Wanting to be told if my kids are somewhere

[kimberlyy]

Hello all so long story short my daughter got sick Thursday and she missed school today because she was still under the weather. Also today my other daughter had a school trip I was to help chaperone. I asked my brother if he could watch my daughter since she couldn't go to school and he agreed and I'm thankful. But now I hear my daughter ended up leaving to go with my sister. I called constantly to check on her while on the school trip and no one told me anything. Aibu for being upset about this? Anything could have happened and I was not aware that she even left from being with my sister. My daughter is still in a booster and the whole time she was out she was not in her booster. My family knows I'm really big on my babies safety. This makes me so uncomfortable.

You haven’t indicated if you agree or disagree that taking someone’s child away from the place they expect them to be for no reason without informing them is ok or not.

Well I'm still trying to work out why she came or how she even knew the child wasn't at school. Maybe her brother asked her to come and is now making up stories about how she just turned up? Who knows.

He clearly didn't question her turning up and taking the child or he would have queried it in one of the many calls or messages?

You were the one who used the word constantly in your first post??

The school trip was to a farm. Parks,animal petting when I took pictures of my daughter and her friends I shot my brother a text. That simple I was not on the phone every second of our trip.

You were taking pictures of the other children on your mobile phone???

@ZipZapZoom I'm aware of what I said. And every hour and half is constant 😴

I agree. You should have been watching your group of kids

If you* don’t want to take a few phone calls or texts throughout the day, you shouldn’t watch anyone’s child and especially not a sick one.

You definitely shouldn’t go pick up kids you weren’t asked to watch.

And if you stay off mumsnet you are unlike to be troubled by any “drama” by a thread asking opinions. I don’t think her brother or sister are being forced to participate here today. But one might be here of their own volition.

*collective you

@ZipZapZoom this the last response you'll get. Because you're being ignorant. Before every trip the TEACHERS will let the chaperones know if the kids are allowed to be in photos and it's talked about Before parents start taking pictures. And at the end of each trip ALL parents send their photos to the teachers. If it was an issue I would not have taken the photos. Good bye

You said you were calling constantly. 😁

@SpeedwellBlue read the messages above! Or don't idc

It doesn't sound like you're cut out for supervising on school trips, between 'constantly' being on your phone and taking photos of other people's kids, so it won't be an issue in future I imagine. I would let this one go.

What kind of animals? What kind of phone? This is critical information to the topic. 🤣

@AliceOlive

I'm just going by the OP stating that she 'called constantly'. Her words. Although she seems to be rapidly dialing that back now.

@AliceOlive it must be omg 😳

Not dialing anything back. If I call every hour and half that's constantly. 🥱

So entertaining how some people will believe every single word in an OP and take it literally while simultaneously not trusting the OP at all. 🤔

To be honest if your children go to a school where the teachers don't know basic safeguarding and actually told volunteers to take photos on their personal phones I'd be more concerned about that than your daughter travelling for one journey in a car without a car seat.

Crucial facts before one can render a judgment here in Mumsnet Court.

I know I did amazing with the kids. And they all went home happy and safe ☺️

@AliceOlive

We can only go by what an OP says.

So you don’t care about car seats?

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, OP.

The bottom line is your brother should have contacted you to say “Hi, our sister will be babysitting child for the rest of the day. She wants to take her to X in the car but doesn’t have a booster seat, are you okay with that?”

The you have the opportunity to set your boundaries and let them know if you were ok with it or not.

Even if your sis didn’t take your child out in the car, and walked her to the park/shops/etc I think it’s just common courtesy to let the parents know where their children are.

Thank god for the teachers and the other helpers then.

Hope you wiped the photos of the other kids off your phone.

@AliceOlive
They fed and pet goats and chickens. We took a tractor ride and I have a Samsung 😀

Oh we also saw pigs and horses

@YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo 😂