My husband has got the grouting done.

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My husband has got the grouting done. Earlier he finished rubbing down the paintwork.
Does anyone else’s husband seek them out to tell you what they’ve done?
He did something in the garden yesterday I didn’t listen to what he said and I’ve just had to lie and say yes I do think it looks better.

If I don’t tell him everything I’m doing around the house and garden does that mean I haven’t done anything?
Like a tree falling in the middle of a forest.
I do love him. He’s so funny.

It's the bank holiday. Mines just back from the garden centre with a boot full of shrubs.

I think is definitely a case of mother praising every little achievement. MIL still gives DH a standing ovation if he does something mundane like putting the bins out.

I'd just be so grateful the job was finished. My DH does a lot of DIY but he sometimes doesn't finish a job very quickly. It can take him 2 weeks to go back and complete a job. It drives me mad especially when he starts talking about the next thing he's going to do before the first job gets completed.

Give him a 🎖️

I always thought the tree falling in the forest thing was an analogy for the work women do in the home. Glad someone else has seen it.

I think they get used to tooting their own horns as children, and certainly they get rewarded for advertising their accomplishments at work, while women, who are socialised to wait for others to notice their worth (see multiple fairy tales), end up waiting and waiting and waiting for something that is never going to happen.

Maybe we should cheerfully announce our list of daily accomplishments, because it's a habit that clearly works for men (see 'pay gap'/ 'salary negotiation').

Dh and I both do this 😳We both say thank you for it too - so we probably thank each other about 10 times a day. I admitted this before on MN and was mocked for it so probably will be again, but it works for us!

I don't mind if it's DIY. I like to know whats being done on the house. If there's anything I need to not touch for a bit or a room I can now go in. It's when it's every day tasks like "I've done the dishwasher" that it bothers me.

Foreplay?

Yeah the shower thing is so you know he doesn't smell

DP likes me to be near and looking interested when he's doing DIY. He talks to me about every aspect of the job too. & praise seeks. I just sing songs in my head as opposed to screaming. I do love him but FFS I DON'T CARE. There's lots that I do, including a bit of DIY, without wanting to witter on about it at all.

He just tells me so much. The grout commentary went on for a while. He also got a new brush and has told me what he plans to do with it.
Sometimes I have to stop what I’m doing to go and look at what he’s done.
He doesn’t really stop - which is amazing - but the commentary can be relentless.
Im going to take him on a tour of everything I’ve done later.
Then show him a PowerPoint of it all.

Love it - wish I’d done this! It could have gone next to one for the Dc making their beds…

DH is fixing the back door lock. He's just explained what's wrong with it, what he's going to do to fix it, and what bits he needs. Fair play the bit I listened to sounds complicated, but this morning he explained how the energy usage reader works. The same way it worked when we got it last year, it seems.
And I know that when he fixes the flipping lock I'll have to go and be impressed while he demonstrates how it works. And what he did. And why it was trickier than he'd expected because (insert random reason here)
Solidarity, sisters. We've got this.

DP has a terrible habit of treating me as though I am the plumber's/sparky's/chippie's mate when he does DIY around the place. He asks me to help him when I'm in the middle of other jobs. I'm self-sufficient so this really pisses me off. In fairness he's getting better at not doing this.

Get the 3 in 1 ready for him. He'll be asking where it is any minute.

If it is, it ain’t working 😀

When DH has cooked dinner he will discuss at length the way he cooked the meat (usually different from the instructions because he knows better) and I will get a proper mansplanation about how to cook meat and meat in general.

I humour him though because tbf his meat tastes good and it’s a bit like petting the excited puppy.

great thread 😀

The other thing that winds me up…
He’ll say “I’ve put a wash on for you”Or “I’ve done the dishes for you”
no you’ve done those things because you live here too and this is 2024 and it’s as much your responsibility as mine! Fuckwit!

I was all ready to come on and agree about the attention seeking men, until.... I remembered the small fence I built between my back door and the storage sheds that are up a few steps. I told EVERYONE about it. I took photos and forced people to look at them. I even showed my counsellor. I'm no better than a man. In my defence, it was a tricky spot as the fence had to go up about 5 steps. In fact, behold, my amazing fence!

So glad I'm training my sons not to do this and other things like stating the bleeding obvious

Yep. I’ve had a blow by blow account today of the one load of washing he’s done AND the fact that he put it in the tumble drier and it DRIED 🤦‍♀️ He has yet to take it out and you know, actually fold it and put it away and the fact that is 18 degrees outside, so plenty warm enough to be hung out, has escaped his notice.

I like to do this in a slightly passive aggressive way when I do something that DH has been promising to do for weeks.

Great thread. I’m not d

Great thread. I’m not sure about the mother thing because MIL doesn’t praise him to the hilt for mundane tasks. But I think there’s something to the learned behaviour - boys shouting for attention and getting it. I’m now hoping that I’ve not brought mine up like this but I haven’t noticed DS1 (23) doing it so far.

Serious question: how can you bring yourselves to have sex with these giant babies? Do you get a running commentary on that too?!