to LOATHE the word "Situationship"?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Its nonsensical!

Surely its "Going out with...."

So you have Dating ( going on dates, maybe sleeping together but not exclusive), then Going Out With (not living together,but not seeing other people and developing/developed feelings), then Relationship (for me this is more than 6 months but less than 2 years because...) then Long Term Relationship (whether living together/married or not).

Its a bloody stupid word. To me it would mean, if I had to define it, people who have been in a LTR but have to stay in their current arrangement for practical reasons, such a cant afford to run two homes or their house wont sell or similar. The first few times I read it, I assumed that that was what it meant and had to Google it.

Probably going to be told IABU but it really bugs me!

YABU and I suspect you have not had the pleasure of dating recently 🥲

I don’t find it cringe at all, I define “situationship” as a relationship that can’t be define with the usual terms (dating, boyfriend, lover or partner).

This has made me feel really past it. I have never even heard of the word.

I'd never use the word, but I think it can be useful.

Eg. I have a situationship (argh cringe) with a man who is much too young for what I'm really looking for, which is marriage, but we like each other and hang out and sometimes have sex. It will end when one/both of us finds an appropriate person for a real relationship.

It fills a gap for people with situations that don't fall within any of your boxes. Often used by people who themselves either don't know how to describe the thing, maybe they're unsure, or being kept guessing; or who feel uncomfortable with the other terms because they don't quite fit. If there was no call for it, I suppose it wouldn't have become part of the language.

Never heard it before. Seems like nonsense to me. As does "exclusive". I'd expect anyone asking me out on dates to only be dating me. But then again, I'm 55 - we "went out" in my youth, and my parents word "courting" was cringy. I feel a lot if these words are get out clauses for cheats and users.

I read “situationship” (or “It’s Complicated”) as “I have poor boundaries / low self-esteem”.

@OfcourseitsaNC sums it up perfectly.

If you are in a relationship then being exclusive should be the norm!

I refer to them as my gentlemen callers 😃

Yes, this. But it can be applicable to sexual relationships that are similarly dependent on circumstances/situations. Like aeons ago (long before the term was coined), I had a friend who lived nearby, and we slept together on a fairly regular basis when we were both single (FWB, but again, before the term existed). When I moved to a different part of London, the sex stopped, because it would have taken us an hour or more to travel to one another, though we’re still friends, and he came to my wedding.

This is the first time I've heard it, and I hate it.

In a situationship with a fella and going on hollibobs with his famalam.

Get out.

Internally screaming 🤣🤣🤣

This is exactly how anybody i know would describe the word!!

I don't mind the term at all, but sad for anybody in one

I agree, but it’s all so complicated nowadays. I do think friends with benefits/fuck buddy situations are rarely completely even - more often than not one wants to be in a proper relationship and the other doesn’t.

casual relationships can be convenient and not everyone wants to get into a “serious relationship” with someone they’re having sex. By Stating that casual relationships are a sign of low self esteem you’re making a point that sex should only be conducive to marriage or monogamy. You must be religious, naive or quite narrow minded.

When I was happily married I felt so sorry for people having to go on the apps etc. and the idea of casual sex at my age repulsed me (no judgement of anyone else at all).

I've now been single 7 years and I only want a serious relationship leading to marriage (a happy one this time). But good single middle aged men are hard to find. If I didn't have the occasional fwb/"situationship" I'd never have sex. I've gone 2-3 years without it at a time and it's just awful and the hopelessness just grows.

Sorry for the ramble but I wanted to explain why, although it's very far from ideal for me, I will sometimes have casual sex. I'd rather meet a lovely man today to be with for the rest of my life.

P.S. I thought I was happily married! Was in denial.

We used to say you were 'seeing' someone before you'd been out enough times to move to the 'going out with' stage.

Agree @PyongyangKipperbang 'Situationship' is a stupid word. I hate it too!

I don't think it's a word I'd use out loud, but it does sum up that situation where you're "involved" with someone, would quite like it to go somewhere, know it won't, but also don't want to walk away.

I don't think it's the same as "going out with" or "seeing someone". They both suggest early days of a realtionship that may develop.

A situationship is something far less posituve/healthy IMO.

No, you’re quite wrong. I have no issue with casual relationships, but the term “situationship” to me implies that one party wants more than they are getting yet are hanging around anyway.

For casual relationships where everyone is on board with them not going anywhere, we have the terms FWB or fuck buddies.

Verv
In a situationship with a fella and going on hollibobs with his famalam
Get out
😂

Indeed. Only ever heard it spoken of by a 21 yr old friend of my DCs. She was regailing ppl with her love /sex life. 😒