Its a fence one .

[pavillion1]

We are having our garden landscaped the fence between our neighbours and ours was falling apart so even though it is actually neighbours fence we let them know that we are willing to replace . They said fine but can we make sure its like for like we said yes no problem.

I admit i didn't specify to our landscaper the fence had to be exactly the same i just said same height and we have chosen to replace the wooden post with concrete.
This hasnt come cheap . Upshot is the neighbours have gone mad about the new fence and demanded they at least get the better side of the fence which we have agreed to but im now feeling abit hard done by as yes ok its not exactly the same fence panel but it is a. stronger panel with concrete foundations .

Why should they though , they had a fence they were happy with until the o/p decided to do what he wanted after misleading them with his intentions re changing for like for like

You are still not accepting that you have misled them, you are in the wrong, the fence you have put up is stronger but In my view it is horrible, the concrete posts do not belong in a garden fence. Maybe your neighbour feels the same whether the fact it is mismatched would not bother you is not really relevant to how they feel. My neighbour put up a fence on our boundary a few years ago blocked all the light in my home, they didn't ask and when I queried it they said they thought it looked better than the one I had there which was chosen to allow light through to the property where the only window was just 3 ft from the wall. Several weeks later they took it down and replaced it with a fence we both agreed on at their expense , they had not asked , they had damaged my existing fence causing criminal damage and they believed that we would be happy with the new fence because it was more robust, (ours was only 5 years old and had been out up after discussion with the previous owners ) . Not sure why people can't talk to each other and then do what they agree.

But they and something they were happy with and liked before the op destroyed it, why should they apy again. The entitled one here is the neighbour who put the awful concrete fence up in the first place

Of course in real life no one cares much about the 'bad' side or the 'good' side of a fence. Like many people I have the good side along one side of my garden and the bad side along the other. It's never crossed my mind that the 'bad' side looks awful.

I feel your pain on that one. DDad bought a bungalow opposite me. Between the bungalow and the neighbours was a low, approx four foot chain link fence. While the sale was inbetween exchange and completion the neighbours replaced this fence with a six foot orange number topped with a hideous curved trellis that added another foot and a half to the height.

The bungalow is, like your house, only three foot from the boundary, so DDad’s little bungalow now looks straight out onto fence, and the view of hills and church that was there before is now blocked out. The light too is massively compromised.

It is unclear from the deeds and historic documents which side owns the boundary. The previous owner died, so we can’t ask him, but we know he had an acrimonious relationship with the neighbours. It seems clear that they seized their chance when the property was between owners to do what they wanted. When DDad expressed disappointment and asked if they could come up with a compromise, they told him it was tough and he didn’t have to go ahead with the purchase if he didn’t like it.

It’s such a dick move. Although DDad remains polite to the neighbours, he thinks they are selfish arseholes. He’s really dragging his heels moving in and I think this whole fence thing is partly to blame. As you rightly say, just bloody communicate, and try to find a solution that everyone can live with.

So I can just come round to yours and knock down your front wall and replace it with a different one can I? And if you don't like it you can just 'get it taken down and replaced'.

Seeing as the neighbours own the fence, yes they can. They might have to give the pieces back, but the fence is on their land.

Seeing as the neighbours own the fence, yes they can. They might have to give the pieces back, but the fence is on their land.

I honestly don't understand your point.

So you would be fine with someone removing part of your home or garden, such as your front wall or your fence, that was on your own land - and replacing it with something you didn't like or give permission for.

just to point out that nobody owns the boundary and the boundary is not a physical object. What was removed may have been a boundary marker. Fences may mark boundaries but they are not boundaries of themselves.