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What's the most snobbish thing you've heard out loud?

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Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 17:33

Online doesn't count. It has to be something said in person.

Here's mine, from two separate people:

"The house was perfect, but if I'm paying that much for it, I don't want to have to drive through a council estate to get there".

"We looked round (school) and it was our favourite, but there's so many council houses round that area so he would just have too many council estate kids in his class with him"

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Sonolanona · 30/04/2024 22:57

My DD1 went to Exeter to Med school. She looked the classic 'preppy' student... willowy blonde and has no discernible accent, due to being an RAF brat.

One of her teachers had a chip on his shoulder about all the privately educated students and liked to pick on female students.

He actually said to her 'see you are typical... double barrelled name, private school, and I expect you have a rugby playing boyfriend called Hugo'

DD1... 'No, my family kept my Grandmother's name , I went to a bog standard comp, and actually I'm a lesbian!' Grin
She said his face was a picture, and at least he left her alone after that!!!!
Misplaced reverse snobbery in his case!!!

RosesAndHellebores · 30/04/2024 22:59

contrary13 · 30/04/2024 21:53

Sadly not where I live.

My dog was 8/9 weeks old and rehomed in the UK (my daughter dealt with all of this) seven and a half years ago. I've posted about this on here before, actually, but even at such a young age, it was very evident that she'd been abused - essentially, she's neurotic, hates men, won't allow anyone near her head, and is very possessive over certain things/people. Anyway. She is a Kokoni - which is a pedigree breed in Greece, but translates to "street dog" or "mixed breed". I spent time on the Greek islands as a teenager, and remember seeing these dogs with terrier heads and Pekinese tails running in packs through the streets...

Two years or so later, suddenly there's an influx of middle-class "naice things only" families (including my son's best friend's) adopting three years plus Kokonis, from (I assume) the rescue pages for them on FB... They were boasting to all and sundry how much 'Clara's passport had cost, I don't remember a quarantine period being mentioned (is that not a thing if the animal has its jabs and a passport?),just "oh, aren't we fabulous, we're rescuing a street dog from Cyprus!"- and I remember politely mentioning how many dogs there are in the UK needing homes. But I suspect the meaning was lost on them.

In a square mile of my home, there are 15 Kokonis (not including mine) who have been rescued by people who chose SM kudos over a dog from Battersea, say. All of these dogs (and I know this, because I belong to the local Kokoni "club" on SM) were 3 years + when they were adopted. Their owners boast about them being both rescued and Kokonis (I say mine's a rescue, because if nothing else, we rescued each other, and that she's a mix of breeds... because she is) and look smugly down their noses at the other dogs who were clearly sourced from a breeder... What they're not saying is that not one of these dogs understood English when they arrived (why would they?), none were even slightly trained, and they were obviously there because a lot of the families had kids under 8, and they were a way of circumnavigating the system. Thy wanted a dog, they wanted to rescue (great!), but they had young children/grandchildren... let's go through one of the dubious rescues on FB...!!!

My son took my dog over the road to visit 'Clara' once - only to have his best friend's mother stare at our pup in astonishment because she understands English, does as she's asked (?told), and very obviously was protective of "her boy". Snobby woman who was bewildered that we lived on the council estate over the road, wound up rehoming their poor dog into Battersea (ironically) after two years because they couldn't cope with the trauma that the poor dog had clearly endured... Meanwhile, as I'm typing this, my deranged mutt is curled up with the kitten she thinks is her "baby", next to me on my bed, snoring her contented little head off. I do wonder if she requested the "puppy playdate" (my son almost laughed himself sick when he said that's how best friend's mother had phrased the invite for our dog to visit theirs) in an effort to make herself feel that she was better than "the woman from the council estate" with "these dogs". Whilst a rescue, my dog's been with me for her whole life bar two months. I trained my first dog when I was 3 (my mother bred and showed GSDs - I had a little mixed breed). I will never bring a traumatised dog from another country into my home, when there are so fucking many in UK rescue centres that need rehoming. My son came home and said that my dog had behaved beautifully... and she was never invited back! (We do meet up with a couple of the better behaved owners and their Greek rescues from the local SM group every once in a while, though, because we like them...)

Every single rescue dog from Greece or Romania is, I guarantee you, introduced with their country of origin as the introduction - because of the snob factor in it. A common or garden Battersea rescue dog isn't good enough for them... or they know they wouldn't meet the criteria for one!

So, yes; round my way... the rescue dog from Greece/Romania (mixed breed dogs at that!) is very much a thing. Sadly.

Edited

I have two Greek rescue cats, with passports. They were the pair the Rescue had left shortly after our old boy died. They had an horrendous start in life. One was very anxious and didn't miaow for months. It took her a long time and much patience to turn round. The other was so under nourished as a kitten she has periodontal disease and has teeth removed before two.

We refer to them as our Greek girls. With patience they have settled well.

Nothing snobby about taking an animal rescued from overseas. Slightly batty perhaps as they are vulnerable and hard work to begin with.

jollygreenpea · 30/04/2024 23:14

SeanBeansMealDeal · 30/04/2024 20:12

I don't buy that rich people have no idea how poor/ordinary people live - unless they're maybe royals, when they only ever see the good side of everything (and it always smells of fresh paint!)

They must sometimes read/watch/hear the news and/or interact on online forums - and indeed with ordinary folk in meatspace, when they serve them in shops and restaurants, clean for them, service their car, cut their hair, tradesmen etc. etc. Other than maybe their very young children, they know full well that they're very privileged compared to the majority.

In fact, even Prince William has spoken out about homelessness and wanting to try to tackle it. Whether he actually does anything effective remains to be seen, but even a from-birth royal knows and acknowledges that there are loads of people in the UK who live dramatically less luxurious lives than they do.

Diana took both William and Harry to homeless shelters, William has slept on the street.

Kandalama · 30/04/2024 23:19

Sonolanona · 30/04/2024 22:57

My DD1 went to Exeter to Med school. She looked the classic 'preppy' student... willowy blonde and has no discernible accent, due to being an RAF brat.

One of her teachers had a chip on his shoulder about all the privately educated students and liked to pick on female students.

He actually said to her 'see you are typical... double barrelled name, private school, and I expect you have a rugby playing boyfriend called Hugo'

DD1... 'No, my family kept my Grandmother's name , I went to a bog standard comp, and actually I'm a lesbian!' Grin
She said his face was a picture, and at least he left her alone after that!!!!
Misplaced reverse snobbery in his case!!!

Think my ds would love to know the tutors name
Exeter too probably.

Watchthedoormat · 30/04/2024 23:21

My friend was working for a charity that was providing free packed lunches during the school holidays to my dc,'s primary school.
Friend went to meet the Head and was chatting about how many parents she (the Head) thought would pop by to pick up a lunch.
Head declared ," If there's free food they'll all be there!"
Seriously. How rude.

I also once went for a job at a school where the headteacher kept talking about how deprived the children at his school were, how most parents did not read with their children, indeed how most parents could not read themselves, how they tried to be a 'happy' school because most of the children lived with undesirable parents and had never stepped foot out of the village, how the children had never tasted vegetables or eaten a 'proper' meal. Basically they lived in poverty with parents who didn't give a shit and who were uneducated morons.

My niece attended that school.
I was furious.

KTMeetsTheRsUptown · 30/04/2024 23:27

sockarefootwear · 29/04/2024 18:26

A friend was unwell and stressing about keeping on top of the washing for her DC so I offered to do a few loads for her. Her DH insisted that I use the washing powder that he sent. This is fair enough, I would have done the same as I have allergies and some brands make me itch. But he loudly said that I must use his powder and particularly not any own brand powder because he didn't want his family to 'smell of poor people'.

Wtf 😳You were doing them a favour.
I definitely would not have used their powder! 😇

Pippetypoppity · 30/04/2024 23:45

Local hunt rode over our farm and one very snooty lady peered down at me and asked ‘is this your “fimly grind?”

SebastianFlytesTrousers · 30/04/2024 23:49

'It's absolutely wonderful being middle class'. From an absolute 🔔 end who was an ex colleague of my husband who originally came from a shitty part of Glasgow and had a really crap job but clearly in his mind had ARRIVED because he'd moved into a 'middle class area' with a loan from his wife's parents.

Pippetypoppity · 30/04/2024 23:55

Trust fund friend says to people who ask what he does for a living “I tried work once but unfortunately it was a bit too much like - well, work”

Ialwaystry · 30/04/2024 23:59

A friend was doing well with the comment "You're good looking "until she said..
"For your age" and another

Friend who came to visit me asking "are you sure my car will be safe to park outside your house?"
They aren't friends anymore.

VanGoghsDog · 01/05/2024 00:00

I once commented on a colleague's Gucci watch "oh" I said, "I've got that watch".
She said "really? But mine's real".

I said "so's mine, that's why I DON'T wear it to work".

BeaLola · 01/05/2024 00:01

When I moved into my first house with now DH new neighbour coming to introduce herself gestured towards the house opposite where she lived and her car parked in driveway and said " one day if you work very hard you could have a car like that"

I had to ask my DH after she'd gone what was so special about her car (I'm not a car person at all) - she had an Audi

BestZebbie · 01/05/2024 00:08

When I got my first job in a museum, another person with the same entry-level guard/tidying up job as me sympathetically told me that "she was sorry I had to do cleaning, as I had a degree". I was just thrilled to finally be employed in the right sector!

Platypuslover · 01/05/2024 00:10

Lostmum1906 · 29/04/2024 21:15

An Australian and a Filipino Australian woman saying ' love you long time ' in a mocking voice of Thai women.

I was deeply offended

It’s a quote from a film 🙄

FloofyKat · 01/05/2024 00:25

I was being given a lift home by a family after church. It was a hot day, and I’d rolled my sleeves up.
One of the two children, Cynthia, opined very loudly that ‘mummy says only common people roll their sleeves up’.
It went very quiet in the car after that!

PyongyangKipperbang · 01/05/2024 00:28

Platypuslover · 01/05/2024 00:10

It’s a quote from a film 🙄

It may be but sadly its a "thing".

Manky bloke at my local, who couldnt pull a rotten tooth out of a dead horses head, much less a woman despite his wealth, suddenly announced he was getting married. Turned out she was Thai. A lot of "oh I bet he bought her" talk, and knowing him for a few years and her a little since she came here, I think that that may be the case. But "I love you long time" was said with much hilarity many times by people talking about it.

Sad but very much true.

Mumwithbaggage · 01/05/2024 00:34

I used to go to the primary school in the next village. A boy once followed me home (on foot) uninvited to play. My mum actually brought out the washing up bowl for him to wash his hands in as she didn't want him in the house. And her a vicar's wife and a social worker!!

BillieTheFish · 01/05/2024 00:37

PyongyangKipperbang · 01/05/2024 00:28

It may be but sadly its a "thing".

Manky bloke at my local, who couldnt pull a rotten tooth out of a dead horses head, much less a woman despite his wealth, suddenly announced he was getting married. Turned out she was Thai. A lot of "oh I bet he bought her" talk, and knowing him for a few years and her a little since she came here, I think that that may be the case. But "I love you long time" was said with much hilarity many times by people talking about it.

Sad but very much true.

Bloke I know, absolute idiot who has had at least three wives and walked away from his first child and has cheated on more women than he can even remember himself married an Indian woman who at the time of writing is the current Mrs C. He was at one stage principal of a college (God knows how he got the gig, he's hopped around so many jobs in colleges) and took his wife to an event with some industry partners. He had to give a speech. He introduced his wife and said "It's alright lads I haven't bought her online". God knows what she saw in this absolute idiot. She's ten times smarter than him.

JohnSt1 · 01/05/2024 00:39

PadstowGirl · 30/04/2024 22:24

Durham?
I know several working class kids who left there (recently) as they felt horribly mocked.

Not Durham. I won't say because it could out me. I became good friends with people from both wealthy and not-so-wealthy families. Nobody cared about background apart from these two, and they were regarded as a joke by everyone else.

That's dreadful about Durham.

andyourpointiswhat · 01/05/2024 00:45

Me, inadvertently! My son’s lovely childminder said she was going on a Sun holiday, “oh lovely, where are you going, Spain, Canaries?” I asked. She looked at me like I had ten heads and explained she was going to Butlins using the coupons you get in The Sun newspaper. I was mortified.

PyongyangKipperbang · 01/05/2024 00:49

Mumwithbaggage · 01/05/2024 00:34

I used to go to the primary school in the next village. A boy once followed me home (on foot) uninvited to play. My mum actually brought out the washing up bowl for him to wash his hands in as she didn't want him in the house. And her a vicar's wife and a social worker!!

Oh you have just reminded me! Probably the biggest snob I have ever known was a ministers wife!

She from rather more humble origins than him, but from what my mother I have been able to work out, they met at church. He went into the ministy and they married. Always in rather naice manses and he retired in the late 80's so their income was still at the point where he got a decent salary and she was working part time too. Not like today where most vicars work part time or at least for a part time salary.

She was horrifically snobbish. I was good friends with their youngest son and he, like me, was more alternative. Well, by their standards anyway. That is to say we didnt conform to the MC "son of a Minister" stereotype (was more like a Son of a Preacher Man, IYKWIM! not with me though!)

You could tell that she hated having to open her home to a bunch of teenagers of a Sunday evening (Youth Fellowship) on a Sunday and we only got malted milk biscuits, not the chocolate ones her son mentioned often!

I think she had a good heart but was terrified of being seen as less than the stereotype of a Vicars Wife. They came to my parents house after I had my eldest at 17. No one knew I was expecting, especially me! They gave me a generous cheque from the church council for stuff for him and then she gave me another cheque "from us, we hope it helps".

SeanBeansMealDeal · 01/05/2024 01:15

YouJustDoYou · 30/04/2024 20:33

"I don't talk to the people who serve me". Said in a sainsburys by a posh woman to the checkout lady who merely said "good afternoon".

It's astonishing how many of these snobbish people seek to emphasise their perceived high-class status by summarily proving beyond any shadow of a doubt that they have no class whatsoever themselves.

Downunderduchess · 01/05/2024 02:14

JudgeJ · 30/04/2024 19:54

Having taught children with extra needs I am quite good at deciphering poor spelling!

Well which is it? Your first post said you didn’t understand, now you say you do understand. Regardless, your comments in the first post did not appear reflective of Christian values, which struck me as funny considering that your story was about helping out in church. Now you’ve come back try to further insult someone.

Eggplant44 · 01/05/2024 02:17

samarrange · 30/04/2024 18:40

What does "MC" mean here, please?

Head tilt - I believe it has something to do with a Hammer.

Snowwhitedove · 01/05/2024 02:17

What I’m enjoying most about this thread is the amount of subtle ‘humble bragging’ from the people posting 😆

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