I hate sharing food!

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We went out for Sunday lunch yesterday.. absolutely delicious but the vegetables for 4 came in one dish and then everyone was very polite and only took a little bit. I want my own dish so I know what's mine and what I can eat. Also.. same with Tapas...I like my own portion. I don't mind so much if it's a Thai starter or something like that as it is clear that there are two of something and two of something else. I find it stressful sharing!

i suffers from food envy so I love to share - I’ll go halfers with dh or the kids - sometimes we even go quarters - I want to taste everything on the menu, I don’t want to eat a lot though - the first bite is always the best.

I don't like sharing unless it's clear that there are two things in a portion; eg tacos.
I also have all sorts of issues with germs and contamination so I'm only comfortable sharing with people I know well, who know not to shove their hands in the shared food before I've taken my portion with a fork/spoon.

Oh and before anyone starts I am well aware that I have a phobia and I'm trying to address it in therapy.

There's 2 friends I will go to tapas with
We all eat anything and we all want to actually eat
So it's very much "yes we need 3 breads between us, yes we know it's a lot of plates, we are hungry"

I don’t mind if it’s my husband or it’s somewhere with tapas/sharing plates. We went to a ££ place in Edinburgh a few months ago and the food was all for sharing, but it was like one plate of dinner that you then had to cut into halves eg a joint of meat, as opposed to 2 individual portions. It wasn’t horrible but was a bit weird and not something I’d choose myself again.

I hear you. The only person I will share with is husband or son. I feel like a complete greedy so and so when anyone else is involved. I hate to sit back and watch someone else scoff my portion. Maybe I’m too polite!

I don't like sharing food either. When I go for a curry, I generally get a couple of veggie side dishes instead of a big main and a friend always puts his fork in my dish assuming its a "shared" side dish. Not even a serving spoon, his slobbered-on fork that's been in his meaty dish and in his mouth and then in my veggie food. Really irks me. Feel the rage when people double dip their crisps or carrots or whatever in the houmous/salsa/dips 🤬 Keep your germs to yourself!

I'm so on the opposite side of this fence that I'm struggling to understand you all. Food is to be shared and enjoyed and rejoiced. It's delicious and surely the more the merrier. I'm never ever happier than when sharing food- that which I've made for many or that which I order- which I want to share. I taste a thing and love it, my response to which is to immediately want my loved ones to taste that lovely thing and to witness their shared love of a lovely thing?! I'm of the "omg this is amazing you HAVE to try it!" Variety, as opposed to the "omg this is amazing and it's all for me!" Variety.

Like there are people who prefer black jacks over fruit salads, and people who prefer fruit salads over black jacks, and never the Twain shall understand the other! my suspicion is that food sharers and food keepers are destined to never understand the other, despite everyone's best intentions

Omg anyone who tried that would feel my fork stabbing into their hand, including my DH, who knows better than to even attempt it! 🤬 My plate/bowl, my cutlery, my food - noone else comes near it. Get your own bloody food! And yes, if at a buffet with dips, I will put some on a plate or in a bowl for myself. Double dipping is gross.

I was reminded of this. It can be annoying when people want to share your takeaway. But what was annoying was that Nessa joined in. Smithy or Nessa said 'No that's my dish.' I don't think either of them were paying. Cheeky cheapskates - the pair of them.

Same here

I hate it. It's childhood 'trauma' from my dad forever sticking his fork in everything, including other people's actual plates, when he felt like it.

I've raised DD with a 'share if you genuinely want to' attitude and she's the opposite of me. She can have tapas.

I love sharing. It's normal where I live.

Not sharing no problem, unless like Joey after refusing to share you then eat the other person's food.

Hate this ‘family style’ food. I like ordering what I want and plan to eat all of it ( or take leftovers for later if can’t finish). I don’t want to try Brenda’s or Stacy’s whatever and don’t want them sticking their mitts in my food.

Thank you! Your first line rang a bell for me. I'd never linked my feelings about sharing food to the autism. So many anxieties around food sharing!

This is the only instance in which I become a sharer. Perfectly said!

Dh likes to offer me some of his, in the hope that I will offer some of mine. No thanks, and no i wont be giving you my food. Yes you can sulk but i don't care - mitts off!

I don't mind sharing so much if it's agreed beforehand what I do mind is a roast for five people all being served on a board in the middle of the table. I ordered beef, others had lamb. I didn't expect my beef to be covered in lamb juice. Awful.

Same here. I want to try a bit of everything and don't want to order entire portions of chips, dessert etc, because I literally do only want about a quarter of a portion.

I didn't realise how unpopular sharing was until I saw threads like this. Seems very odd to me that someone would only want one thing off the menu and to eat the whole plateful themselves.

I hate sharing food too. I don’t mind sharing vegetables with a roast etc, there’s normally enough for everyone, but I went to a wedding where the starter was a board of cold meats, cheeses etc plonked in the middle of a table of 10 strangers. I hated that . Just give me my own portion!

I don’t mind sharing if there’s loads of it and everyone uses the serving spoons and not their own drooled on cutlery.

I have to remind DH not to double dips crisps and dips when we’re in company.

It’s funny, in every single “penis portion” thread there’s hundreds of stories of DMs and MILs dishing up large portions for men and tiny ones for women, and all posters in agreement that buffet style help yourself is absolutely the best way to go to ensure everyone gets the portions they want.

On this thread everyone is saying the opposite! 😂

There aren't penis portions in restaurants where most of the forced sharing is happening.

Well, in my case, I grew up really poor with a lot of siblings. There was often not quite enough food, especially the days before Thursday payday, and everyone was grabbing and gobbling what they could around the table (parents had also grown up with similar, with an added ‘the men get the most and best food, so didn’t impose rules). It left me quite deeply disliking shared food situations, or anything that involves rushed eating, and much preferring having my own portion on my own plate that I can eat as slowly as I like. I’m not a slow eater, but I’d rather not eat at all than ‘competing’ for not quite enough food.

Unless your mothers and MILs run restaurants, it’s hardly relevant.