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What's the most snobbish thing you've heard out loud?

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Applescruffle · 29/04/2024 17:33

Online doesn't count. It has to be something said in person.

Here's mine, from two separate people:

"The house was perfect, but if I'm paying that much for it, I don't want to have to drive through a council estate to get there".

"We looked round (school) and it was our favourite, but there's so many council houses round that area so he would just have too many council estate kids in his class with him"

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MotherofPearl · 30/04/2024 21:12

Anithos · 30/04/2024 20:16

Ha, some of these are hilarious.
Mine is actually from my Mother's mouth.
When I told her that I was getting divorced she said, "Oh thank goodness Anithos, now you can marry someone from your own class!"
There have been plenty more exquisite comments too. 🤣

Oh gosh, your mother sounds a lot like mine!

When I was a teenager (about 16 for heaven's sake!) I wanted to get my ears pierced. Her response, "Oh no darling, people will think you work in a shop!"

Illegally18 · 30/04/2024 21:16

NeverEnoughPants · 30/04/2024 21:01

Imo it's not the 'real' news that's the main issue with the Fail. It's all the tacky gossip mongering, and the criticising of people (majority seem to be women) about how they look, or in the case of Meghan Markle, how they touch their baby bump, when Catherine was treated very differently.

It also has a very specific viewpoint on certain issues, and I suspect they never print a balanced piece on those issues - such as anything that involves Islam immigration or Europe.

And the number of things they have lifted from this forum to print in their rag is ridiculous! It's like they've forgotten what journalism is supposed to be.

this is very true. I remember reading an article about how Ulrika Jonsson had lost her beauty and freshness over the years, with photos to illustrate the point. And Megan Markle , at her first outing after her wedding, wearing pale coloured tights to match her pale coloured dress. Apparently she was being racist against herself! The shit-stirring misogyny of it all.

Sceptical123 · 30/04/2024 21:20

Applescruffle · 30/04/2024 09:18

I've just been discussing this thread at church coffee morning with a couple of the mums. They've reminded me of a couple of snobby things seen in church.

Some people think it's is absolutely VILE to put only coins on the collection plate. You must put notes or it's just embarrassing. This isn't because they think they should donate more, just that donating less is embarrassing.

Would 6 £ coins be more embarrassing than a five pound note?

Hallandporridgeoats · 30/04/2024 21:22

@JudgeJ how did you keep a straight face? 🤣 that sounds so much like my neighbour, they could be the same person!!

abracadabra1980 · 30/04/2024 21:25

Patchymum · 29/04/2024 18:09

A lady behind me in the supermarket queue answered her phone and said "I won't be long, I'm just in waitrose"

We were in Lidl 😂

🤣🤣🤣

TitaniasAss · 30/04/2024 21:29

DD's second birthday party some years ago. One of the mums complimented me on the food I had laid on for adults and children. She picked up a cracker and asked me where they were from because they were 'divine'. When I told her they were from Aldi, she promptly put it back down on the table and walked away. 😂

GellerYeller · 30/04/2024 21:30

MIL’s weird mate who insisted certain bars in London hotels had ‘were the only place for us in the smarter set to be seen’. FIL waited till they were both out of earshot and said ‘I know what you’re thinking, I haven’t the heart to tell her everyone thinks she’s a hooker’ 😮
She repeatedly referred, with no irony at all, to a woman in a small country pile as ‘Her Grace’ despite every other person in the village calling her by her actual name, Janice.

shenandoahvalley · 30/04/2024 21:33

Jinxjacobs · 30/04/2024 18:44

Two favourites (same culprit):
'It's one of those poorer primary schools where they wear the printed sweatshirts'

'She wants the middle class lifestyle without doing any work for it' (i.e., wasn't born into it, so doesn’t deserve it).'

I read something similar on here the other day. Can't remember who it was about, but the poster said of a woman socialising in a high falutin' world "she's in it, not of it". So British!

Cyclebabble · 30/04/2024 21:34

My son- where has this milk come from? Lidl..not drinking it...Waitrose... it tastes great...

Close friend literally binning a Primark bag her daughter had brought home because "no-one in this house can be seen with that".

W0rkerBee · 30/04/2024 21:39

pyewatchet · 29/04/2024 18:24

Not sure this entirely fits the brief but when I mentioned to a work colleague that I'd stopped eating meat, she exclaimed "But you'll still eat game, won't you?!"

ha ha, that's like 'no it was just a simple shooting weekend''

sevenseasoftea · 30/04/2024 21:41

A "friend" of mine once asked in a disgusted tone why "working class people feed their kids so much junk" this was from a guy who was a barely functional alcoholic who was always pissing himself when he was drunk which was pretty much all the time. He came from a hugely privileged back ground of private school, lots of holidays abroad, tennis lessons, extra tutoring, grew up in a huge stone villa with a housekeeper who did all the cooking and shopping.

I tried to explain to him that when you grow up poor that there isn't often much choice either through money or time and energy to cook from scratch and that as there isn't money for trips, holidays or hobbies that often the big treat is a bag of chips or some sweets. He just screwed up his face in even more disgust. Someone like that could never understand or would ever care to.

Kandalama · 30/04/2024 21:44

Sceptical123 · 30/04/2024 21:20

Would 6 £ coins be more embarrassing than a five pound note?

We have envelopes so no one sees what you’re giving.
Surprised church groups would be discussing this anyway… 😳

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 30/04/2024 21:44

@SevenSeasOfRhye there's an exhibition on a Salt's Mill at the moment that I really want to see, but I'm not sure DDis is over her last visit a couple of years ago where she got muddy feet.

ttcat37 · 30/04/2024 21:45

LLMn · 30/04/2024 18:42

I really don't know when people will realise that private schools are nothing special, they they are staffed with teachers who roam from state schools to public schools, furthering their careers, that private school teachers don't care about their jobs with very very few exceptions, that human nature is to seek maximal reward for minimal effort and that nobody cares about a child apart from his parents.

You’re clearly speaking from one experience. If everybody felt the same then the school wouldn’t still be open. The vast majority of parents and students don’t feel the same way- perhaps there’s an issue with that school? I’ve experienced first hand the nurturing familial environment of a decent boarding school and it’s absolutely nothing like you describe. I don’t know anybody that went to public school who feels how you do about them.

PadstowGirl · 30/04/2024 21:45

My (Surrey) mother in law pretended not to understand me because of my slightly northern accent and had to get DH to translate everything I said.

Here4thechocs · 30/04/2024 21:45

Furrydogmum · 29/04/2024 18:17

Re a motorway breakdown, "Of course the police came back to us quickly, we're a young middle class family in a Volvo!"

Ridiculous.
What anyway defines middle class?

katseyes7 · 30/04/2024 21:47

I went shopping with my friend and her two adult daughters.
We all had a few bags, l'd bought a pair of boots from (what was apparently an 'acceptable' shop to her) Schuh or somewhere similar.
My friend's younger daughter asked if l'd carry her Primark bags and she'd carry the bag with my boots in (which was comparatively heavier, she'd only bought underwear) "in case anyone l know sees me."

Kandalama · 30/04/2024 21:47

ttcat37 · 30/04/2024 21:45

You’re clearly speaking from one experience. If everybody felt the same then the school wouldn’t still be open. The vast majority of parents and students don’t feel the same way- perhaps there’s an issue with that school? I’ve experienced first hand the nurturing familial environment of a decent boarding school and it’s absolutely nothing like you describe. I don’t know anybody that went to public school who feels how you do about them.

Absolutely

A lot of hate on this thread. At first I thought some comments were funny but now I’m thinking……no!

canisestinvia · 30/04/2024 21:48

I was working in a designer clothes shop when the local optician's wife found a fur coat she absolutely loved. She turned to her 2 young sons with her and said, 'What will Daddy do now, we normally have matching top coats."

ttcat37 · 30/04/2024 21:49

Allfur · 30/04/2024 18:56

It's a bit silly spending 30k on any school

Why?

Here4thechocs · 30/04/2024 21:52

BlackberrySky · 29/04/2024 18:40

I live in London, once heard a woman talking to her friend about having been to Brixton. She said "It was certainly colourful, but they do insist on wearing tracksuits you know" 😂 😂

🤣🤣🤣🤣
”insist on wearing tracksuits “ 🤣

BlowDryRat · 30/04/2024 21:52

"I am not a peasant!"

My now-DH to me when I suggested we order fish and chips at home for our wedding reception. It's the first and only time he's put his foot down about anything with me. I laughed so hard that I cried and continue to tease him about it occasionally several years later.

contrary13 · 30/04/2024 21:53

Saschka · 30/04/2024 16:57

Me either! I thought adopting hoards of feral dogs was a bit of a tacky thing to do to be honest, judging by the posts I see about it on FB.

Sadly not where I live.

My dog was 8/9 weeks old and rehomed in the UK (my daughter dealt with all of this) seven and a half years ago. I've posted about this on here before, actually, but even at such a young age, it was very evident that she'd been abused - essentially, she's neurotic, hates men, won't allow anyone near her head, and is very possessive over certain things/people. Anyway. She is a Kokoni - which is a pedigree breed in Greece, but translates to "street dog" or "mixed breed". I spent time on the Greek islands as a teenager, and remember seeing these dogs with terrier heads and Pekinese tails running in packs through the streets...

Two years or so later, suddenly there's an influx of middle-class "naice things only" families (including my son's best friend's) adopting three years plus Kokonis, from (I assume) the rescue pages for them on FB... They were boasting to all and sundry how much 'Clara's passport had cost, I don't remember a quarantine period being mentioned (is that not a thing if the animal has its jabs and a passport?),just "oh, aren't we fabulous, we're rescuing a street dog from Cyprus!"- and I remember politely mentioning how many dogs there are in the UK needing homes. But I suspect the meaning was lost on them.

In a square mile of my home, there are 15 Kokonis (not including mine) who have been rescued by people who chose SM kudos over a dog from Battersea, say. All of these dogs (and I know this, because I belong to the local Kokoni "club" on SM) were 3 years + when they were adopted. Their owners boast about them being both rescued and Kokonis (I say mine's a rescue, because if nothing else, we rescued each other, and that she's a mix of breeds... because she is) and look smugly down their noses at the other dogs who were clearly sourced from a breeder... What they're not saying is that not one of these dogs understood English when they arrived (why would they?), none were even slightly trained, and they were obviously there because a lot of the families had kids under 8, and they were a way of circumnavigating the system. Thy wanted a dog, they wanted to rescue (great!), but they had young children/grandchildren... let's go through one of the dubious rescues on FB...!!!

My son took my dog over the road to visit 'Clara' once - only to have his best friend's mother stare at our pup in astonishment because she understands English, does as she's asked (?told), and very obviously was protective of "her boy". Snobby woman who was bewildered that we lived on the council estate over the road, wound up rehoming their poor dog into Battersea (ironically) after two years because they couldn't cope with the trauma that the poor dog had clearly endured... Meanwhile, as I'm typing this, my deranged mutt is curled up with the kitten she thinks is her "baby", next to me on my bed, snoring her contented little head off. I do wonder if she requested the "puppy playdate" (my son almost laughed himself sick when he said that's how best friend's mother had phrased the invite for our dog to visit theirs) in an effort to make herself feel that she was better than "the woman from the council estate" with "these dogs". Whilst a rescue, my dog's been with me for her whole life bar two months. I trained my first dog when I was 3 (my mother bred and showed GSDs - I had a little mixed breed). I will never bring a traumatised dog from another country into my home, when there are so fucking many in UK rescue centres that need rehoming. My son came home and said that my dog had behaved beautifully... and she was never invited back! (We do meet up with a couple of the better behaved owners and their Greek rescues from the local SM group every once in a while, though, because we like them...)

Every single rescue dog from Greece or Romania is, I guarantee you, introduced with their country of origin as the introduction - because of the snob factor in it. A common or garden Battersea rescue dog isn't good enough for them... or they know they wouldn't meet the criteria for one!

So, yes; round my way... the rescue dog from Greece/Romania (mixed breed dogs at that!) is very much a thing. Sadly.

MrBallensWife · 30/04/2024 21:53

GinToBegin · 30/04/2024 19:53

Is that in Shropshire? If it’s where I’m thinking, my DM’s lovely aunt and uncle lived there, and it was chocolate box lovely.

It's on the border of Shropshire/Staffordshire,it's a lovely little quaint village🥰.

Here4thechocs · 30/04/2024 21:55

Mellyisatwat · 29/04/2024 18:42

People clamouring for one of the schools in an area I used to live in as it was the only school in London without a council estate in the catchment area.

I used to wonder if they would say that in front of me if they had known that housing benefit was paying the majority of my rent.

Truth is, they probably will but soften the blow with a statement like “ oh I don’t mean folks like you, obv. ..”

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