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NamechangedH · 2024-05-06T00:29:06+00:00

DH went to a concert in a town 40 minutes away this evening. It would have finished about half 10 and he was driving back. I woke up about 40 minutes ago and he's not home. Messenger says he was last seen 2 hours ago and he's not answering his phone. When and who should I start calling? I'm so worried ☹️

GymBergerac · 06/05/2024 03:49

Just a thought, if it's a major gig venue and a big performer name, he's not still stuck in parking traffic trying to get out is he, and with a flat phone? Last major city event I went to traffic was gridlocked for hours afterwards trying to leave the venue.....

MariaVT65 · 06/05/2024 03:56

Hope everything is ok op and that the worst is that he just didn’t let you know. I would be worried too tbh.

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NamechangedH · 06/05/2024 05:53

Apparently he told me weeks ago he booked a hotel 🙄 I vaguely remember him looking to see how much they were but he'd not mentioned it since. So silly of me not to have read his mind and known that's that he was going to do.
Thank you everyone for taking the time to reassure me, it really helped when my mind was racing away with me.

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Dontsparethehorses · 06/05/2024 06:02

At least he’s safe. Hope you manage to rest today

bloodyplumbing · 06/05/2024 06:27

bloodyplumbing · 06/05/2024 03:05

He'll be gone in the morning! He'd be getting a stern word with!

This should've said home in the morning!

Sorry.

Stopandlook · 06/05/2024 06:52

Glad all ok! What a worry.

FrenchandSaunders · 06/05/2024 06:56

So when he went off to this concert what did he say to you as he left? Surely something along the lines of “see you later” or “see you tomorrow”?

cantgetmybreath · 06/05/2024 06:59

One goes missing every week 🙄 I don't know what is wrong with them honestly!

TheTartfulLodger · 06/05/2024 07:00

Awww. Bet there'll be some disappointed MNers now. No affair. No prostitutes. No drugs. No OW. Just a purely innocent misunderstanding 😂

Shiningout · 06/05/2024 07:01

That's so odd, when he left did he say see you tomorrow?? Glad he's fine anyway op

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NamechangedH · 06/05/2024 07:54

We didn't get a chance to say bye before he went off, so I got no "See you tomorrow" clues. The kids and I rushed out the house because we got a last minute text to say some friends were going to the park and did we want to meet up. So we just yelled up the stairs that we were going out and to have fun.

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Augustus40 · 06/05/2024 08:32

Many moons ago my second partner did not return home until the next day after breakfast time. Apparently he had decided on a whim to go to a night club near Liverpool St station and had missed the final train back to Chelmsford where we were living at the time. This was before the days of mobile phones too. He had to sleep outside the entrance of the station on the pavement for a few hours before the train station reopened lol.time

Men eh!

DaffodilFarm · 06/05/2024 08:39

Augustus40 · 06/05/2024 08:32

Many moons ago my second partner did not return home until the next day after breakfast time. Apparently he had decided on a whim to go to a night club near Liverpool St station and had missed the final train back to Chelmsford where we were living at the time. This was before the days of mobile phones too. He had to sleep outside the entrance of the station on the pavement for a few hours before the train station reopened lol.time

Men eh!

If you believe that, I can sell you the Eiffel Tower for scrap metal on offer at a discount if you’re interested?

Sorry, couldn’t resist the joke!

turkeymuffin · 06/05/2024 08:43

NamechangedH · 06/05/2024 05:53

Apparently he told me weeks ago he booked a hotel 🙄 I vaguely remember him looking to see how much they were but he'd not mentioned it since. So silly of me not to have read his mind and known that's that he was going to do.
Thank you everyone for taking the time to reassure me, it really helped when my mind was racing away with me.

So he went on his own to a gig, merely 40 mins away but decided to get a hotel (on his own?) rather than come home afterwards.

I'm pretty laid back but would struggle not to be suspicious about that!!

BananaLambo · 06/05/2024 08:44

Augustus40 · 06/05/2024 08:32

Many moons ago my second partner did not return home until the next day after breakfast time. Apparently he had decided on a whim to go to a night club near Liverpool St station and had missed the final train back to Chelmsford where we were living at the time. This was before the days of mobile phones too. He had to sleep outside the entrance of the station on the pavement for a few hours before the train station reopened lol.time

Men eh!

Hello, I am a Nigerian prince. You are a very beautiful woman. Can you help me move £27,000,000 from my country? Just send me your bank details and passport 😁

Shinyandnew1 · 06/05/2024 08:48

NamechangedH · 06/05/2024 05:53

Apparently he told me weeks ago he booked a hotel 🙄 I vaguely remember him looking to see how much they were but he'd not mentioned it since. So silly of me not to have read his mind and known that's that he was going to do.
Thank you everyone for taking the time to reassure me, it really helped when my mind was racing away with me.

How odd-did you not notice him take a bag/toothbrush/charger etc

Staying in a hotel for a gig 40 minutes away you were driving to that finished at 10.30 isn’t something that it would occur to me to get a hotel for-I’d have just driven home! I hope he was definitely alone-sadly that would be my first thought-who was he with…

notacooldad · 06/05/2024 08:51

So he went on his own to a gig, merely 40 mins away but decided to get a hotel (on his own?) rather than come home afterwards
40 mins if your driving.
Much longer if you decide to have a drink at the gig and there's no public transport back.
I wouldn't be able to get home on public transport after a gig from Manchester although I live 45 mins away at the moment. A hotel would be cheaper than a taxi especially booked in advance.

ItsSerious · 06/05/2024 08:54

Augustus40 · 06/05/2024 08:32

Many moons ago my second partner did not return home until the next day after breakfast time. Apparently he had decided on a whim to go to a night club near Liverpool St station and had missed the final train back to Chelmsford where we were living at the time. This was before the days of mobile phones too. He had to sleep outside the entrance of the station on the pavement for a few hours before the train station reopened lol.time

Men eh!

What's a second partner?

Shinyandnew1 · 06/05/2024 08:56

ItsSerious · 06/05/2024 08:54

What's a second partner?

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I presume it wasn’t her first or third partner, but the second!

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NamechangedH · 06/05/2024 09:25

Shinyandnew1 · 06/05/2024 08:48

How odd-did you not notice him take a bag/toothbrush/charger etc

Staying in a hotel for a gig 40 minutes away you were driving to that finished at 10.30 isn’t something that it would occur to me to get a hotel for-I’d have just driven home! I hope he was definitely alone-sadly that would be my first thought-who was he with…

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Yes, I can see why it may look that way but I'm perfectly confident he's not playing away. We will stay in hotels sometimes if we go out rather than drive home.
The kids and I left the house to go out probably half an hour before he did so wouldn't have seen him get an overnight bag ready

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StopStartStop · 06/05/2024 09:27

Well, I would take it as proof positive he was meeting someone for sex. He wasn't clear and forthcoming about staying out overnight.

mrsbyers · 06/05/2024 09:54

turkeymuffin · 06/05/2024 08:43

So he went on his own to a gig, merely 40 mins away but decided to get a hotel (on his own?) rather than come home afterwards.

I'm pretty laid back but would struggle not to be suspicious about that!!

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We do this quite often , not everywhere has public transport running late and a cheap hotel can be less than the cost of a taxi if booked ahead of time

Trulyme · 06/05/2024 09:55

NamechangedH · 06/05/2024 05:53

Apparently he told me weeks ago he booked a hotel 🙄 I vaguely remember him looking to see how much they were but he'd not mentioned it since. So silly of me not to have read his mind and known that's that he was going to do.
Thank you everyone for taking the time to reassure me, it really helped when my mind was racing away with me.

If he was looking up hotels then thats a big indication that he was booking one.

I would have assumed that he’d booked one unless he says otherwise.

If I told my partner I was looking up hotels to book, I wouldn’t then think to confirm I had booked one as I’d already told them what I was doing.

He did nothing wrong and your mind just got carried away with worry.

Ultimately, no harm was done and hopefully he had a nice time at the concert.

It’s really refreshing to hear about a healthy relationship on here.

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NamechangedH · 06/05/2024 10:31

Trulyme · 06/05/2024 09:55

If he was looking up hotels then thats a big indication that he was booking one.

I would have assumed that he’d booked one unless he says otherwise.

If I told my partner I was looking up hotels to book, I wouldn’t then think to confirm I had booked one as I’d already told them what I was doing.

He did nothing wrong and your mind just got carried away with worry.

Ultimately, no harm was done and hopefully he had a nice time at the concert.

It’s really refreshing to hear about a healthy relationship on here.

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I'm a bit irritated he didn't remind me.
But you're right, no harm done and yes he enjoyed the gig thanks 🙂

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Whatabother · 06/05/2024 10:39

You do present your partner as living the life of a single man.
I hope you get equal time to enjoy your life and aren't just stuck with the children and keeping the home together while he does his own thing.