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My husband invalidates me

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Catchingrainbows · 07/05/2024 07:48

Am I being OTT here but my husband really upsets me when I feel he’s invalidating me. For example;

I have struggled with sleeping since having our son. He is now 3 years old, my sleep is better and fine but I do get the odd night if insomnia.

The other night on holiday was awake for 3 hours in the night and I knew my husband was sleeping.

When I asked l my husband do you mind if I have a little longer in bed and you take our son to breakfast, he replied,” we are going home tomorrow you can sleep then. Me too, I didn’t really sleep”

When I challenged that and said no you was asleep. He just said oh what ever, stop whining. I started crying because I was frustrated and left me in a position where I felt guilty.

I am in bed now whilst they’ve gone to breakfast and I just dread him being annoyed with me.

He is good at turning things around on me, so I will have to get over this and say no more to him.

He will say I am whining like a little b*ch … a classic line.

Why would he make me feel like this over something so innocent

OP posts:
nutbrownhare15 · 09/05/2024 22:51

Have a read of 'Why does he do that ' by Lundy Bancroft. Available online as a free pdf

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 10/05/2024 08:59

Why didn't you just tell him to wash his own shirts? He clearly isn't that bothered about them shrinking if he's happy for you to do the washing. Come on OP, you need to find the strength to walk away. He sounds awful. A really bully. You know it's not right. You wouldn't have posted on here if you thought his behaviour was ok.

QuietlyWonderful · 10/05/2024 10:14

Catchingrainbows · 09/05/2024 19:46

Arrived home
I have put the washing in and he’s said if any of my shirts have shrunk then I’m going to loose my S*
I’ve shrunk a few of his clothes before, obviously by accident.
hes not speaking to me now. We will see when the cycle ends on this machine. I hope they haven’t shrunk, its all I need

He setting you up here. If any shirt buttons are gaping, it will be because you've shrunk the shirt, not because he's gained a few pounds on holiday.

Anametolove · 10/05/2024 10:27

I'm sorry does your husband call you, routinely, a whiny little b**ch? Did I read that correctly?? That is so unacceptable. My first LTB.

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