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AIBU to never speak to him again?!

99 replies

Saraw123 · 30/04/2024 11:15

i have been in a relationship for just under a year now, it was his birthday a few days ago. I brought him a present and a card etc which I assumed would be enough. He made it very clear when I arrived at his house that this was his birthday weekend 🙄 and he expected me to take him out, preferably to a hotel in our town and have a meal and drinks. This would cost a lot, which he said he shouldn’t have to pay for as it’s his birthday, I explained I don’t have that sort of money especially with my children’s birthdays coming up. He had a complete meltdown and said I’d ruined it all and how could I make no effort. For context I didn’t even get a present for ny birthday, taken out or anything also Valentine’s Day never happened too. He was acting like a complete baby and even got in a hissy fit when I said I didn’t have £40 spare for a takeaway (that only he wanted). Said that his exs did a lot more, said he doesn’t arrange or pay for his own things on his birthday and he can’t believe I’d expect a present and a card to be enough. He is 26 years old and it’s absolutely given me the total ick so I left and have blocked him on everything but he keeps using no caller id now and has text off his friends phone saying how he doesn’t trust me and how I have made it clear I don’t love him. This has really shocked me so I blocked that number too.

I am being right aren’t I in saying that a grown man should not expect his girlfriend who has children and works part time/pays a lot of rent to pamper him on his birthday when I get nothing in return anyway?

OP posts:
AcrossthePond55 · 30/04/2024 16:36

@Saraw123

have blocked him on everything but he keeps using no caller id now and has text off his friends phone saying how he doesn’t trust me and how I have made it clear I don’t love him. This has really shocked me so I blocked that number too.

If he pulls the no caller id shit again:

Him; "I don't trust you"
You: "Then you should be glad I ended it. You certainly don't want to be with someone you don't trust, do you? Because I don't".

Him: "You don't love me"
You: "No, I certainly don't. That's why I ended it. If you call me again I'm reporting you to the police for harassment"

Then report him if he does it again.

LakeTiticaca · 30/04/2024 16:44

Good heavens I have dated some knobheads in the past but this one takes the biscuit 😡tell him.if he continues to Harrass you, you will report him to the police

Fromage · 30/04/2024 16:49

Still 100% YANBU.

When is mn ever this united?!

Hope the sad birthday bitchbrat stops bothering you and takes his tantrum elsewhere. I also hope the bluebird of happiness shat all over his cake, the twat.

fatphalange · 30/04/2024 17:00

Eww I don't know if I'd have been laughing or gipping in his face. Silly lil dickhead!

GoldenTrout · 30/04/2024 17:07

What if anything is his justification for saying you have to spend a fortune on his birthday when he spent fuck all on yours?

GoldenTrout · 30/04/2024 17:08

he keeps using no caller id now and has text off his friends phone saying how he doesn’t trust me and how I have made it clear I don’t love him.

I'd be seriously tempted to reply just once to say "Damn right I don't. Bye."

Bekindmyarse · 30/04/2024 17:24

Who is the 1% that agrees with this twat? Run. Far, far away and never look back.

LittlePudding1 · 30/04/2024 17:28

Thank goodness you found out what he was like now and ended it. What an absolute baby.

I'd be tempted to unblock him and send 1 final message along the lines of, please stop contacting me, we are over and I never want to hear from you again. Then re block. You've made it 100% clear then

marzipanlover81 · 30/04/2024 17:29

Bekindmyarse · 30/04/2024 17:24

Who is the 1% that agrees with this twat? Run. Far, far away and never look back.

more i suspect that the OP is unreasonable for spending a penny on someone like his who hadnt exactly covered himself in glory before this birthday shit show

Jillybloop393 · 30/04/2024 18:57

LeaveTheClocksAlone · 30/04/2024 15:02

saying how he doesn’t trust me and how I have made it clear I don’t love him

"Correct, I don't love you. Now fuck off and don't bother me again or I'll have you done for harassment you freeloading cunt!" 🤣

Couldn't have put it better myself!! 🤭😊🤣

Allnormalhere · 30/04/2024 19:01

marzipanlover81 · 30/04/2024 11:17

irrelevant

Totally relevant.

dontdillydallytoolong · 30/04/2024 19:05

Lucky escape from this man-child. Utterly disgraceful behaviour; I would be mortified if my sons ever treated their partner in this way.

Nicole1111 · 30/04/2024 19:23

Wow. What a toad. Good riddance to bad rubbish. Block his friends number and if he contacts you again let him know you’ll be going to the police for harassment.

Saraw123 · 30/04/2024 20:14

I took the present back when I left… it wasn’t really anything expensive but with how ungrateful he was I didn’t want him having it anyway. We only spent weekends together for the first id say 7 months and we had only recently started spending more time in the week together which definitely brought up some red flags but this was very in my face and absolutely shocking 😭I have laughed about it though, he hadn’t asked me for a penny before and since he’s made no effort for any other occasion I assumed that’s how he worked.

a man child to say the least and I’m well rid 😂

OP posts:
AlcoholSwab · 01/05/2024 00:28

The calibre of men available to single mums is generally awful.

I wouldn't bother personally as it's just not worth it.

marzipanlover81 · 01/05/2024 08:11

Allnormalhere · 30/04/2024 19:01

Totally relevant.

if you read my before post and follow up post you would understand what i meant 🙄

marzipanlover81 · 01/05/2024 08:12

AlcoholSwab · 01/05/2024 00:28

The calibre of men available to single mums is generally awful.

I wouldn't bother personally as it's just not worth it.

because all the high calibre men are taken? 😆

my brother is single…. he’s wonderful!

Evaka · 01/05/2024 08:16

Well done for slam dunking him back in the sea. He sounds like a psychopath.

marzipanlover81 · 01/05/2024 08:25

what has the last year been like?

i can’t imagine anything other than unpleasant

jimbort · 01/05/2024 13:55

Saraw123 · 30/04/2024 11:16

He hasn’t met my children! Found it too early and glad he hasn’t now.

Thank god, well done, you've dodged a bullet. You are so much better off without this dickhead in your life. Well done for putting your kids first as well.

StopStartStop · 01/05/2024 13:56

Well done for getting rid of him.

YukNo · 01/05/2024 14:00

I’d have laughed in his face 😂

Dareisayiseethesunshine · 01/05/2024 14:15

When I threw my exh out I heard he had a new gf. He suggested her df paid for them to go to Mexico within a few weeks! The daft cow did!! Can't imagine how her life is now but I have an idea...

SinnerBoy · 01/05/2024 14:36

Jeez! I must say that I'm shocked at your tale of woe! What a petulant, spoilt brat he is. You are well rid of the horrible little tick.

It's just a shame that you wasted 7 months of your life on a leech.

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