To not be keen on son's girlfriend

[MyWildAmberDreamer]

Girlfriend is 22 (son is 21). Son lives with me, his dad and little brother (6). Son and girlfriend both work part time.
Girlfriend has been staying over 2-3 nights a week since they started seeing each other 2 years ago (we put a limit on it when she once ended up here for a whole week with no sign of going home any time). We have tried to be welcoming to her but are lucky if we get a hello from her, let alone a please or thank you. She has literally sat in my kitchen whilst I've been cooking dinner for everyone (including her!) and has barely spoken two words to me despite me trying to talk to her nicely but as soon as son came into room was whispering and giggling with him.
It feels like she thinks our house is a b&b she stays in with her boyfriend and she doesn't have to bother speaking to the staff.
When we spoke to son about it he said she's shy. But last weekend she was reading a 50 shades of grey style book on our sofa whilst our 6 year old (excellent reader!) was in the room with her. I didn't challenge her at the time as I only googled the title after she'd gone and was shocked. Younger son seems to think she's OK as she deigns to talk to him.

What would you do in this situation? Son doesn't seem to think there's an issue, if anything he'd like her here more! There are no signs of them moving in together any time soon. Not sure on longevity of relationship as its son's first 'proper' relationship.

She's rude & has poor upbringing. Kick her out!

You can't change someone's personality, but if two adults are living in your house then you can definitely make them both pay rent. If they don't like it, they can move out into a place of their own..... result! 🙂

You can't say that she has a poor upbringing.

All we know is that she was reading a racy book and is lacking in manners.

I agree that not saying hello to op or please and thank you is very impolite.

Op hasn't said that she's smoking weed in her house and shit on her floor.

That's why I asked what else she'd done to make op dislike her, I'm really intrigued to know.

Exactly. Op clearly has low tolerance and patience. If she was coming in late, causing having in the house or wrecking the place , I dont think many people would put up with it. But not making small talk? Wow

Seriously> you are proclaiming how much you dislike her, and wondering why she doesn’t talk to you, when you can’t stand her, and take issue with the fact she doesn’t like you and now wish your son to move out?

bloody hell.

What on Earth are you on about. The op is the one who doesn’t like her, no wonder the poor woman doesn’t say much.

Time for them to rent their own place.

Until then, tell him she can stay over on Monday night only. The rest of the week is family time.

OP has good reasons to dislike her DS’s girlfriend and has provided free hospitality part of the week for 2 years! GF is rude and OP’s (subsidised) DS too.

I know @OP is the one who doesn't like her and it's her house. The 'poor' woman should find her own place as she doesn't seem to have been brought up with the manners required to live with her boyfriend's mum or anyone frankly.

She may not like or respect you, but she is in your home and eating your food. Basic courtesy should be the minimum response. I’d lose my shit. (Actually have done recently with DD2 about her BF’s behaviour.)

Even if I liked my DS's GF very much (and he dated some wonderful girls) I still wouldn't like her to stay at my house for 3 nights a week. I value my privacy and that includes my immediate family only.

I imagine that they wouldn't be thrilled about me living with them 3 nights a week either, as much as DS loves me. Works both ways.