To be annoyed at being constantly interrupted?

[Willowswood]

As the title says.

I feel like it happens a lot... so I not talk loudly enough? Or are people just rude?

I'm sick of it.

If its only certain people it could be they have a problem but if you are getting interrupted a lot by multiple people it may be the way you talk. Do you talk slowly, leave long pauses or similar?

Some people just love the sound of their own voice and speak super slowly. The only way to keep the conversation moving is to interrupt th when they 'pause' for thought. Happens with 1 particular colleague (and no one else) so I'm assuming the fault lies with them not me. I've also noticed others interrupting him - possibly for the same reason?

My friend just this and recently I have decided to actually just stop talking and let her keep going in order to see if she'd realised what she was doing. However she didn't stop talking and at the last count she was still talking 45 minutes later. I've given up on the friendship.

It happens to me by DM. She actually doesn't listen to me most of the time. I'm too long-winded for her & she gets frustrated with people who don't get to the point quickly.

I think that so many people don't actually want your input, they just want to talk and be heard above everyone else.

I thought we might have the same colleague till you said 'him'.

Honestly if I hadn't interrupted my colleague she'd still be talking now without actually managing to say anything.
It's almost impressive.

I have a problem with interrupting people sometimes. I also talk a lot, and very fast. I've got Inattentive ADHD, OCD and anxiety generally; and sincerely can't help it. I REALLY REALLY try. It's so hard to explain how much of an uncontrollable compulsion it is. I feel extremely guilty about it, and am aware it must be very annoying for people I'm talking with.
I reckon a lot of interrupters are ND in some way, rather than rude. But, of course, I can't speak for everyone.

@ApocalypseNowt - ha ha we need to start another thread now...😜

No I don't, I talk at a normal pace and don't leave long pauses at all.

Can I just say that people that have ADHD, I do understand that you can't help interrupting, I am not meaning you when I'm talking about the interrupting.

It is extremely annoying.

The one thing I would say if it is happening a lot (and not just by one person) is to make sure you aren't going on and on without allowing the other person to speak. My mum does this sometimes, especially on the phone, and if I don't interject she would just talk for 10 minutes without drawing breath. I know others who do this to a lesser degree, and it isn't really a two way conversation unless you butt in.

Thanks, I totally get what you are saying, but it tends to happen when I have literally said one or two short sentences. Today I had said 6 words before I was interrupted.

What about the opposite. I had a boss who didn't interact at all when you were talking and then left a huge, and I mean huge, pause before he spoke back. You felt you had to fill it with gibberish.

Eek @ClareBlue this makes me so uncomfortable! Hate when people do this. Often very calm, composed people!

I hate it when people do this. Unfortunately my late DM was one of the worst offenders,although in so many other ways she was lovely. If I was saying something to her,I only had to pause for a fraction of a second to draw breath or gather my thoughts and she'd jump in. When I complained about her doing this,she'd say 'Oh I thought you'd finished because you stopped'.

I'm at the age now when people interrupt me and apologise and say sorry carry on with what you were saying, I've actually forgotten what I was saying🙄

I don't mind interruptions that contain a relevant question.

It's the interruptions that are totally irrelevant to what you are talking about. My partner and his mum do it all the time I find it really rude. Well it's not that I find it rude...., it is so bloody rude and actually really thick of them to do it .

I hate it that interrupting is seen as rude but claiming all the airtime and never giving pause, encouragement or opportunity for someone else to speak is equally rude. Especially at work. There's one person who will spend ages musing on about something, I'll have the answer for some of it but whenever he seems to stop and I start to talk he keeps on talking.

Thanks, but if you ready my op and other replies you'll see that's not what's happening.

I agree with this. I have a colleague who can talk for up to 10-15 minutes without pausing for a breath or to let someone else engage in the conversation. I find that I end up frequently interrupting him, but rarely do it with others.

Oh god i get this as well but i dont get upset with it anymore when i get interrupted i let them talk and listen but i dont start back up again i just leave it.
If i am asked oh what was you saying i say oh forgot now.
I once heard that if people interrupt you with it not being necessary they are just showing who they are.
Ive done for so long its fun because i have been asked a bout things or why didnt you tell me bla bla bla i always say well i was telling you the other day but you cut me off i thought you were not interested sorry.
Also cant stand repeating myself to anyone dont mind if they dont hear me.
but when i hear what what was that what i cant hear you RAGE sets in.
By the way im loud im not quiet at all when i talk.

I get told off by DH for doing this and I do butt in when I think he’s getting to the end but I’m not just being rude -it’s cos as he fount of all knowledge
feels he knows best and when he’s finished talking will wander off /continue reading his magazine and have no interest in what I say. If I butt in he might hear some of it.

I think it's one of the rudest things a person can do. My husband and his family are terrible for it.
I mean you will literally be asked a question that they don't really care enough about to hear the answer, and then cut you off mid sentence. It's utterly exhausting.
When I get cut off I will say something like "Oh it looks like we're done with that conversation" or "Oh I guess we're moving on to another topic".
Infuriating.

In married to one too. These days I just stop talking and end the conversation. I’m too old to argue about this shit. Fucking annoying tho right? The bulldozer often says ‘NO ONE WAITS FOR PEOPLE TO FINISH SENTENCES - it’s called a conversation not a speech’ - ummmm yes they do, polite people do. So so so fucking annoying.

Thank you. It might be that some of the people who interrupt you do have ADHD? A lot of people don't know I've got ADHD, and don't realise how hard I'm trying to control the way I speak.
But, obviously many people who interrupt don't have a neurological reason in that way.

How did he get to be your DH? Surely he interrupted you before you were married? 😂