Have I become a horrible older person?

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I know most of you will disagree with me but I’m just hoping someone will understand.

I am a 66 yr old F. I went to see Olly Murs & Take that in concert the other night. Olly was on from 19:30 until 20:15 then Take That from about 20:45 for 2 hrs.

2 girls in their 20’s in the row behind me (directly behind me so in my ear) had obviously learnt every word to every song and were thoroughly enjoying themselves singing along.

Now here was the problem. They weren’t just singing along , they were singing at the tops of their voices literally shouting throughout every song. It really spoilt the concert for me. About 30 mins before the end I snapped and asked them nicely to tone it down. My sister & my friend said I shouldn’t have done that. AIBU?

you “snapped” and “asked them nicely”

really?

and why wait until 30 mins until the end as you were clearly seething about it

People want to sing along at concerts. It wouldn't have bothered me.

last month your thread was being pissed off about women leaving handbags on the table

Im assuming by "snapped" she realised she didn't want to put up with it any more. OP I do get it, and if it was a musical theatre you'd have a point but I think a stadium concert is a different thing. You're not going to get great quality nuanced sound.

That’s kind of par for the course at those kinds of gigs.

It's unavoidable that some people spoil performances. A theatre recently banned sing along for this reason.

It happens at the cinema too

Because I didn’t want to be horrible

I hear you. The older I get the less I want to be around people.

I would have been pissed off but I probably wouldn’t have said anything. It’s to be expected at these kind of things.

Idk I asked a kid to stop kicking my seat at a show recently and his Mum said I’d “spoiled the whole night” for him. I only asked him because I couldn’t catch her eye for love nor money as she deliberately wouldn’t look at me. And the kid kept doing it. I had my leg in front of DS feet to stop him doing the same as know he’s a leg swinger (has ADHD)

I think if you'd been at the opera you'd have had a point. At a pop concert though, people want to let lose.

Ah, don't worry about it. On a parallel social media site, there are a couple of women grumbling about the grumpy old boot who moaned at them at the Olly Murs concert. It all evens out across the universe!

YANBU - You've paid to hear Olly Murs and Take That, not some randoms warbling away in the crowd.

This. Once of the reasons I don’t go to music gigs that often is I don’t want to pay good money to listen to other people shouting along.

It’s fine for you to ask them to tone it down a bit if it was ruining your enjoyment, in fairness you don’t always realise that when you’re singing/shouting, that the people in front of you are getting an earful! But some people would find that incredibly embarrassing, as your friends obviously did.

people enjoy concerts in different ways, and tbf singing along is one of those ways, so I wouldn’t say they were wrong to be doing it, but when you’re seated you need to be aware of what you’re inflicting on the people around you!

did they tone it down after you asked?

tbf, this is why I always stand at concerts, so I can move to a more convenient location rather then make someone change the way they are enjoying it.. it’s much easier!

I wouldn’t go to a concert for this reason, but, to be fair, how much would you have heard at a Beatles concert?

Being an older person and no longer enjoying the concert experience doesn’t equate to being horrible. Nor does nicely asking someone to tone it down,even if it is against etiquette

That's perfectly fine though why should you sit there having your chair kicked non stop and I'm sure the mum knew ...

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing So now you can’t even tell a kid off without getting involved in some sort of row with the parent. Unbelievable. Why should that brat have been allowed to do what he liked. No wonder this country is in the mess it is

Shits me too- and there is a huge difference between singing along and screaming along- the latter of which seems to be more and more common and concerts. Singing along, having fun is all part of it- trying to screech out like an alley cat as loud as you can, is irritating as hell and I wish people would stop it

I find other people in close proximity loathsome. I find other people NOT in close proximity loathsome

Yes they did then I felt really guikty

this seems to be a popular theme at the moment... theres a video on insta at the moment of a similar situation but it was a taylor swift concert on this occasion.

its a pop concert.. the music is loud and fans want to sing...

When a poster asking her why she didn’t say anything straight away I immediately thought of chair kicking as a comparison.

at the end of the day anyone who would let their child kick your chair repeatedly is not going to take kindly to being told to pack it in.. so it’s always a dilemma of whether to say anything or just put up with it.. it’s just how the world is now unfortunately.

there really are inconsiderate arseholes everywhere you go.

No need to feel guilty, in fairness they may not have realised.

When you’re in close proximity you do have a responsibility to the people around you to not ruin their enjoyment with yours, so sounds like they were decent human being who just got a bit carried away and were happy to tone it down when you asked.

no harm done! Other people around you may have been secretly thanking you too!

Absolutely. We would NEVER have behaved like this as kids. Wouldn’t have been allowed to. Kids were kids and we had manners and did as we were told. Adults were in charge not us. If anyone had ever had cause to tell us off (they didn’t) my mum would have said “well stop doing it then”