It's been 2 years, no commitment, none wanted on either side. We are not dating. A long term fuck buddy if you prefer.

I thought situationship meant a sort of non-commital relationship, half romantic in nature, but with a bunch of angst and upset and confusion involved. Usually when one likes the other and would be with them, but the other just wants sex/attention, but hasn't exactly been open about that fact - yet continues to accept or invite the sex and attention. So they're just stuck in this weird limbo not going anywhere - cant really be described as "going out".

Looking at these posts, looks like I'm wrong 🤣

I hate it when people refer to a random person they're getting to know as their partner. It's mainly women who do this although not always, men can be just as desperate not to be single. I've seen plenty of threads on here with similar partner references.

'My partner of 5 months hates my dd, AIBU to stay with him?' The amount of threads I've read on here from these idiots, it is unbelievable. Maybe situantionship would be a better word to use then relationship in this context.

It fills a function. I wasn't "going out with, in a relationship etc". So to me and my peers the phrase describes what I was in at the time 🤷‍♀️.

If you don't like the word then don't use it but you don't get to police other people's language or classification of their interactions with others.

I would describe that as a casual LTR. It’s casual because you have no romantic interest in each other, long term because it’s been two years.

That's what it means to me too... BTW I actually like it and think it describes something fairly specific

An ex of mine said he was in a situationship with the woman he'd been living with and sleeping with for nine years. Completely ridiculous.

Actors use locationship basically to.mean this. You are only together due to circumstances

People using that word are not to be taken seriously. Yes, it seems ridiculous if an adult would use it so YANBU.