To think it’s weird to marry your ex’s brother

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Honestly I know it’s not any of my business and I don’t really care, but I have an utterly gorgeous friend, who I love dearly. Who married her ex boyfriends brother, pretty quickly after breaking up. and occasionally it just crossed my mind and I’m baffled by it after almost a decade.
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none of my bloody business and I’ll stay in my lane but am I weird for occasionally thinking this is odd.

Emma Grundy?

To be fair, he had to get special dispensation from the pope to do that, as they were seen as too closely related. And those were the grounds he used for divorcing her later - claimed the marriage was never actually legally valid due to consanguinity.

This doesn't seem as bad? It's two brothers married to two sisters?

Emma Grundy on the Archers....

Also, it wasn't like his brother was around to be upset, was it? Not like the OP's situation, which I would find just as weird as she does.

(Re. Henry: it was weirder that he'd shagged, and probably impregnated, Ann Boleyn's older sister. He was challenged at one point for having slept with her sister and her mother, and he allegedly blurted out, "Never with the mother!"

And he claimed he wanted to marry AB because Catherine of Aragon had previously shagged his brother, and This Was Very Wrong. )

I know someone who married the identical twin sister after the first sister he was engaged to died

I came here to say that! 😂Mind you that situation did start the ball rolling for us all to be able to divorce today, so I just I do have a smidgeon of gratitude for that at least.

A school friends Mum married her sisters boyfriend, super awkward. The couple went on to have 5 children but the wife was horrible to her husband. He would tell anyone who would listen that he was waiting until their youngest was 18 and he was out of there. He followed through and went on to marry a very nice man!!! The sisters still hate each other, the kids missed out on a relationship with their aunt. The girl ended up sleeping with all her friends partners, it was messed up.

Would you want to hear "Thats not how your brother does it" in the bedroom

I know a couple who did this (part of my husband's extended family). She was with his brother for about 15 years (no children), they broke up and then within 1-2 years started dating the brother. They’ve been together for over 15 years now themselves and couldn’t be more perfect for each other, it did seem strange at the time but it’s just become normal now. It did cause the rest of the immediate family (his mother and siblings) to become estranged from them though and ‘side’ with the brother she was first with. I guess for them it was worth it as they’re so happy now.

@likepebblesonabeach@kiwiandcherries@Saschka

No I can't see anything wrong with it either but it has caused a lot of awkwardness (my point) and a family split, so I can only imagine how marrying an exes brother would go down.

It was actually the SIL's side that seem to be the most upset @Saschka and I suspect the brother got dragged into it all. We thought everyone was on board with their relationship (obviously we were wrong) but when they got engaged a couple of years after they had got together it kicked off. There's another brother who is also blacklisted for going to the wedding. Their parents (my DP's friends) are really upset about it all - they weren't spoken to for a year or so as well.

I've said on here before I married my sisters ex (and got absolutely roasted for it) so it's not that weird to me

I know some one who done the same.
Dose her name start with S and ends with E.

Christ

Oh thank God the quote I posted above isn’t real🤣

That's a whole jerry springer show 😂

My grandad had an affair with (and later married) my nan's brother's wife. They were next door neighbours. And it was long before I was born.

Is your sister Anne Boleyn?

I know someone who did similar, had a baby with brother one, let him and had a baby with brother two, but then a few years later was caught having an affair with brother one and baby three was born, no idea who the biological father of baby three was.

Woah. So your aunt is now your step mum? Did you used to call her auntie? Do you still or fill over to mum?

@Simonjt I know of a similar case which was so confusing you needed a diagram to understand it. Basically it involved a father/stepfather and the son and his halfbrother and 2 sisters. The latter at various times had de facto or de jure marriages with all these men and had children with them. One returned to a previous ex partner and had another couple of children.
Eventually most of the children ended up in care. All parties, though seemed to be on reasonably good terms. They were part of a huge extended family and all this seemed “normal” to them and maybe back before the Welfare State would have gone unnoticed.
Anyone who studies genealogy will know that siblings marrying their spouses’ siblings used to be very common. My grandmother’s brother married my grandfather’s sister. That was back in the 1890’s and I guess there often weren’t the same opportunities for young unmarried folk to meet people outside their own immediate social group.
There was a law against a man marrying his dead wife’s sister that was used as a plot device in 19th Century fiction. The aim was to protect family relationships.

I now someone that ran off with her auntys husband they have been together 25 years got 2 kids together and very happy.
He does however have 3 other kids with her aunt.

I would hate it, because it would mean my ex is still involved (family wise).

Jack Branning in EastEnders too.