This will probably be a long vent / rant. My husband and I have a four month old baby - our first child together. My husband is already going away in June this year for 4 nights for his dad's birthday which he and his siblings organised as a birthday present. The holiday is not suitable for babies so obviously neither me nor our baby are going and will have to stay at home on our own while he's there. I said it was fine for him to do this trip without me since it's his dad's 70th and even though it will be a lot of work for me to deal with the baby and everything else back home for that time it's fine. He is also going to a no kids wedding abroad and a stag do both later this year, without me since again neither of those events are baby friendly so once again I'm home with the baby alone but have accepted it since the wedding/stag is for one of his best friends and it would be a shame for him to miss it. Now, if this was it then fine, but he is now saying he and his siblings want to take their mum on holiday to italy next year for her birthday since they now worry its "unfair" of them not to since they're taking their dad away this year. This is despite them already going on a spa trip and theater show with her in London for the day which I'm not going to because obviously i can't bring our baby to that. I said would the Italy trip be something me and our son could join you on but no, apparently they want it to be a baby free holiday which again means I'll be left at home alone with our son while they swan off on this trip. Apparently I am invited if I just come alone i.e. without my own baby. Right, cheers, how considerate of you. Im sure there are plenty of mothers who are happy to leave their babies to go on holiday but I'm not one of them. At least not yet, maybe in a few years but who knows.
I've told my husband it upsets me that him and his family are happy to go on holiday without me and our son despite knowing we would love to join them. He just says "it's nice to have some baby free time" and why don't I want to go and leave the baby etc. Just doesn't see my point of view. My idea of baby free time is the odd meal or day out together, not multiple nights abroad. Also he seems to assume my parents would be happy to have our son for these nights we would both be away, despite not having asked them?!?!
If I was organising something for my parents birthdays abroad I would make sure it included all of us as a family.
This brings me to the end of my rant. Just need someone to tell me I'm not being totally ridiculous.