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OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

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CinnamonJellyBeans · 27/04/2024 22:21

Yes, you're old. Big deal. So am I and I love it.

Being referred to as "old" is simply a reflection of your advanced age.

It's up to you whether you equate being old with wisdom and confidence, or otherwise.

nothingsforgotten · 27/04/2024 22:25

CinnamonJellyBeans · 27/04/2024 22:21

Yes, you're old. Big deal. So am I and I love it.

Being referred to as "old" is simply a reflection of your advanced age.

It's up to you whether you equate being old with wisdom and confidence, or otherwise.

I don't consider being in my 60s "advanced age". Given that many people get to their 90s/100s I have a way to go yet.

As for equating being old with wisdom 😂

Catowl · 27/04/2024 22:26

Arrr I remember starting university at 18 and being horrified that a really old person ( 21 year old) was on my corridor.
My grandmother in her 80"s would talk about the old lady (90"s) down the road.

Basically anyone a bit older is always old.

Icehockeyflowers · 27/04/2024 22:34

Are violas a mistake? Display table was crowded with VERY old people when I bought them.

An elderly man recommended violas to me when I was in the garden centre today. He was spending a long time (with his wife) choosing very carefully. As he looked particularly knowledgeable about violas, he reassured me that frost won't kill violas and they are hardy plants so I rejoiced in the wisdom that age brings and my hanging basket is now filled with violas and he better not have been talking shite

BigPepperPerson · 27/04/2024 22:37

CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:31

Lol. Thank you my fine four- fendered friend! See, it's that bloody song again!

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thanks for clearing up that lyric!
I always sang "fineful friended friend", with great conviction

Lifeomars · 27/04/2024 22:43

I had my first cat when I was about seven or eight, I adored him and I talked to him all the time. I have always spoken to any pets I have had, it seems rude not to! I talk to the local cat who does a late night patrol on my street, I see him when I am locking up, always ask him how he is. I am old, but talking to cats did not arrive with a certain birthday, I just like to chat to them, they listen you know...

Catsmere · 27/04/2024 22:46

Talking to your cat has nothing to do with age!

5YearsLeft · 27/04/2024 22:56

Icehockeyflowers · 27/04/2024 22:34

Are violas a mistake? Display table was crowded with VERY old people when I bought them.

An elderly man recommended violas to me when I was in the garden centre today. He was spending a long time (with his wife) choosing very carefully. As he looked particularly knowledgeable about violas, he reassured me that frost won't kill violas and they are hardy plants so I rejoiced in the wisdom that age brings and my hanging basket is now filled with violas and he better not have been talking shite

I love the combination of your name and the last line, indicating if he WAS talking shite, there’ll be a violent, ice hockey-style knockabout at the garden centre car park.

jakscrakers · 27/04/2024 22:56

what is age? what is old?? i myself am 57, 58 next month but i feel exactly as i did at 22, no different, music comes on and i want to sing and dance like i did way back when, but to me its yesterday. when will i feel my age, not today thats for sure, tomorrow i doubt, maybe this year or the next or then again perhaps never.

Caththegreat · 27/04/2024 23:00

They really shouldn't call u that.ageism

Caththegreat · 27/04/2024 23:02

They really shouldn't call u that.ageism and actually its not old.its not young either.it sounds jokey but how we talk about ourselves defines and limits us

DefinitelyNC · 27/04/2024 23:09

A couple of years ago we were sorting out some paperwork using a solicitor and my sister asked out of curiosity ‘is the solicitor young?’. I replied ‘Not at all, she’s in her 40s, I think.’ ‘You mean like me?’ replied my very stylish and young sister.

What on earth was I thinking?? I am 39 myself. What made me think I’m going to turn into an old lady in a few years?

user1471556818 · 27/04/2024 23:15

Oh I remember in my late 20s a couple of young boys shouting " hoy misses chuck us our ball " I literally turned round looking for my mum .
Couldn't possibly have been me being shouted at .
Ahh to be that young .
Good value geraniums. Enjoy them

ChimneyPot · 27/04/2024 23:25

Pubic hair disappears? I never knew this.
Without waxing?

Shityshitybangbang · 27/04/2024 23:28

I remember me and my two sisters painting my front gate. This old man walked past and said to me, great you have your two kids helping you!! Cheeky pig, it was my twin and my younger sister. I thought I looked young then lol 😂

Sunshineandrainbows23 · 27/04/2024 23:33

You are as young as your shoe size. Which is what I keep telling myself when I kick up autumn leaves and jump in puddles :)

OP I used to think anything over 25 had one foot in the grave. 😂

neilyoungismyhero · 27/04/2024 23:33

A medical person told me when I was 67 that I wasn't an old person. Might be now though.

maudelovesharold · 27/04/2024 23:35

ByUmberViewer · 27/04/2024 15:13

You are old. 63 is old. I'm approaching that age myself.

Is being old a problem?

No problem in the cultures where age is venerated. Here, you’re either invisible or a bloody nuisance 😕

MustWeDoThis · 27/04/2024 23:35

Summerhillsquare · 27/04/2024 15:12

Embrace it and wear purple around them.

Purple is my favourite colour and I'm 38 😭😭😭

Thanks.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

BeaLola · 27/04/2024 23:35

My lovely Dad told me the other day he'd been helping "the elderly gentleman over the road" - hate to think how old he is as my DF is 92

KrisTheGardener · 27/04/2024 23:39

63 isn't old but it is to a 20-something year old. I thought 40 was old at that age. I'm not sure when old begins but I don't think before 70 at least. You've got a few years yet. You're not young though.

Tangwystl · 27/04/2024 23:44

I’m going by the WHO definition. They should know… 😂

OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........
Marblessolveeverything · 27/04/2024 23:48

I hear you @CleverLemonCat . I come from a long line of women who don't get the age not mapping to their brain ,😂

Interestingly we all live/lived with cats, hmm. I am 48 and every time I have to calculate that my brain says "does not compute". I have had moments in work where someone has given their dob and I have to control my horror that this fully functional human is younger than some of my jeans.

Hoping your feline housemate forgives you. All the best OP I know in 20 years I will be posting the same message, I would love of you could advise then that it is still the same,

Roastiesarethebestbit · 27/04/2024 23:49

Im 20 years younger than you and everything you have written applies to me equally.

Roomination · 27/04/2024 23:55

Im the same age as you OP. To anyone under 30, we probably look like Otzi the iceman. On the plus side your hearing is still sharp enough to hear your new neighbours calling you an old gimmer, so try focus on the positive.