To be annoyed at being constantly interrupted?

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As the title says.

I feel like it happens a lot... so I not talk loudly enough? Or are people just rude?

I'm sick of it.

My OH and my mum do this constantly with me. I could be half way through a sentence and they will just interrupt me. When I mention it to my mum, she will say, 'we'll you made me remember something so needed to tell you before I forget' my OH, I'll just wait for him to finish now and continue with my own conversation and not reply to what he's got to say. They both know how much it irritates me, and both know it's rude. They do it a lot less now though.

https://www.themuse.com/advice/5-polite-ways-to-deal-with-people-who-notsopolitely-keep-interrupting-you#

Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not alone. There was an incident today and I can't go into details as it will be outing, but it's really upset me. I addressed it later with the person concerned, and they had no idea they had interrupted.. they had done it several times, and I never got to say what I was trying to say.

I find it difficult as it's something I would just never do, as it's so incredibly rude. I think it must have something to do with how people are brought up.

Thanks, that's really helpful

Yes my husband used to do it loads. I have managed to more or less train him out of it buy stopping immediately what I was saying , look away or down until he finished then saying “as I was saying, before interrupted “ and I carried on. He used to get very snippy with me but eventually realised he had been very rude and rarely does it now

Just realised one of my friends at work also does this a lot. Tries to anticipate what I’m about to say.

My DP does it all the time, but he has ASD so I kind of give him a pass on it... and he always asks me to carry on once he has got his point out..

People who don't do that... grrrrr.

I do this all the time. I have ADHD and really cannot help it. If it’s a consolation I feel bad for it when I leave meeting/at home. I try so hard not to do it but have a thought and have to express it :(

For some people, this is the issue...

Yup, it's real

I am so sick of it. It's the worst in online Teams meetings... Makes me want to throttle people

When does it happen? With family? At work?

My mum is a terrible one for this. She is a bulldozer. In my family you have to talk over each other to be heard.

My husband and I both interrupt each other a small amount, but equally, so it doesn’t bother us/ we are lighthearted about it.

At work, people do tend to interrupt each other as it’s a lot of fast paced discussion, but people are very polite and sportsmanlike, lots of “sorry I shouldn’t have interrupted, what were you going to say?” etc and mutual respect.

What I’m trying to say is, sometimes it’s just a communication style between equals and that’s fine. Is the issue that you don’t have the confidence to bring things back around to what you were going to say? Like it throws you off?

“I’m so sorry, was I talking while you were interrupting?”

Today when it happened, I was right in the middle of saying something important / making a point to somebody, and the person that was with me interrupted me mid sentence and asked a question, which changed the subject entirely.

It wasn't possible for me to bring up what I was saying again as they were then talking about something else.

Love this

Or, "I am sorry, did the middle of my sentence get in the way of the beginning of yours?"

Some people are just outright rude cheeky fuckers though. I remember having a conversation with workmate, and someone just came up, butted in and asked him about his holiday plans. Like I was not even there. This happens to me a lot.

As someone who has been known to interrupt and also dislikes when it’s done to me, I would laugh if somebody said this to me, as in I would find it actually funny, and it would remind me I was being rude. I do try not to do it though, as I know how bad it is

Just reading all these examples is winding me up.

I am unfortunately married to a bulldozer.

I find it INCREDIBLY rude. Hopefully i can teach my girls not to do it.

I have a son who has ADHD and interrupts a lot. It drives you up the wall. Obviously we have strategies to try to reduce the interrupting but nothing works 💯 of the time.

Many of my family do it to greater or lesser extent - my parents are both quite bad for it, my dad is worse. I suspect a lot of us have undiagnosed ND, but my dad has this tendency to argue he is objectively right when he’s being ND, which is annoying. So “I never get to speak” when actually he does most of the speaking - he’s only 74… It would be much more understandable if he got a diagnosis (I think he has ASD, he has a lot of traits).

What I find interesting is WHO they interrupt.

Literally everyone, including their boss / their clients / friends who they respect a lot?

Or just a selection of people (the ones who they clearly see as less important than them)?

Because if it's that second one then actually they can fuck off even more.

Oh no, I do this. I'm quite anxious and feel like conversations without interruptions are very stop, starty, so I think I just like to make sure the gap is filled because I don't like the silence. I must be more mindful of it... 👀 I also have 5 siblings so really we just all spoke at once and I didn't/don't find it rude. It's just how I grew up communicating and I never mean for it to be rude. I say 'sorry what were you saying' afterwards. Its bloody hard on Teams though because of the mute/unmute and it is difficult to anticipate someone speaking and sometimes there is a delay, interruptions just happen on there.

And if it helps, I interrupt everyone. Nobody is safe 🤦‍♀️

It’s very annoying when people do this.

However. I have 1 colleague and 2 family members who will go on at such length that the only way for anyone to get a word in (or to put an end to an unbearably tedious 3-hour soliloquy) is to interrupt. At which point they invariably get arsey about having been interrupted and how nobody ever listens to them, etc.

I think some people have an extreme need to talk - either by interrupting everyone else, or by holding forth interminably any chance they get.

I have literally 3 people in my life who don’t interrupt me when I talk. I cherish them.
i always assume I must be very boring but sometimes I’ve only been talking for a matter of seconds before I’m interrupted so it isn’t that I’m droning on and on.

Yes @Bunnyhair I find some people don't stop, so you have to interrupt? Also its hard to have a fully formed thought before speaking. That sounds weird, but my thoughts are quite fragmented and disjointed and I just think out loud really.

I think its important to ask people lots of questions if you interrupt though. So they know you are interested in them and what they say. I also only interrupt at the end of sentences, not mid way through a story (if that makes it any better) 🫣