Have I become a horrible older person?

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I know most of you will disagree with me but I’m just hoping someone will understand.

I am a 66 yr old F. I went to see Olly Murs & Take that in concert the other night. Olly was on from 19:30 until 20:15 then Take That from about 20:45 for 2 hrs.

2 girls in their 20’s in the row behind me (directly behind me so in my ear) had obviously learnt every word to every song and were thoroughly enjoying themselves singing along.

Now here was the problem. They weren’t just singing along , they were singing at the tops of their voices literally shouting throughout every song. It really spoilt the concert for me. About 30 mins before the end I snapped and asked them nicely to tone it down. My sister & my friend said I shouldn’t have done that. AIBU?

YANBU!!

Asking them to tone us down is not U: you have paid to hear TT not some screaming women...

At least the OP didn't say "I snapped and farted".........😂
(Long-standing Mumsnetters should get this)

it could have been a name change!

YANBU! Amazed at the ratio on this one.

I mean OP isn't unreasonable to ask anything, particularly given she said politely, but if I was one of those girls I wouldn't have lowered my volume at all. tbh you're lucky they didn't kick off - not that they should have but it wouldn't be unusual for drunk people.

The fuck - Op made a reasonable and it sound like fairly polite request and she should consider herself "lucky" she was not met with abuse or violence?
I'm only in my thirties but - what is the world coming to.

If you can't hear the performers, and you can't see the performers because they're too far away and there's too many people, one wonders what the point of having them there is.

Hah! I remember being dragged off to one of the Beatles movies when it first came out in the 60s. I don't think I heard one word of dialogue and certainly none of them singing. And that was a movie FFS!

But most concerts I go to I'd expect to be able to hear most the songs but then start singing along with the crowd when they get to the big hits towards the end.

I clearly specified "not that they should have"
I.e. (for the hard of thinking) NOT that I would endorse that behaviour or that OP in any way deserved it, but that I wouldn't find it surprising HAD it happened.

Drunk people + someone telling someone else what to do/"interfering" = how a huge proportion of fights start.

I don't think completely out of the realms of possibility that OP could have been met with a "fuck off!" to her request. There are absolutely millions of threads on here where a poster has done something fairly innocuous and someone has reacted more extremely than the situation warranted.

Talk about issues with reading comprehension. If you saw someone running in high heels, and their friend said to them 'ha you were lucky you didn't fall over!' Would you interpret that as 'their friend clearly wanted them to fall over?' or 'their friend was making a factual statement that falling over is a potential possibility when running in heels.'

Well don't go then. Nobody is making you

Yanbu

It does spoil it if it's loud

I get it totally, OP. The last concert I went to was ruined for us (DH and I plus DB and Dsil) when the audience leapt to its feet as one when the band came on. And pretty much stayed on its feet throughout.
Which meant we had to stand too. If I sat down I couldn't see anything.
A very loud woman was directly in front of us, hollering and waving to her friends who were in a box at the side, as well as shrieking singing very loudly. And she threw herself around so much, despite the confines of the stalls seating, that it was impossible to even see around her.
My DB had a word with her, as in, please could you tone it down a bit, and she did, for a while.
Meanwhile the continuous singalong drowned out the music.

Total waste of money for us, and a bitter disappointment, this singer rarely comes to Britain and sadly has now died!
This was at the Palladium about three years ago now. His previous concert in the UK at the Shepherd's Bush empire was very different, really enjoyable.

I can be grumpy and antisocial but I don't expect people to keep quiet at a concert. I just wouldn't go.

Aren’t I allowed 2 posts??

Was there an issue with the sound? I went to see the Weeknd with my teenage daughter and friend last year and they were shrieking and screaming so loudly but I could still hear the music over this.

Whereas once I went to see Stevie Wonder in Hyde Park and everyone was shushing everyone as the sound was really terrible!

Most people going to Take Thst snd Olly Murs aren't going to listen to high quality singing, they are going to be entertained.

I'm not even the biggest Take That fan but I damned if I'm not allowed to warble along to back for good or rule the world!!

Both acts encourage audience participation.

I think your expectations are unreasonable.

I thought everyone sang along at pop concerts.