Wanting to be told if my kids are somewhere

[kimberlyy]

Hello all so long story short my daughter got sick Thursday and she missed school today because she was still under the weather. Also today my other daughter had a school trip I was to help chaperone. I asked my brother if he could watch my daughter since she couldn't go to school and he agreed and I'm thankful. But now I hear my daughter ended up leaving to go with my sister. I called constantly to check on her while on the school trip and no one told me anything. Aibu for being upset about this? Anything could have happened and I was not aware that she even left from being with my sister. My daughter is still in a booster and the whole time she was out she was not in her booster. My family knows I'm really big on my babies safety. This makes me so uncomfortable.

@kimberlyy

For all we know her sister is a drunk.

Is your sister a drunk?

I didn’t take “constantly” as literal. 🤷‍♀️

And now she’s explained. So do you still not get it?

@Bellsandthistle either you didn't read or you lack comprehension. When I took a picture of the kids I sent a text. I never stepped away from the kids.

I didn’t say I know more, I said I quite probably had more experience. In my experience the usual rule is no photos to be taken by anyone on their personal phones of other people’s children.

This doesn’t seem to be the rule at your school who might well want to revisit their safeguarding training.

Get right on that, OP.

They don't want to get it. I've explained it like 7 times. And someone still said I stepped away. Meaning I left the kids unattended and I literally explained that above also that I did not.

I’m guessing (for those commenting on safeguarding rules) that IP isn’t in the U.K., given she talks about all this happening today - including that her DD had to take the day off school today (so not just a weekend class trip - although that in itself would be a bit unusual).

EDIT just realised it was written at 3am so would have meant Friday. Never mind!

“I'm an adult I can step away to call my child.”
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Op says her only issue is that she wasn't informed.
So you can safely assume the sister isn't a drunk.

@OutOfTheHouse more experience meaning that you know more. Like I stated I did what the teachers allowed me to do. Not only on this trip but the other trips we took as well. Im done explaining this.

Would you be happy if some random parent who was helping on a school trip took photos of your children?

Yes it was Friday. No I'm not in the uk. Before the babies start school parents complete forms that will allow pictures to be taken of their kids. And before any parents on the field trip took photos the teachers made us aware of who could and couldn't be in photos.

I hope this helps I'm just explaining how things are here. I wouldn't put anyone else's baby in harm.

Not being in the U.K. does make a difference.

But in the U.K. at least photo consent forms usually refer to photos being taken by the school for use on the school website etc.

@Bellsandthistle you took that literally like me constantly calling? You assumed I what walked away from kids. You never stepped to the side to make a call? Like y'all are intentionally being ignorant.

Glad it's like that in the UK outoftheHouse. But like i said it's not like that here. Y'all are not ok with a parent on a field trip taking pictures of your kids to send to their teacher. But are ok with someone... anyone in your family taking your baby without notifying you.

Wow.

Where did I say I was happy with a child going from one family member to another? I’ve not commented on that aspect at all.

Is English your first language? You are coming across as rather rude.

Also, I’ve noticed a large increase in first posts from people outside the U.K. I’m curious as to why people from other countries post on a U.K. based forum. I know, obviously, that the internet is world wide and there is nothing stopping anyone from any country but I would have thought that a lot of the information and advice would be U.K. centric.

No one asked for UK based advice.

OP is not the rude one here, nor the one displaying issues with the language.

I can be rude. And if you didn't have a response to that I initially asked. Why are you here? To go back and forth about me being wrong for taking photos???

Thought wrong

My only issue would be the booster seat. The rest is fine. They were doing you favour.

@AliceOlive I hope you're having a good day. I didn't think this question would turn into a scratch match. I really do appreciate your input. And I hope you enjoy your weekend.

Bye all❤️❤️

My brother was. Thanks for your input.

My in laws used to do shot like this. They thought that they could take dd out for a short walk and disappear for the afternoon and that we'd be ok with it. Also very lax on car safety and safety generally so I wasn't keen on them being in sole care of our dc.

Sorry you've been given such a hard time here. Some people mightn't be bothered, but you are and if that's your boundary then fine!

Except you specifically said in your OP that you were calling constantly so…

TBH I wouldn’t get too het up about this myself. But fair enough if you think it’s worth a family falling out, go for it.

FWIW a 6yo is not a baby. And all this “good day” nonsense just makes you look really unpleasant.