To want to skake the 'post and piss off' posters?

[VestibuleVirgin]

I understand sometimes life gets in the way, but I get so pissed off at posters who set off a massive (generally divisive) debate, or do one reponse to a PP, then because the majority of PPs don't agree, the OP pisses off and 867 others are wondering what the f* the OP now thinks. Even when someone @s the OP for a response/update, nothing.
I also understand that it is up to the individual poster, but it's so frustrating! (Maybe I need to get out more!)

It's also disappointing when the OP posts a lot, people are engaged in the story, then.... the OP vanishes and we never find out what happened! Like the recent rat in the kitchen thread.

@VestibuleVirgin

I thought the allotment one had two weeks to vacate or something so hoping for an update this weekend... I obviously have got way too over invested too!

The other situation is where op's engage, but we never hear what happens in the end. Does anyone else remember the poster who's neighbours had a window into their shared garden, and replaced it with a door? And the one where the neighbours built a 'gym' in the back garden which was actually a house extension?

For complete transparency...

I will be 'popping' in and out today, so not welded to MN. However, will be randomly returning to show I am not that post and run person (altho runnung is more of a distant memory these days...)!
Also, aibu to not iron clothes before packing?
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Oh it is so annoying. I get that we're not owed a response or anything and people have lives but when it's a really juicy thread it is rather like reading a really good book only to discover someone's ripped out the last chapter.

Especially when it's the kind of thread that has wound up and let go everyone and reached reply limit. I swear they do it on purpose 😂

You're right!

Yes there is one at the moment where a woman is complaining that she isn't getting support over her impending marriage. People kept asking how long she'd known the guy and it turned out she only met him in October. She shut up after that.

Yeah, I generally assume if it’s a post that people have become really invested in and then the OP stops responding but HAD been responding and it’s grown into a huge thing, then one of two things has happened: either they’re sick of being accused of being not real, which happens a lot when a story sounds strange and a thread gets that big, and they are real, OR they’re really not real and get bored of it. I don’t know which. I guess it depends what you want to believe about people. If they never responded after the first post, it was never real. These people are almost always first-time posters (surprise, surprise) and that single comment is their whole Mumsnet history and if you report the thread to MNHQ, it’ll sometimes end up removed for previously-banned poster or because even they can’t contact the OP.

I mean, there are people elsewhere boasting of starting popular threads on Mumsnet, not actually the rabbit thing but like the rabbit thing. So obviously some are not real.

There are quite a lot of people who enjoy goading posters. There are also people who seem to feel that posters should disclose a great deal of personal information - to the point where there's a risk of they/their family becoming identifiable.
(If questions are answered civilly, then accusations of 'dripfeeding' may also follow.)

Sometimes I have started a thread just to see what people think. Some responses genuinely astonish me. I try to sift out the responses that appear to have been made in a spirit of genuine helpfulness and think them over.

There comes a point where it's really not worth returning, because the conversation has become both absurd and acrimonious.

It's the OPW's that wind me up.

Start a thread and don't ever come back to it. Surely an acknowledgement of thanks for your comments would do.

This is true.

But similarly, they are not owed an inner calm acceptance of their behaviour or threads from us

Yes this annoys me too! Especially when it’s an AIBU and it’s 98% they are BU so they get grumpy and then leave. Why ask the Q if you don’t actually want to know??

The other is people who have dramatic situations and then never update the thread. There are 10 pages of people getting invested! The ones I can think of are the crow lady, clock chime lady and recent rat lady. Just tell us what happened ffs 😂 (I seriously need more hobbies 😆)

Look for the See Next link on the original post. If there isn't one the OP hasn't responded. Worth doing before investing into a thread.

@VestibuleVirgin@LakieLady There is indeed a third thread. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5049200-cf-allotment-thief-part-3-the-plot-thickens-and-auditions-begin-for-the-west-end-musical

I don't use mine as it's far too restrictive as a system - in the unlikely event that anybody wants me, they just have to type my username three times anywhere on MN.

I'm assuming the title was a typo for 'shake', but I am genuinely now wondering whether 'skake' is a new word that the young folk are using - maybe meaning 'to reprimand soundly' or possibly whatever the online equivalent of giving somebody a pointed Paddington stare would be?!

There was one recently where someone let their kid climb on out of bounds school equipment after school. The kid had an accident, so they went to the school office for first aid and were annoyed the school didn't write an accident report as they were under the mother's supervision, not the school's. People agreed with the school not the OP, so OP got the thread deleted as people didn't agree with her 🙄

I think that most posters who don't return to a thread which sparks a divisive debate have posted just to wind people up. Particularly if the post is about dogs!

I made a post on my first account. Mumsnet decided I was a troll (I’m not) and suspended the account but left the thread up. I was unable to respond to any of the posts.

I also think that most people who start a thread about a complex CF situation and return with frequent updates are probably making it up . Especially those that go into multiple threads . I imagine after a while they get bored hence not informing of the final outcome .

I think a lot of posts are made up jobbys.

I agree OP

Evening! Been faffing with jetwasher and gouda most of day.
Thank you everyonecfor engaging. Loved your replies.
I won't be back
At least not on this post! 😊

You mean like this?

Totally agree

More than 50 posts and op ain't back is just rude

Not specifically but now you mention it, quite apt.