To be concerned about this joke?

[Happydontiknowit]

Preface: I’m pregnant and very hormonal so there’s a chance I’m being sensitive, please tell me if so!

DH was on his way to work earlier. I called through to the kitchen, ‘oh, I forgot to take the bin out, would you mind?’

He replied, ‘yeah, don’t worry, already on it’. I went into the kitchen to get my glass of water as he was putting the liner out the bin and I said, ‘I’ve just been shoving the stuff down all day, hope it wasn’t too messy’

He smiled and just said ‘I’ll add it to the divorce list’

He was smiling/laughing while saying it but neither of us has ever joked about divorce before or anything like it. He does always banter about other things as he’s that kind of person who doesn’t take himself too seriously but it really caught me off guard. I asked him why he said it and he hugged me and said he was joking and sorry for the bad joke.

AIBU to still think it was weird to say?

I'd find that funny. Unless there are other problems, I wouldn't worry about it.

You're being sensitive. Understandable, given hormones and the heat, but you are

I’ve just been shoving the stuff down all day, hope it wasn’t too messy’ I would be seething. So you've not emptied it ALL day and just kept adding to it? Why?!!!

This is going to be something you look back on post pregnancy as one of those ‘fucking hell my hormones sent me cuckoo’ moments.

I had a total sobbing meltdown while pregnant about my takeaway order being wrong, my youngest is an adult now and we still hark back to it every time we order.

Everything is going to be okay.

I usually empty it long before that point but I’ve felt under the weather today so haven’t. That’s why

Oh dear. In the nicest possible way, get a grip 🤣

You're being overly insensitive. But you're forgiven for your hormones! Its nothing to get worked up about, promise.

I remember constantly being shitty with people if my food or drinks weren't just the right temperature, even if it wasn't them that prepared or served it. It just put me in an irrationally grumpy mood. I practically had a breakdown when I was delivered an Indian takeaway that wasn't lava hot.

I sound like such an insufferable entitled brat...but that's not the real me. Far from it. I hate bratty attitudes. I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to fight those god awful hormonal urges and stop being such a twat.

Those pregnancy hormones are bastards, OP. Don't listen to them. It was just a lighthearted silly joke and nothing more.

It was just a joke, I really don't think you have any reason to be concerned based just on that.

It's the type of comment dh and I make to each other often. Along with 'oh wow, this must have taken you hours!' (dh to me on getting home from work and seeing our bedroom which I'd seriously deep cleaned and de-cluttered). Then me: 'well there was no way I was inviting my Steve into this room until it was sorted'.

I think he probably meant it was no big deal, hardly grounds for divorce.

Yeah it’s a joke. You’re being sensitive.

YABU OP.

Then ask him to empty it when it's first full. Otherwise you're basically knowingly making it worse. It's lazy.

Thank you for that. It wasn’t the point of my post though.

Definitely just a joke, OP.

I always shove the rubbish down to squeeze more in. And I never do the bins, my DH does. Quick, better call disease control.

Why on earth co you care about someone else’s bins??

Not the point of the thread I know but it shouldn’t it a done deal that he takes the bins out. Surely a pregnant woman shouldn’t be dragging heavy bins down paths.

Have I just gone back 200 years?

I was pumping heavy weights a week or so before I gave birth.

She's pregnant...that's all.

Oh bless you. He sounds really lovely, and it was definitely 100% an innocent joke.

Agree with a PP, you will think back and laugh one day 😁

I think dropping the D word into any conversation is not OK particularly if your wife is pregnant. I assume just a joke but really not ok.

Huh? Does everyone empty the kitchen bin every day?

What the hell do you put in it?

I agree with the pp who say you'll look back on this and laugh. Pregnancy hormones plus heat are quite a combination, just drink lots of fluids and take it easy!!

It’s a joke DH & use, we’ve been married 19 years so far so not another to worry about IMO.

We also joke we’re still married as we made a pact who ever leaves first has to take the kids with them.

Both harmless jokes.

Ffs

I agree it's not really what I'd want to joke about when pregnant, hormonal and already feeling vulnerable, no.

I often tell DH "you can be replaced, you know?"
He knows it's a joke. This sounds to be along the same lines. I wouldn't read anything into it.