to LOATHE the word "Situationship"?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Its nonsensical!

Surely its "Going out with...."

So you have Dating ( going on dates, maybe sleeping together but not exclusive), then Going Out With (not living together,but not seeing other people and developing/developed feelings), then Relationship (for me this is more than 6 months but less than 2 years because...) then Long Term Relationship (whether living together/married or not).

Its a bloody stupid word. To me it would mean, if I had to define it, people who have been in a LTR but have to stay in their current arrangement for practical reasons, such a cant afford to run two homes or their house wont sell or similar. The first few times I read it, I assumed that that was what it meant and had to Google it.

Probably going to be told IABU but it really bugs me!

So from this thread I have go that a Situationship seems to mean two people having what is, on the surface, a normal BF/GF relationship but one wont/cant commit and the other doesnt have the self respct to say "OK" and walk away.

Situationship=desperately hoping that I will be the one they want to change their lives for, because I am forking over the sex with no demands but pretending I am cool with that, even though I am not.

And it is still a fucking stupid word.

Those days were much simpler!
These days everything just seems unnecessarily complicated. Cant stand it

I think it's a great word.

You have a situation with someone. You are having sex or close to it with them. But for whatever potential myriad reasons, it can't translate (at the moment, if ever) into a publicly definable relationship. Maybe that's to do with one or the other's commitment, maybe life situation, whatever. It's complicated, but you like each other enough to be meeting and getting close.

I think it's cool there's a word to describe all that.

I think it's great! I love the words teens come up with for things. Very apt, generally!!

Nailed it.

I think it's a great word. No cap! I love how language evolves and is recreated.

I saw it on here for the first time the other day and did puzzle over it. It sounds as convoluted as the situation it's presumably trying to convey

I agree it's a silly word and not used by everyone to mean the same thing. I don't really know what it means apart from implies no affection and could easily be replaced by "just shagging".

Maybe if things work out and you become exclusive and he’ll be your hubs/hubster!

Yeah but this is like friends with benefits too.

Vomit

Friends with benefits suggests to me that everyone involved is generally happy with how things are.

Well it is quite obvious your version is right because the idea that grown adults don't want the xyz of a relationship must be to do with low self esteem!

Eh no, I am very happy in my situationship, I am nearly 50 and I enjoy life on my terms only now. I don't want a relationship, I don't want anyone being brought into my teens life. I really don't want nor need exclusivity.

Why do you see sex as currency? I don't have sex to gain anything other than pleasure for me and the person with me. You describe a person as having as wanting more, that isn't my reality.

So I will be keeping the word because it describes my reality. Maybe consider how unhappy you must be if you are so judgemental on others choices.

I don't think that's what people are saying at all.....
It definitely doesn't describe my situation.