OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

[CleverLemonCat]

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

I was pondering exactly the same thing! 😂

There’s nothing wrong with hydrangeas and geraniums.. I’m 36 😂

Definitely not old, old, but surely old enough to not care what anyone else thinks.
I'm 69 and I'm only old when i want to be.
It's my excuse when I wear something that puts comfort before style (fashion left years ago)
It's my excuse when I talk to my cat self.
It's my excuse when I want to stay in bed in the morning
It'll be my excuse next month for being lazy when I'm on holiday (on my own in Morocco and again later this year in Turkey).

So use it to your advantage, and deny it when it suits

What does the cat say about it?

When you no longer fall over but you have a fall, that is a sign that you are old.

I hear you, OP!

EDF Power company definitely not robbing bastards classed me as an elderly vulnerable customer when they asked for my date of birth!!
I don’t turn 60 til the end of the year😩

I have a house full of cat stuff- I don’t have a cat!
But I have a visiting one who comes after lunch, makes me follow him to the sofa and falls asleep on my lap so I have to grab an afternoon nap too!

Crazy cat lady minus cat!

If they are 18 then you are so old you serve no purpose still being alive and they can’t understand how you are still alive.

if they are 30 you are old because you’re the same age as their parents.

I’d be more upset if they’re 40 and think you’re old, that means they think you’re 75+

I remember studying this at school so would have been 1985 ish. I've just looked and it was written in 1961 so i suppose It has stood the test of time as it's still the poem everyone refers to when talking about old age.

I wonder what was so risque about "summer gloves" to be a thing that she mentions she will do when she is old?

Oh yes!!

only old at work and when it suits me!🤣🤣

I am 72 and I have lots of conversations in my head and sometimes out loud but I am not old. My eldest child is 50 next week but I really only mention my daughter’s age when asked because she is only 31 so that must make me young. I admit that I use my bus pass whenever I can as I don’t like spending money but I won’t sit on the seats for the elderly as I am too young to need them.

I refuse to be old until I can have my state pension, because then I will be a pensioner, and pensioners are old!!

I do feel ancient compared to most of my colleagues. There's only two who are older than me, and I hate it! On the other hand, it's a good excuse for having a mini filter and not giving a shit!

I only ever crocheted when I was a child. I made a hat for my new baby sibling - was 9 - and hid it in mum's hospital bag as a nice surprise. She laughed. It wouldn't have fitted a doll. I was stung, and gave up!

Pubes still going strong, and chin hairfree. Maybe there is a correlation then? Still no greys on my head either. Beautician laughs when waxing the sparse hairs on my legs and jokes that I have about 6 per leg. I wish they would feck off!

I don't like hydrangea or geraniums, though I do like gardening, but I always have!

My mum was only 62 when she died, and I think that was young.

YABU if they were able to assess your age by your pubic hair

See I was like this when I was 23. I've just grown into my paws :)

I would think it very strange if you didn't talk to your cat. I talk to inanimate objects. Sometimes I forget and do it when I'm in public.

I often struggle to remember how old I am.

I don't know what a bed jacket is though! I need to Google it!

I'm in the same ballpark as the OP age-wise, but I definitely don't feel old in the sense that most people mean it.

I think biological age can vary significantly from chronological age if you have been fortunate to have good health and looked after yourself. If I notice a difference, it's that I worry far less about how old other people think I am than I used to. In my 30's and 40's I was desperate to be taken for a younger age, and getting age-checked when buying wine at the supermarket would cheer me up for days! Now I really don't care as long as I'm healthy.

I picked up on your quote @CleverLemonCat 🤣🤣I’m 55 but do many of the things that you do so no you definitely aren’t old ☺️

I'd focus on the positive, that they said you were 'nice'. Imagine how you'd feel if they'd said. 'next door seems like a right cow.'

I've just bought a geranium! £1.99 in Lidl, bargain. Love them, and have been talking to the cat for years.

My DP and I shared a cake in a coffee shop today. That’s us slipping gently into late middle age.

And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.

@TorroFerney

I think it was simply that satin sandals, summer gloves & brandy are all indulgent purchases; Unnecessary fripperies.

Summer globes would be lightweight, maybe lacy. Not sensible, durable things.

Sturdy walking shoes, loose tea leaves and sensible winter leather gloves would probably be considered the sensible way to spend your money.

Sorry. Far too many uses of the word "sensible"!

I'm 62 next month, and doctors and police officers do indeed look 12 - well, some of them. I recently "had a fall" so have seen more medics than usual.

I think DS2 wins the "being told you're old when you're not" category, though. He was playing with his 6 yo and laughingly asked, "Will you still love me when I'm old?" Child looked him straight in the face and said, " But daddy, you're already old! "

DS was 24 at the time. That's what happens when you're a teenaged parent! 😁

I hope you have good moth protection for all your wool in box room!