To ask if anyone has found menopause just fine?

GalileoHumpkins · 14/05/2024 09:59

Apart from hot flushes (which are unpleasant but manageable) I've been fine. I occasionally forget a word but my brain is still very much not wrong. I continue to learn new things with no problems.

pointythings · 14/05/2024 10:01

I think the impact of menopause has always been understated because women aren't allowed pain and difficulties. We just have to soldier on and are routinely dismissed by medics if we do complain. That is slowly, slowly changing.

That said, I am one of those women who had a really easy menopause. It runs in the family. It just makes me more supportive of the majority who are not so lucky.

Sahara123 · 14/05/2024 10:02

Me ! I had a Mirena coil in for years and didn’t have periods so wasn’t aware of what was happening. After a blood test showed menopause was done it was taken out and off I went. Also from a small consensus of similar aged women at work, not too bad , hot sweats mainly but no, not too bad at all.

Misthios · 14/05/2024 10:05

Yes! Some women do go through the menopause without any noticeable symptoms whatsoever. Lucky them!!

Until you get there, you don't know how it's going to affect you. Brain fog has not been an issue for me so far, but on the other hand anxiety/depression, vaginal atrophy and insomnia very much have.

The best advice is to be aware of the potential symptoms and have an open mind to making lifestyle changes or HRT if you think you need them.

BibbleandSqwauk · 14/05/2024 10:09

I'm 48 so keep expecting it but periods are regular. Can't lose weight, despite really trying but not noticeable loss of memory or speed of thought.

maximist · 14/05/2024 10:10

I was fine until I turned 53. Then I really wasn't. HRT is helping.

TinDogTavern · 14/05/2024 10:11

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha h ha ha

No.

bridgetreilly · 14/05/2024 10:12

Yes, it can be fine, but it would be really silly to expect that you will be one of them. Most people have some symptoms and some people have really bad symptoms.

OmuraWhale · 14/05/2024 10:12

Ok so far! I'm 50.

SherbetDips · 14/05/2024 10:12

ChristmasGutPunch · 14/05/2024 09:56

Another day another article about how I can expect my brain to fall out my ear any day now. "I forgot how to do my job!" and so forth. I'm sanguine about ageing (saggy jaw aside) but I really don't want to become wrong in the head so young. Please can you reassure me it's ok for some women??

My relative decided it wasn’t going to affect her and it didn’t 😜

Eventmrs · 14/05/2024 10:15

I was also fairly lucky, but looking back I did have obvious symptoms but I was completely oblivious and just thought I was going mad.

10 years ago I was in a really high positioned job in finance. I had worked extremely hard to get to this level and suddenly I had anxiety and lost confidence in myself. I put it down to stress of work. Some days I did not want to leave my bedroom, never mind my house. However I was going through a really challenging time at work, budgets, presentations, travelling up and down the country and put it all down to this.

Looking back now I know what it was. I have not had a period for over 3 years now and the only symptom I get now are hot flushes. I hate the fact I went through it all totally obliviously, due to my lack of awareness. I just blamed myself - imposter syndrome.

I'm glad there is more support and awareness now, as I genuinely lost all my confidence. I am now in a slightly lower level finance job, with no stress, which I love, but looking back now it was a crazy time.

OlderandwiserMaybe · 14/05/2024 10:16

I am just coming up to 52 and I totally see where you are coming from. Every day you see a article or tick tock about how awful the perimenopause/ menopause is. I have younger friends (no where near this stage in life) who are already worried about what may happen to them.

For me i've (so far) been ok. My periods are totally unpredictable. (in terms of flow, length and regularity) A couple I had very severe cramps but mostly no other issues. No flushes, my brain still seems to function pretty well :) I've sometimes been more emotionally than I would normally have been.

Only issue I've had is a Frozen Shoulder which has been genuinely awful - but although there are links to perimenopause there's no proof thats actually what caused mine.

Teaandcaramelwafer · 14/05/2024 10:16

No sorry, the heavier flooding periods part seems less spoken about in the media.

SnakesAndArrows · 14/05/2024 10:16

Not too bad here. Pretty unpleasant anxiety at times, and some insomnia, but now out the other side pretty much as I was before, but with more grey hair and much less inclination to care what other people think of me.

I know I have been lucky and do not want to minimise what others have had to endure.

AnchorWHAT · 14/05/2024 10:19

Luckily for me i was fine, periods got irregular then stopped, a few hot sweats but nothing else, i did take menopace tablets and that seemed to reduce the flushes.

OriginalFloorboards · 14/05/2024 10:19

Hitting me age 51 but not allowed HRT or anything hormonal due to a medical condition. Mainly mood swings.

I’ve had the odd hot flash, nothing major. My mood swings are bad but I’m going through grief. It’s kind of amplified them.

Definitely noticed anxiety over jumping my young horse, but have had a fair few falls…which I’ve not experienced with other horses so again…not sure if it’s natural fear of breaking my neck or not.

Possibly an age thing but I no longer worry what people think of me. I was always a people pleaser and this has stopped. Again, could be a mix of losing a parent and age.

Mum sailed through it. Her sister had a terrible time.

Was hoping periods would stop. Had a break of a few months then bam. I got so excited too.

Had huge libido increases which was a nightmare, seems contained to normality at the moment. It overtook my brain.

Desden · 14/05/2024 10:20

I almost feel bad saying this, but apart from not having periods anymore, I didn't get any other symptoms at all. I realise that I was very lucky in this respect.

starlight36 · 14/05/2024 10:21

At 51 I still have regular periods - they are sometimes very heavy but nothing horrendous. Weight is harder to shift but no other major offences so far.
My DM really suffered from hormonal rage - it unfortunately coincided with my DB and I both reaching stroppy teenage age so I remember it quite well as a pretty unpleasant time for all unconcerned. I have been quite aware that if I start showing the same symptoms I need to get help as it was pretty hard-going (DM was old-school and wouldn't look for interventions). So far I seem to be Ok but fully intend to seek help if I need to. I know all of the press makes it seem quite scary but at least we now have lots more resources available.

rwa818 · 14/05/2024 10:21

Yes! My mum had a few symptoms and thought she was "about to start" the menopause for about a year but then suddenly it was all over.
I'm hoping for the same!

gamerchick · 14/05/2024 10:22

How was your mother's menopause OP? Usually a good gauge. Not perfect as no 2 are the same I don't think.

SnuffyAndBigBird · 14/05/2024 10:23

I had a horrendous peri menopause with no information. I had flooding, high anxiety, insomnia and extreme claustrophobia. I tried HRT but the progesterone tablets made me depressed. Then I asked for a Mirena coil and it transformed me. I don’t take oestrogen and just have the coil.

I don’t know where I am on the journey as the coil shut down my cycle.

Also I began really, really, looking after myself. I nurture myself. I treat ME like I would one of my kids. Only the best for me, I avoid stress, I treat myself nicely. I exercise like a demon, take vitamins, eat good food.

You need to get in front of it, be prepared for a dip. TBH I feel better now in my 50’s than I’ve ever felt.

I’d even go as far as saying I feel liberated and happier plus I don’t give a shiny shit what anyone thinks of me.

If I could give you one tip it would be to take up loads of exercise. Running, weights, yoga, swimming….whatever. Do it early in the day. I go first thing and I’m high on endorphins all day and sleep like a baby.

Mycatsmudge · 14/05/2024 10:29

Most symptoms: hot flushes, fatigue, irritation I could manage but what drove me to HRT was waking up regularly at 2am and unable to get back to sleep again most days of the week. After 6 months of existing on 4 hours sleep a night I tried HRT which gave almost instant relief and 7 hours sleep most nights.

TroysMammy · 14/05/2024 10:30

My brain is sharper than it has been. I can absorb and relay information easily, sometimes one word will trigger it. I can remember names, recognise people and sometimes their voices automatically. No sweat drenching flushes but I am now a little fatty. I was on the pill and stopped taking it just before I was 55. No mood swings either as I've always been even tempered and a misery guts.

MrsSkylerWhite · 14/05/2024 10:31

Only one symptom, hot flushes. Effectively treated by GP. No other issues.

parkrun500club · 14/05/2024 10:32

Other than periods being all over the place and odd hot flush which lasts a few seconds, I seem to be ok. My last period was in April but they only come about every three months now.

My mum had a hysterectomy so I can't compare myself with her, but she went on HRT after the operation.