To find small children slightly repulsive

[BathshebaEverdene1]

OK I do love my 4 year granddaughter but sorry the chewing , gulping and gasping while eating is actually revolting .
Am I really nasty? She is here eating a sandwich and gulping down some milk in a really horrid way.

You should stay away from children really, as you find children repulsive. But I guess you're not truthful about this in real life as if you admitted it aloud, people rightly wouldn't want you anywhere near their children. Odd thought pattern. HTH

GivingYourHeadAWobble·
One in five people in the UK suffer from misophonia
And every single one of them seems to be a member of Mumsnet 👀

I've suffered with it for years. Although Ive never said on MN as I'm not joining in the misphonia olympics, thanks😁

Im not this/MN worryingly weird about children either

The comment about it, is clearly in relation to MercyDulb0ttle's post. Not one of your own.

You didn't, no. Two other posters did and that's what I was responding to.

My mother in law does this in her 60s. It’s repulsive 🤢

I would be correcting her Op, as I do with my children.

Crikey calm down people! OP said slightly repulsive. And she said she loves her granddaughter and is nice to her. Judging by the poll on the thread, a fair few of us agree with her.
I don't remember my children seeming particularly revolting so I do wonder whether nurturing hormones help us bypass it with our own. Seems a lot of posters are taking it all a bit personally when seems to me that OP was just wondering if anyone else feels the same.
I work as a carer, and I kindly and carefully look after ailing and elderly people, whilst occasionally feeling a bit of a stomach churn at some of the sights and smells. Many people have said to me they couldn't do my job, and I don't take it personally or think any less of them.

That's because it doesn't exist. It's a made-up diagnosis.

You need to reflect.

Fast forward 30 years from now when she is grown up and you are a dribbly old gran, who may, for whatever reason, loudly chew , gulp and gasp while eating through no fault of your own, perhaps you won't even be aware of it...

How would you feel if you knew that she found you 'revolting'?

She's four? Yabu and quite nasty to your child. Id also think that children can recognise their parents attitude to them.

Does she have things at your house that she doesn’t normally get and is eating it fast? We bought cups with curly straws attached as our DGC were struggling as we had wider lipped glasses and cups to what they had at their own house. My DD has a chew twenty times rule as DGC were almost swallowing food whole at times, not through hunger but because we always have their favourite foods in for them. It sounds like they need to eat more slowly tbh.

I get what your saying op i dont like it either.
My 2 are adults now but i do remember them days.
It's not that you hate the child just some things turn our stomach i used to have a stomach of iron but now i gag at anything.

Mind you i have seen 2 year olds eat better than some 10 11 &12 year olds one being my friends daughter she 12 but when she eats i have to leave i just cant stand it turns my stomach.
Mouth full talking food falling out sniffing and huffing mother says nothing.
Any way the older mine were getting the less i wanted to be around younger ones.
Especially when they eat.

I think you should stick to the parking threads.

Well when my parents and sister tell me about how I was when I was a little kid/baby I’m like 🤢 I love my niece to bits but when I have to wipe her nose etc I am not loving it, I don’t think that’s a crime! And I’d appreciate if someone found having to look after me in old age a bit yucky with having to wipe my mouth, bum etc I think it’s ok to feel! Granted some feel it more than others!

Repulsive, what an odd choice of words? Especially as a grandmother. She'll be helping you in a few years. And you'll probably be dribbly and incontinent longer than she will be. She'll get better. You'll get worse.
I second what a pp has said . What is someone said I find senior citizens slightly repulsive.

Snot running down from noses is grim.

Seeing what someone is chewing is grim.

Dribbling the food down your chin is grim.

Grabbing food with your fists and banging it against the table is grim.

Regardless of the age you are when you do it.

I once shit myself in India. I found myself disgusting that day

How did people cope without all these labels?

Quite honestly I knew how to eat properly at 4 because I was taught properly.
It sounds as though she hasn't been taught anything. Can you not help with this?

My 3yo twins have a cold. They are currently disgusting when they are eating because they can't breathe easily right now. Absolutely horrible to watch! Still love them to bits 😆I can imagine if they weren't my kids id consider them pretty rank at the moment.

This thread is making a big deal about something totally normal. It's natural that children are messy until they learn dexterity, hygiene and table manners. It's natural for adults to find this, in varying degrees, unpleasant - that's why children are taught table manners and hygiene rules.

💯!

Yes they’re all disgusting little grubs aren’t they Mis Trunchbull (sorry I mean OP)

Really really don’t want to contribute to this miserable thread but I can’t help myself. Referring to children as ‘it’ ‘vile’ ‘revolting’ I feel like I’m in Matilda (you know, that film about child abuse). It is sad that people speak about children like this. I can’t imagine feeling like this about a child I was related to.

@BathshebaEverdene1 I wonder what your children would say about your parenting?

I have to say I do find other peoples children a bit repulsive. They don’t do anything different to my own children but it’s fine when mine have bogey faces or make a mess eating when I see other people children doing things like that it makes me feel sick. Even my nephews and nieces. I hope I don’t feel like that about my grandchildren though!

I understand what you're saying. I do have ADHD and OCD so that probably contributes to how I feel about these things.

I love my children dearly as babies and up until now, and I love my grandchildren too, but there is something I guess that has changed.

I find some things just a bit gross and it's like a visceral feeling that I can't help it. For example, I can't touch raw meat anymore it just really eeks me out. Chomping, eating with mouth open, gummy smiles, water tap sound, turn signal sounds, eek me out.

I never used the word " vile" thank.you.

Gosh people love joining a crowd to put the boot in don't they?

She probably will...old people are repulsive too.