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To roll my eyes at people giving their irrelevant opinions on Mumsnet

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MsLuxLisbon · 02/05/2024 22:48

I don't want to make this too specific because then it would be a TAAT, but to give a general example: OP starts a thread that says something like 'I went to an expensive seafood restaurant and I was served stale bread, warm wine and I think that one of the oysters was past its best. The staff were unhelpful and I think I should message their head office. How should I go about it'.
INVARIABLY, someone will come along and say 'I hate seafood. YABU to go to a seafood restaurant.' Then someone else will come along and say 'YABU to eat somewhere expensive in a COL crisis. And what about the situation in Gaza/Sudan/Ukraine/Wherever'.
It is so so annoying and people do it all the bloody time on here. AIBU to find this so annoying?

OP posts:
theresnolimits · 03/05/2024 17:06

Am I being unreasonable?

500 replies - yes.

OP - no, I'm not, you're wrong.

SabreIsMyFave · 03/05/2024 17:15

Predictablenamechange1 · 03/05/2024 10:52

Oh this pisses me off so much!

OP - my mum abused and beat me throughout childhood and is now demanding I let her move in and become her carer. AIBU to say no?

Poster - what I wouldn't give to spend just one more day caring for my lovely mum! You'll regret this when she's gone.

Etc etc.

It happens all the time and is not just navel gazing drivel but presumably very hurtful to the OP who has not had a lovely relationship with their mum/whoever!

Yep this does my head in too! Someone posts to moan about their mum or nan or dad (a few days ago it was a complaint about an adult daughter,) and someone ALWAYS comes along and says 'be grateful you have got a nan/mum/dad/daughter, I lost mine last year! What I wouldn't give for another day with them, you ungrateful cow.'

Whilst I feel a bit sorry for anyone who has lost someone close, I think that is a really shitty thing to say.

I also HATE it when someone says (eg,) that they feel bad for this sheep who was hit by a car, and had to be put to sleep, especially as she was pregnant. And someone says 'there are 1000s of people dying in the middle east every week and you care about a fucking SHEEP?!' Hmm

Stupid STUPID thing to say. You can feel bad for the sheep/lambs, and still care about people dying in the middle east. 🙄

AND I hate it when someone says (eg) 'my friend of 10 years has been seeing another friend, after cancelling on me and pretending she can't make it. I feel so hurt.' And someone says 'you must have an easy and blessed life if this all you have to worry about OP!' NOWHERE in her post did the OP say that this was all she had to worry about. It's a stupid, ignorant comment, posted purely for the sake of being an arse!

@MsLuxLisbon YANBU!!!

RoderickHosclassicblackhoodie · 03/05/2024 17:27

Are you getting help for your anxiety OP? It isn't normal to be this worried about a chat forum.

Talkamongstyourselves · 03/05/2024 17:29

OP...."My vacuum cleaning has packed up can anybody recommend ones that are good?"

Cue endless posts of " Why are you doing the vacuuming? Why not doesn't your DH/DP/Child do it? Do they do anything around the house?" Usually culminating with OP being told to get some ducks and put them in a row, or something like that.

CulturalNomad · 03/05/2024 17:33

Talkamongstyourselves · 03/05/2024 17:29

OP...."My vacuum cleaning has packed up can anybody recommend ones that are good?"

Cue endless posts of " Why are you doing the vacuuming? Why not doesn't your DH/DP/Child do it? Do they do anything around the house?" Usually culminating with OP being told to get some ducks and put them in a row, or something like that.

"You have a DH problem not a vacuum problem, OP"

Predictablenamechange1 · 03/05/2024 17:39

@SabreIsMyFave I had both of those ('is this all you have to worry about' plus 'there are people dying in Gaza and this is your focus??' type responses - can't remember the exact words as it was deleted at my request) on the same thread.

No, I have a life limiting illness, my dad has cancer, my husband and I are in the process of splitting up and I've been made redundant and have no money. Forgive me if I want to have a bit of a whinge about my friend mildly annoying me to distract me from all the other crap in my life!

Predictablenamechange1 · 03/05/2024 17:40

CulturalNomad · 03/05/2024 17:33

"You have a DH problem not a vacuum problem, OP"

😆

KreedKafer · 03/05/2024 17:59

allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 22:55

people can post what they want

Nobody said they couldn't.

OP, YANBU. It particularly annoys me when someone posts something like that, and another poster ends up having a lengthy and bitter argument with them about it, completely ignoring what the thread is actually about. Eg:

OP: Looking for some advice here. My 12-year-old had a really bad day at school, he is having a few issues with a couple of bullies in his year and he also lost his place on the football team so he was in a really bad mood. He was eating his after school snack just now and his little sister was winding him up and calling him names. He completely lost it called her a cunt and threw his slice of cake at her. Obviously this isn't OK and we've sent him to his room and taken away his phone but the chocolate icing has made a mark on the wall and DH thinks DS should have to pay for it to be cleaned. I said that's too harsh, especially as DD was also at fault. DH has now started divorce proceedings and set fire to our shed in anger and to make matters worse, I've just found out I'm pregnant with quadruplets. Thinking of ending it all at this point, Please help.

Reply1: Off topic but chocolate cake is a really bad after school snack. Try something like hummus and veggie sticks instead of ultra-processed crap full of sugar

Reply2: Chocolate cake is perfectly fine in moderation, I make a really lovely one that's all organic. No kid wants to eat veggie sticks

Reply1: It's not fine, you are literally poisoning your child if you feed them refined sugar, there is research to prove this. It's only because people stuff their kids full of crap from birth that they don't like vegetables, my child prefers celery to a Twix

Reply2: My child ALSO likes celery but he also enjoys a treat and I don't think there's anything wrong with an occasional slice of homemade cake, you're batshit if you think it's poison

Reply1: I would actually say that feeding children sugar is a safeguarding issue

etc etc for another 97 posts

EarthlyNightshade · 03/05/2024 18:35

KreedKafer · 03/05/2024 17:59

Nobody said they couldn't.

OP, YANBU. It particularly annoys me when someone posts something like that, and another poster ends up having a lengthy and bitter argument with them about it, completely ignoring what the thread is actually about. Eg:

OP: Looking for some advice here. My 12-year-old had a really bad day at school, he is having a few issues with a couple of bullies in his year and he also lost his place on the football team so he was in a really bad mood. He was eating his after school snack just now and his little sister was winding him up and calling him names. He completely lost it called her a cunt and threw his slice of cake at her. Obviously this isn't OK and we've sent him to his room and taken away his phone but the chocolate icing has made a mark on the wall and DH thinks DS should have to pay for it to be cleaned. I said that's too harsh, especially as DD was also at fault. DH has now started divorce proceedings and set fire to our shed in anger and to make matters worse, I've just found out I'm pregnant with quadruplets. Thinking of ending it all at this point, Please help.

Reply1: Off topic but chocolate cake is a really bad after school snack. Try something like hummus and veggie sticks instead of ultra-processed crap full of sugar

Reply2: Chocolate cake is perfectly fine in moderation, I make a really lovely one that's all organic. No kid wants to eat veggie sticks

Reply1: It's not fine, you are literally poisoning your child if you feed them refined sugar, there is research to prove this. It's only because people stuff their kids full of crap from birth that they don't like vegetables, my child prefers celery to a Twix

Reply2: My child ALSO likes celery but he also enjoys a treat and I don't think there's anything wrong with an occasional slice of homemade cake, you're batshit if you think it's poison

Reply1: I would actually say that feeding children sugar is a safeguarding issue

etc etc for another 97 posts

What? Your 12 year old has a phone? Sounds like he might be addicted to it.

penjil · 03/05/2024 19:47

allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 22:55

people can post what they want

They can, but it does need to be relevant.

No point whining on about privilege or problems in Gaza, when someone wants an opinion on some shoes.

Neveralonewithaclone · 03/05/2024 19:52

penjil · 03/05/2024 19:47

They can, but it does need to be relevant.

No point whining on about privilege or problems in Gaza, when someone wants an opinion on some shoes.

But what if it's about sandals?

Lollypop701 · 03/05/2024 20:19

Mookie81 · 03/05/2024 07:47

After reading this thread, I've just read the one from a woman in the US who wants to leave her loser husband while she has an 8 week old.
Idiots are now questioning whether she really had her pubes shaved for a c-section, as its not what happened to them in the UK. Even though other US posters are saying they had it done, and it's not the fucking reason the OP posted!!

But I like a 1970’s bush! (Not read thread…)

katebushh · 03/05/2024 20:47

MagpiePi · 03/05/2024 15:04

Have you not considered that the chef at the restaurant has ADHD/mental health issues? And I nearly died in a seafood restuarant becasue I'm allergic to shellfish, your post should have a trigger warning.

But seriously, just move house and get a different job.

Edited
Grin
SpringYay · 03/05/2024 21:32

Mookie81 · 03/05/2024 07:47

After reading this thread, I've just read the one from a woman in the US who wants to leave her loser husband while she has an 8 week old.
Idiots are now questioning whether she really had her pubes shaved for a c-section, as its not what happened to them in the UK. Even though other US posters are saying they had it done, and it's not the fucking reason the OP posted!!

This kind of shit is rife on here: 'I must get one up on the OP'.
Sure, that's really helpful, why don't you just keep shtum for once?

VestibuleVirgin · 03/05/2024 21:40

Some woman on gardener's world is growing a heroin dhalia*
*altho iy could be a variety of dhalia called heroine.

VestibuleVirgin · 03/05/2024 21:42

Neveralonewithaclone · 03/05/2024 19:52

But what if it's about sandals?

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Bewareofthisonetoo · 14/06/2024 07:08

HampdenRadius · 02/05/2024 23:01

It’s all very well you trying to police people’s postings and opinions, but I’m surprised you have the headspace to do this given the coral reef bleaching crisis. Time to get your priorities straight.

😂😂😂

Bewareofthisonetoo · 14/06/2024 07:12

KreedKafer · 03/05/2024 17:59

Nobody said they couldn't.

OP, YANBU. It particularly annoys me when someone posts something like that, and another poster ends up having a lengthy and bitter argument with them about it, completely ignoring what the thread is actually about. Eg:

OP: Looking for some advice here. My 12-year-old had a really bad day at school, he is having a few issues with a couple of bullies in his year and he also lost his place on the football team so he was in a really bad mood. He was eating his after school snack just now and his little sister was winding him up and calling him names. He completely lost it called her a cunt and threw his slice of cake at her. Obviously this isn't OK and we've sent him to his room and taken away his phone but the chocolate icing has made a mark on the wall and DH thinks DS should have to pay for it to be cleaned. I said that's too harsh, especially as DD was also at fault. DH has now started divorce proceedings and set fire to our shed in anger and to make matters worse, I've just found out I'm pregnant with quadruplets. Thinking of ending it all at this point, Please help.

Reply1: Off topic but chocolate cake is a really bad after school snack. Try something like hummus and veggie sticks instead of ultra-processed crap full of sugar

Reply2: Chocolate cake is perfectly fine in moderation, I make a really lovely one that's all organic. No kid wants to eat veggie sticks

Reply1: It's not fine, you are literally poisoning your child if you feed them refined sugar, there is research to prove this. It's only because people stuff their kids full of crap from birth that they don't like vegetables, my child prefers celery to a Twix

Reply2: My child ALSO likes celery but he also enjoys a treat and I don't think there's anything wrong with an occasional slice of homemade cake, you're batshit if you think it's poison

Reply1: I would actually say that feeding children sugar is a safeguarding issue

etc etc for another 97 posts

Love this!!!!!!!!!😂😂

VestibuleVirgin · 14/06/2024 07:20

SharedAccountWithMySister · 02/05/2024 23:35

Log it with 118 118

🤣🤣🤣

DietCokeandHulaHoops · 14/06/2024 07:20

Have you considered adopting a greyhound OP?

Projectme · 14/06/2024 09:54

DagnabbitDeputyDawg · 03/05/2024 06:48

I can't bare them OP. My advise is to take a deep breathe so you don't loose your shit. But you should of brought some imiodum if you was going to eat oysters.

I need to stab my eyes out after reading that. 😂

Lollypop701 · 14/06/2024 23:25

I’m just wondering if the reason you are all being so aggressive/nasty/gas lighting bitches from hell is because you all have dementia… it’s the first stages I’ve been told (tbh I’m just a bitch…..😂)

MeinKraft · 14/06/2024 23:29

Anyone: does anything

MN: could they be neurodiverse? Sounds exactly like my autistic child/husband/neighbours sister.

DerekFaker · 14/06/2024 23:32

allgroyellow · 02/05/2024 23:16

well, if that is your response, i would suggest the problem is with you, rather than with anyone else

Nah I think it's with posters like you. And I quite agree.

republicofjam · 14/06/2024 23:32

Time to grow a backbone and show that cock lodger the door!

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