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OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

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Crispynoodle · 28/04/2024 22:51

CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

Oh dear I'm doomed! I'm 'only' 57!

Legendairy · 28/04/2024 22:52

Sorry OP YABU. 60s is old but not elderly. I would say 80s is elderly so you have a while to go till that 😂

hobbcat · 28/04/2024 22:53

You sound like the very best kind of neighbour. My parents are in their 90s and talk about their 60 year old youngsters next door. It’s a matter of perspective x

DisabledDemon · 28/04/2024 23:00

Some of the most sensible conversations I've had have been with my cats - they are incredibly wise.

petridishmystery · 28/04/2024 23:12

I’m mid 30s and it’s fine but I find it to be quite a transitional time of life - I know I’m not in the first flush of youth but I’m not middle aged either but don’t quite feel young?

Im pretty relaxed about it but I did get a bit of a shock the first time I was respectfully addressed as “auntie” by someone younger than me, but who I had considered to be on the same level as…clearly not to them!

Babybreath · 28/04/2024 23:16

I've been spending a lot more time with my 90 year old mum recently and find myself looking forward to listening to Desert Island Discs and Gardners Question Time on the wireless with her .
I don't know what the game is with pubic hair, mine is on a route march down the back of my legs.
I'm a mere 59.

ScaredyMcScaredyCatterton · 28/04/2024 23:30

Pussygaloregalapagos · 28/04/2024 20:20

I usually think 0-30 young 30-60 middle aged, 60 to dead old.

so yeah you are old. Sorry.

60-dead...

😂

NoisySnail · 28/04/2024 23:32

I remember in my thirties a friend in her early sixties complaining that someone had said she was old. I sympathised, but secretly thought she was old. Now I am the same age I no longer think that!

Mamanyt · 28/04/2024 23:35

I am eight years ahead of you, and let me tell you it is just as glorious as you allow it to be. Lord, I went skydiving last Halloween. When I hit 70, I made a firm decision that from that point on, if my sons got a call that started, "We need to talk with you about your mother," the FIRST thing out of their mouths would be, "OH GOD, what has she done NOW???" For the first time in my life, I am telling people what I think. I try not to be cruel, but I do say it.

Warning---Jenny Joseph

"When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick flowers in other people’s gardens
And learn to spit.

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practise a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple."

These are the words I live by now, oh, and also:

"Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely with a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, wine in the other, body thoroughly worn out, and screaming, "WHOO HOO, what a ride!"

SO, embrace it, and ride the ride for all it is worth!

78Summer · 28/04/2024 23:37

To a twenty something you’d be considered old. To an 80 plus you’d be considered younger. My mum never got to old age. Embrace it.

SemperIdem · 29/04/2024 00:21

I can’t say you aren’t being unreasonable but had my own “oh for fucks sake” moment recently.

Husband and I arrive at airport in France to discover flight is cancelled due the strikes. A younger British couple immediately attach themselves to us for advice and momentary friendship whilst dealing with said stressful situation. It dawned on me that I am now old enough to be considered on sight as a “proper adult”. My 35 year old self was absolutely winging the whole thing whilst the younger couple looked on as though my husband and I were the oracle 😵‍💫

KindaBinding81 · 29/04/2024 00:30

I'm sorry OP, but from your description you've very much tipped into old age, however ironic.

Do you live in the countryside? I've found the difference of living just ten miles from a city to be incredible from a cultural perspective.

I live in a city and know huge amounts of 60-plus people who take MDMA and gummy bears every weekend, going to see bands, clubs and parties etc, while holding down very well
paid jobs (or who are recently retired).

BlondieLady · 29/04/2024 00:31

Hydrangeas lol 😂 and do you have a Barbra Streisand statue in your garden!!!

Blaidd · 29/04/2024 00:49

Same age. I ordered some quality clothing from a French company. A navy cotton jumper and a white blouse. Fitted perfectly but I looked like a middle class geography teacher. Just NO. Put on my skinny jeans, tee shirt and ankle boots. Felt like myself again.

NoisySnail · 29/04/2024 00:52

@KindaBinding81 you think taking illegal drugs and going to see bands makes you young? I think you are the one who has a very stereotyped view of what being young and old means.
Although I admit anyone who has not grown out of taking illegal drugs by that age is pretty sad.

PrincessFiorimonde · 29/04/2024 01:10

I'm your age, OP. I suppose we are, objectively speaking, getting on a bit, but I agree with pp that 'old' is a term we reserve for those who are at least 10 years older than us.

I've long since got used to the fact that police officers, doctors - and, indeed, all sorts of people in senior positions - are younger than I am. But it did give me a jolt when I realised I'm old enough to be the current prime minister's mother!

I remember my lovely MIL, when she was around 80, saying that when she looked in the mirror she was always amazed to see an old lady looking back at her ...

I don't mind being the age I am. I certainly wouldn't want to go back to being an angst-ridden teenager again! I'd settle for being permanently 40 years old.

And I can't crochet and don't have cats, but I love geraniums.

NoisySnail · 29/04/2024 01:14

I would have loved to stay 40 for ever.

Alwaysdieting · 29/04/2024 05:49

SabreIsMyFave · 28/04/2024 10:48

I assume that's a joke. Why would they check when you're nearly 70? 😂

Sort of joking but they always have a challenge-do not challenge thing on the till when you buy certain age restriction stuff. Oh and I dont look or feel nearly 70, everyone in my family looks a lot younger than they are, must be in our genes. Never seen Chitty Chitty Bang Bang but I know some of the songs.

Heyhoitsme · 29/04/2024 07:02

When we moved into this house we were both 49. Our new neighbour, probably about 30, asked if we had grandchildren. I was so taken aback I said our children weren't grown up yet. I'm still annoyed!

Jayne35 · 29/04/2024 07:15

Heyhoitsme · 29/04/2024 07:02

When we moved into this house we were both 49. Our new neighbour, probably about 30, asked if we had grandchildren. I was so taken aback I said our children weren't grown up yet. I'm still annoyed!

I’m 48 and have three grandchildren 🙂

Codlingmoths · 29/04/2024 07:26

CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:31

Lol. Thank you my fine four- fendered friend! See, it's that bloody song again!

I’m 25 years younger than the op and I have geraniums and wool stocks and hydrangeas. I’d love to crochet a bed jacket 😂

T1Dmama · 29/04/2024 07:55

My daughter says some of her teachers are old…. Then says ‘about 50’

CleverLemonCat · 29/04/2024 08:21

Am gratified and amused by responses so far!
My personal take through the decades:
20's - misspent youth
30's - f u to exh. Acquired during later days of misspent youth.
40's - feeling strangely mature.
50's - nothing to report - caring for parents
60's - I have suddenly acquired wisdom and experience. Am determined not to appear mature, and rediscovered zest for life!
I love pot marigolds

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Heyhoitsme · 29/04/2024 08:57

Jayne35 · 29/04/2024 07:15

I’m 48 and have three grandchildren 🙂

Fair enough, it was the assumption that annoyed me.

Zoomycat · 29/04/2024 09:06

I'm 35 and talk to my cat! I get more sense out of the cat than my DH. Does that mean I'm old 😂😂.