Called. Fu****g C**t today, by a stranger....

[ablueberryaday]

For context before I start the thread, I have a non-visible condition whereby my knee rubs in its joint socket causing swelling and often unbearable pain (awaiting surgery). Although not necessarily visible, it is extremely painful and often hard to walk logically distances and inclines.

Anyway.

Today, I was in the shopping centre waiting for the lift with around 15 others.. most with children and buggies. After around ten minutes of waiting (and the lift visibly going up and down and skipping the floor we were waiting on) it stopped. The family at the front of the queue went in, and there was a small gap to the front of the lift that no other people in the queue could fit into (all with children and buggies)

I was waiting in what would have been 3rd in line with two families ahead of me. One lady with 2 children, a double pram and a man, and one lady and man with three small children and lots of bags..

Nobody else moved for a while to go into the space in the lift, and so I politely walked around the front of the queue and slid into the (very small) space. I apologised as I moved past the people in the queue ahead of me, whereby the family with the three small children smiled, but the ones with the two children and double pram glazed awfully.

As we waited for the lift doors to close, the woman started shouting at me. She called me a selfish 'fucking cunt' for skipping the line and that I'm clearly not disabled and don't have children so why the fuck can't I use the stairs like everyone else. Her husband held her back as she was practically spitting her words at me.

As the doors finally closed, I just burst into tears. I was so so embarrassed. I know my condition may not be noticeable from the outside, but daily I live with excruciating pain and really need the lift today. I always try my best to use the stairs when I can, but today it was just not possible.

Am I being unreasonable?!

She sounds nasty and sad. I wouldn't give her any head space.

Did I miss a rule that only disabled people and people with buggies can use lifts now..?

It’s awful how some people behave in such a disgusting way. I was recently verbally abused, called some nasty names and threatened by a teenager’s mum as I noticed her brat of a daughter taking photos/videos of me. I didnt even say anything to the kid, I just clocked it and the kid kicked off with me. She was vicious, totally ruined the event for me.

@Roundandroundthegard3n

Why are you excusing this thick as fxck gobshite offensive woman vocabulary then?

And what has it got to do with op@ablueberryaday that thick as fxck gobshite loud 🤔 woman is feeling particularly stressed out cause she has got children,
that's just the nature of being a parent being under pressure,

If she can't handle it

She should of used birth control !
and not have had children in the first place then,

Gobshite 💩 loud mouth thick as fuck stupid woman...

@Behappyplease

It sounds like that teenager girls mother kicked off
Cause she is like a Character from Shameless tv series
And just can't be bothered arsed to tell her child 🙄 that it was inappropriate to take photos of you like that at that event,
as she is,just a very lazy mother who wants to be just her daughters friend all the time,
Rather than put in much needed effort and work of being a proper parent,

And cause you dared to show your displeasure at her daughters actions she was outraged ..Good for you
You stood up for yourself and got under her skin, !

It's a shame Jeremy Kyle tv show isn't still on for that arsehole woman and her daughter to appear on that tv series,

She be right at home being on a tv show like that....

Nothing much else going for them..

Why are you even giving this women head space?! I'd have laughed.
Everyone can use a lift, you don't have to be disabled or have children.

Well she sounds a right charmer. Just imagine what her kids will turn out like, witnessing their mothers behaviour 😳

OP you did nothing wrong. Solidarity, I have MS and can move without help but just find it difficult sometimes. The looks when you use the disabled toilet not being visibly on crutches....

Unpleasant people like that are disgusting.

I used to get very upset about this kind of thing, but then I recognised that people who give outbursts like this don't matter, I wouldn't recognised them if I saw them again and vice versa, so it really shouldn't bother me.

If something like that happened I used to dwell on it and feel humiliated that people might think I was an awful person but I have let go of it now, it's just like 'Meh, that was some random nasty person'

What a nasty bitter woman. It's boggling that these sort of people walk around with that sort of hate just bubbling around inside them,waiting to unleash it on a random person who's just minding their own business. Even if she had a problem with you squeezing into the lift,there's absolutely no excuse for what she did. None.

@ablueberryaday Aww, OP, I'm sorry you had that horrible experience. As you'll see from the replies on this thread, the majority of people think it reflects badly on that woman. Hope you've been able to shake it off.

I was once waiting for a lift with my DD and a big heavy bag at a train station. More people appeared behind us as we entered the lift, one of whom was in a wheelchair with her friend/partner and there wasn't room for them. My DD and I got out and said to them to take the space. However, two able-bodied young people tried to push their way in. I blocked them and said politely "no, I didn't mean you". They realised and got out again. Nobody called anyone a cunt or got angry because there's really no need.

You did nothing wrong and she was a twat and everyone (including her own DH) would have agreed.

In hindsight you could have said X, Y, Z but it’s a good thing that you didn’t because you shouldn’t have to explain yourself to anyone, especially a silly cow like that.

You were the bigger person by not responding and she just made herself look even worse.

If she genuinely thought you were pushing in or had no right to use the lift (everyone has that right) then she could have just said “excuse me I don’t think that’s right…”.

The fact that she immediately spouted vile abuse, proves what sort of person she is and everyone around must have thought she was a vile person.

What does any of this even mean?

To use that sort of language in front of children says it all really.

so why the fuck can't I use the stairs like everyone else.

I would have said something back to her like - you could use the stairs if you kept ya legs shut you wouldnt have all that baggage for the lift.

You have done nothing wrong op she must have been stressed with the kids and taking it out on anyone.

Funny that because MN is crawling with people like it.

If I’m waiting for a lift with ds and his wheelchair and there isn’t space for us but someone who is walking will fit in I will always signal to let them take the space. Why wouldn’t I?

to be honest the biggest pain when walking to lifts when parents with prams see a wheelchair approaching so run to get there first!

People can be really odd about this sort of thing. I remember I once pulled up a huge queue at a junction on my little moped. The woman in the car in front got out and told me really angrily that I'd better not overtake the queue. It hadn't actually occurred to me and I was in no hurry, but I was so pissed off at her telling me what to do that I did it just to piss her off!

Some people are just nuts!

This is an outdated view on what being disabled means to some people. Even the blue badge parking spaces show a symbol of someone in a wheelchair. People at large need to be educated on the myriad forms of how disability can present. I use the disabled facilities, and to be honest don't tend to look at people on my way out. Nobody has said anything to me either.

I use a wheelchair 99% of the time, rarely for very short distances on very good days I can manage without it. On those occasions I use a stick, it's not helpful to me in anyway, but as I look young and healthy it stops situations like you have mentioned. It also means I can get a seat when I need one etc.

I'm sorry this happened to you OP. It says nothing negative about you and everything negative about her. Don't give her another thought.

I get it all the time, mainly on buses. I'm physically disabled, have been since I was 17 and was run over...thanks to wonderful NHS orthopaedic surgeons my right leg was saved (I had the exact same injury as Dr House). I walk with a limp, and have a constant low level of pain (which is getting worse as I get older). My mobility, already low, has really fallen of a cliff since I turned 50, five years ago, to the point where I need to use a wheelchair at airports, etc. If I see a disabled seat free anywhere, I take it without hesitation.

Unfortunately, as my disability isn't visible, I get abuse. Mainly from middle age to older men, always along the lines of how I'm obviously not disabled - to which I reply 'so you have x-ray specs, then?' or something along those lines. 99% of the time a middle-aged woman being willing to stand up to them shocks them into silence. One particularly bad incident, I got the usual crap, I replied, the guy then decided to start picking on another woman....the bus driver got so pissed off he stopped the bus and refused to continue until the mouthy twat got off.

Like others have said, ignore this bitch. Just hope that her children don't grow up to be as ignorant as her.

@LadyKenya @ThreeLocusts derailing the thread a little but I have MS too and don't use a stick, I've had people comment when I've used the disabled toilet and been harassed more than once about my blue badge because "you don't look disabled"

Some people are just too stupid to understand what’s happening in a situation. She sounds horrendous