OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

[CleverLemonCat]

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

Am amazed this thread is still going lol.
Confess I dont go skydiving, kayaking, run marathons or climb mountains.
New lawnmower was designed for a very tall man. Is VERY heavy and handles come up to armpits.
Will take on board advice to look helpless, may be useful on allotment when greenhouse arrives.
It is actually sunny today!

New lawnmower was designed for a very tall man. Is VERY heavy and handles come up to armpits.

What make is it? My husband is tall and moans that lawnmowers are designed for dwarves and give him back ache.

Lol. Spear and Jackson - from argos x

A good few years ago, my DH filled car with petrol, then went to cash point and forgot to go in to pay.
He received a visit from the police, who had copy of incident form completed by cashier.
He was glad to see "possibly accidential" box ticked rather than "definitely deliberate"
Less happy with description of driver-
"old bloke in a suit"
He was in his late 40s

Try being stuck in a "care" home - hopefully not for much longer. Patronising doesn't even come close. "HELLO LOVEY" "what's gone wrong?" etc, etc, etc. I have to keep telling them I'M NOT DEAF! and the only thing that has gone wrong is being in here. I'm 62 and treated like I'm 102 and suffering with galloping dementia. Keep your independence for as long as possible, milk your advancing years by getting other people to do things for you, even though you can do them yourself - save all your energy for fun things and let them wear themselves out.

I am 54 and have piles of folded fabric, 'just in case'. I have proudly taken delight in my seedlings growing outside, I use a slow cooker often, make soup. I was singing 'Yellow Submarine' all morning (hate that song). Just ordered a multipack of full brief cotton pants, I don't answer door, phone or do anything I cba with & I like a supportive back pillow. On the other hand I love an ale, loud music sometimes, wearing whatever I want.... Converse, mod parks and yellow jumper...yes please! ripped (legitimately) jeans, red trainers, stripey top and a Barbour... yes please. Beers at 5pm and bed at 8.30pm to watch Home of the Year ..oh yes. Just do your own thing!! 'Old' is what young people that don't get it say.

@CleverLemonCat My parents are in their mid-60s, and they're always saying "We're getting old". So to me, people approaching their mid-60s are old. You'll be considered elderly as soon as your 70s.

I consider myself as "getting old" and I'm in my 40s 🤷.

It's just life.

Sometimes people look older than they are.

(In the sing-song voice of ?Evie in 'The Mummy') "You're not helping!"😂

Sorry 😂 - some people do age very badly.

63 is not old. You are older, yes, but not old. Old is always 10 years more than one's current age. It's really a state of mind. I'm older in years than you and I know 50-year olds who are far older than either of us. It isn't phraseology that ages one nor one's clothes; it's being a grown-up. Heaven save us from ever being a grown-up.

I made a terrible mistake at work, it was noted HR are involved, I've had a discussion which could lead to disciplinary action, I'm so stressed out I got upset in the meeting, cant tell my husband my heads a mess, i just need to vent its a mess! I don't want to lose my job

You might be better to start your own thread. You'll get more responses.

Sorry I posted in wrong bit

Create a new thread...

Ps - I did an online "guess how old you are" based on your responses to questions and according to that I am 30 (actually 62). I'm just glad the didn't ask for a photo!

In my first job there were people older than me. I got engaged at 18, married one month after 20th birthday and thought the ‘girls’ of 34 had missed the boat! My cousin says ‘old’ is 20 years older than she is…

Many of your comments suggest you have the outlook of an older person but at the end if the day if you are happy why worry too much about what people think.

You sound absolutely ace OP, I wish you were my friend, we could sit in the garden on a nice afternoon, chatting gardening tips, maybe even thinking about whether you could put a nice trellis in 🤣

Your thread is great timing.

I'm a bit ashamed to admit I've got caught up in the 'what happened to my youth/looks' shock and awe recently.

I've got pretty caught up in it, The 'ooh, age, doesn't it creep up on you so fast'?! 😆

It's only about ten minutes ago (ok a year ago) I was having weekends away with a thirty five year old, and here I am referred to the continence nurse, thinking I don't miss going to gigs as much as I used to, going to chair yoga today! & getting intimidated when I have to walk past the local yoof, thinking they're bound to shout out 'Oy old lady fecker' or similar.

Oh and im referring myself to sheltered housing (I can't afford the rents, well, anywhere, so it seems the only option I've got, but when I used to Manage retired housing schemes , it seemed quite an advanced elderly lifestyle to me).

Ageing. It can be a shit business...for hip trendy things like most of us on here!

But grab it with both hands and give it a shaking, let's not take this lying down, etc etc etc

and to the poster in care, I hope you growl or find some way of turning that on its head- the patronising gits!

I'm 67 and like to think I'm getting on a bit but good for my age. Still working!

Oh my, you have so hit a nerve OP, I'm 53 and every time I look in a mirror I see my mum, she's 80!!

By what logic is 55-65 middle aged? Are you planning to live to 130 years old?

Enough of this! 60 is not old. You may be an older person but then, we're all going to be older than something or someone. I'm 62. I have aches and pains but I don't feel old and I don't think old. I still work because I don't qualify for an old-age pension (the clue is in the name). Some amongst us need to stop this ageism and find something more worthy to test their teeth on - BTW, in addition, I still have my own teeth.

In addition, I've just bought another hydrangea and some Busy Lizzies and the cats and I have many meaningful conversations. They tend to have more sense than most of the people I deal with.

I am 52. I was (optimistically) middle aged 10 years ago. It’s fairly unlikely I’ll live to be 104, even though I’ve not yet had any health issues.

I don’t think of myself as old quite yet. I am fit and nimble and still working ft.

I am late thirties and feel very old. Mainly because I work in nurseries. Worked out a lot of the staff could actually be my own children which is horrifying.