My husband has got the grouting done.

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My husband has got the grouting done. Earlier he finished rubbing down the paintwork.
Does anyone else’s husband seek them out to tell you what they’ve done?
He did something in the garden yesterday I didn’t listen to what he said and I’ve just had to lie and say yes I do think it looks better.

If I don’t tell him everything I’m doing around the house and garden does that mean I haven’t done anything?
Like a tree falling in the middle of a forest.
I do love him. He’s so funny.

Mine went on a full on spring clean this morning, I walked into the living room to the sofa pulled out and him hanging onto the window frame trying to polish the curtain rod.
Although rather than telling me what he'd done I was called upon every few minutes to ask what I thought of the living room rug in a different position, then a few minutes later what do I think of it a cm further left than it was before 🙄

Must be something in the air today

DP tells me when he's done things. I feign interest for many of them, especially the ones involving his car. I wonder if he wants a reward chart?

He's not interested in me having done the laundry or the cleaning I note.

Mine came in to tell me he was washing the patio - like I couldn’t hear the pressure washer?! I’ve done a load of dishwashing, 3 loads of laundry and the Tesco order.

My friend is currently dealing with this issue with her husband because she has always worked from home and he has recently started from home so she has I put my coffee cup in the dishwasher/I put the bin out/I’ve just finished my meeting/I’ve opened the post etc all day long. She sent me a Facebook video the other week where a woman said her husband did it all the time so she started doing it back eg I’ve been shopping, I’ve put the shopping away, I’ve recycled your newspaper, I’ve put your cup on the dishwasher, I’ve refilled the toilet roll etc and my friend said she was going to do the same, I got a message on day two saying her husband had stopped doing it.

I had this, but I responded in kind - made a point of telling him when I’d made the bed or put the shopping away. He got the message.

My DH sewed some Badges on DCs Beavers jumper last night. Not exaggerating when I say he talked for 20 mins at Me after, explaining how he did them, which angle, the spacing in the thread, how did I think they looked? Were they same as the others, or probably neater, right?

Aaargghh. Mine does this too. We both work F/T. Him 6-2 so he’s home by 2:15. I get in about 6:30. Usually he just washes (some) of the dishes and pushes the hoover round the living room. If it’s rained and he can’t walk his beloved dog for the obligatory 3 hours he might do a bit more. But then I have to hear about it in great detail!! Every. Single. Small. Thing!!
I say thank you but want I really want to say is what do you want? A fucking medal?!

As Bluesigns notes - they stop doing it when it’s done back to them. And this is because they’re doing it consciously. They want attention - they think they deserve the thanks and appreciation that the tasks that you do apparently don’t. When you do the same to them, they realise it’s not working so they stop. Funny that.

Sorry this is making me lol.
I just love that I’m not the only one suffering.
He is now going to go and get some screws. I assuming he’s screwing something.

Is this a euphemism?

I tell people when I do DIY or gardening or whatever, not if I clean the kitchen or something more regular, but any job that happens less often. Because usually I'm quite proud of myself and want to show off a bit. It's nice to be appreciated!

Mine didn't need to tell me anything. It would have seem a bit churlish for me to not have noticed him on his hands and knees spot cleaning the rug in front of the sofa, though. I made a cup of tea.

A few years ago DH and I had an argument about a similar thing, and I said " what do you want a bloody gold star or something? " and he said yes, actually he did.

So I went and got a piece of paper and a packet of gold stars and put a star chart on the fridge so that if he wanted to behave like a child he could.

It was up for months and became a running joke.

Mine tells me in great detail what he's going to do, like a running commentary before the fact. I smile and nod and remind myself I love him.

I chuckled at polishing the curtain rod 😂

As my late mum would have said, does he want a medal or the chest to pin it on ... 😂

I feel I need to say that my curtain poles get dusted every other week (when I use the feather duster to do any cobwebs) 😇 I have no one to tell 😂😂

Patio washing husband just came in having a panic as a frog had hopped onto the patio and he didn’t know what to do. I had to get a plastic lid (takeaway box) and rescue froggy (who was actually a toad) and relocate him to the bottom of the garden out of harms way. Husband moaning that I did this in bare feet - which took two seconds to dry in a towel, as opposed to his soaking trainers which will be left in the garage till they smell like a damp dog.

Mine does this and also tells me that he has had a shower, cut his toenails or some other utterly mundane personal grooming task I don’t need to know about. It’s tedious.

I put our bedding on to wash this morning .
DH went up in the loft for something , I thought he called my name so went up to find him and adult DD looking quizzically at me No-one called you . You must be hearing things . Head Tilt Sympathy Faked Look

DH then goes up to shift stuff , vacuum down the back of the bed . Then told me as I obviously didn;t hear the shifting of furniture and worry he'd fallen into the abyss down the side of the bed.

His medal is in the post , obvs

😂😂😂 I don’t know why this has tickled me so much. It’s the ‘probably neater, right?’ for me
😂😂😂😂

If you both own the house / share the space equally it seems very fair and respectful to say when you are doing something like DIY.

I would get annoyed if it was a running commentary on things that get done every day, like washing dishes.

I totally get where the women who are doing the day to day grind are coming from, but there is something different about a one off job like pressure washing the patio. Both beed appreciating, but also I wouldn't want a partner who constantly thanked me for doing the washing up.

Interestingly when I lived with my boyfriend where we fell out wasn't the day to day stuff. We set up rules and routines for doing those and just got on with it. What bugged me was the lack of initiative to do those one off jobs that need doing just as much as the washing up.

😂😂😂😂😂😂 what is it today. You lot have me in full hysterics

Im sat here crying laughing 😂 my days i needed to read this!

Although now you guys mention it i realise the guy ive been getting to know over the last few months does exactly the same and technically we arent even in a relationship 😂😂

Mine tells me well in advance of what he is goi yo do that day, then, upon completion, I get asked in a rhetorical manner if I've seen what he's done and doesn't it look better. Then in the evening I get given a summary of what he's done.
I don't particularly care tbh but it's easier to play along.
I usually leave the house for several good hours when he does something.
To be fair he does do a lot and I never, ever have to ask him to do anything because. but so do I. Yet I never give advance notice/commentary/ summary of what I do.
It's like having a very determined and proud 6 year old craving acknowledgment so it's quite amusing in a way.
God knows why some men do that?!
Did their mothers not praise them enough or praised them too much when they were growing up? I reckon that's where it all started.

I would be in to admire it because I do love a newly grouted wall. And to be honest if I did that or painted a fence or changed the light fittings I tend to show off about it .