To think it’s weird to marry your ex’s brother

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Honestly I know it’s not any of my business and I don’t really care, but I have an utterly gorgeous friend, who I love dearly. Who married her ex boyfriends brother, pretty quickly after breaking up. and occasionally it just crossed my mind and I’m baffled by it after almost a decade.
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none of my bloody business and I’ll stay in my lane but am I weird for occasionally thinking this is odd.

Some people like to keep it in the family.

I couldn't even kiss someone related to my ex, or someone who had dated my sister, that's just wrong. Even worse when you think of having sex with somene whose been with your sibling.

I know someone who did this and had a baby with each brother. So the babies, who are both boys, are simultaneously half-brothers and cousins.

Christmas dinner must be very awkward!

I know a widower who married his SIL's sister (his brother's wife's sister) several years after his wife died of cancer. The sh*t really hit the fan and now, over 10 years later, most of the family still aren't speaking. The next generation down, the cousins (including his DC), are all fine with it and each other.

All I can say to this is OMG

It's not unheard of. It can ruin sibling relationships and cause resentment. My partner had a gf 10 years ago which lasted 6 months. It ended. Then she ended up with his brother. She has had a child with said brother. Partner does not like brother for this reason and does not talk to him.

My sister did this and married the second brother after the death of the first brother.

Short term relationship in early 20s, no kids, I could just about understand it. But otherwise, no.

Nah it's fine to keep it in the family

See I heard of this bloke called Oedipus, married this old dead bloke's widow, and it was all great and turned out absolutely ine i - no wait...hang on....

My step mum (Dads wife) was originally married to his brother.

The saying 'If you can't keep it in the fly keep it in the family' springs to mind.

I try not to judge with alot of things but yes that's revolting!

Christmas must be fun at their house! Some people must just love drama, as there are millions of other people in the world so why them?

I know someone who had several children with the younger brother after breaking up with the first brother. It must be beyond awkward. I could just never go there. There are enough men in the world.

I know someone who married her ex's ex-step father.

I know someone who married his wife's sister. It was all sorts of weird. His wife was murdered (not by him!) and a few years later he married her sister. One of his daughters was fine about it and but i don't think the other daughter even went to the wedding

I would find this awkward around family get togethers....

So, I can see how if the love of your life has died, somebody who looks very similar and knows exactly what you are going through might start to look appealing (I personally wouldn’t, but I can understand it).

Divorcing one brother and then shagging the other? Bleugh

Also wtf is the brother thinking? Talk about fucking disloyalty.

I know someone who dated a guy for a few months and realised she really liked his brother and had a lot in common. She ended it with the guy not saying the reason was because she liked his brother.
Weeks later her ex contacted her and asked if she had feelings for his brother, she admitted she did and he said his brother also admitted he had feelings for her and that if they wanted to date then he gave them his blessing. Next day brother phoned and asked her out.
6 years later they are happily married, with 2 kids. They have made it work with the family and the ex evens jokes that it was fate he brought them together. He is now engaged himself.

I know of one case. He was abusive and she stayed with him until their daughter was about 3 before fleeing. The brothers hated each other and were estranged, she hadn't met him before. Once news had gotten out she had been abused by him, the brother contacted her with an offer of financial help and emotional support. Long story short they fell in love, married and had a daughter. They're a very nice family!

Sorry but have I got this wrong as I can't see too much wrong with this.
His brothers wife would have been no blood relation to his wife, and her sister even less so if I'm reading it right

I know of someone who, following the sudden and unexpected death of her husband (2 children together), went on to have - and still has - a relationship with his brother, and they have 2 children together. There is a fairly big age gap between the 'sets' of children and they all just consider themselves siblings, but the two 'sets' are also technically cousins.

I personally think it's somewhat strange, but by all accounts they're happy, kids are happy, all parents/in-laws are happy...that's all that matters I suppose.

I know a widower who married his SIL's sister (his brother's wife's sister) several years after his wife died of cancer

I’m not seeing the problem here tbh - brother’s wife’s sister isn’t a conflict of loyalties especially if the original wife was dead. An affair I can see causing trouble. Who was upset, the brother? What reason did he give?

I can imagine thinking “FFS DBro, when you two split up Christmas dinner is going to be a fucking nightmare”, but I wouldn’t fall out with him about it.

Many years ago, my mum’s second cousin brought the woman he was interested in home to meet his widowed father. She was some years older than he was, and actually ended up married to his dad. Apparently the son stayed living at home for some years after because his late mother had said it would always be his home so he wasn’t shifting!

This was all well before I was born, so I don’t know if they were actually a couple or she was just someone he was interested in. The only one of them I ever met was the father, at a family funeral at least 30 years after all this, who by then was a charming elderly man. I must ask my mum for the details one of these days!

Henry VIII married his widowed sister-in-law, and look how that turned out.