to ask you about different types of privilege women can have? e.g slim, educated

[pepperandapples]

Just that really - what are the different types of privilege that women can have that make them more or less privileged than other women?

e.g able bodied, wealth, education, slim. What else is there?

is height one? how about hair colour and accent etc?

I am trying to understand

Slim privilege, I think I’ve heard it all now. Try losing weight if you want to bask in that privilege.

The lady doth protest too much 🤔

Not read the full thread but being a white woman vs woman of colour. (I am a white woman).

You think the concept of privilege is nonsense @takemeawayagain? It isn't. A black child growing up in a violent estate in a poor, one parent family is not as privileged as a white child born into inherited weath. Someone born with a lifelong disability or chronic illness is not as privileged as their counterpart. Children who attend private school are more privileged then their state school counterparts - look at the percentage of both working in industries such as law and the media to realise that. Racism, ableism, the opportunities wealth allows - they exist. Whether a woman has blonde or brown hair might be a somewhat silly example, but it's nonsense to suggest privilege is nonsense

The first privilege is probably race, with class/accent and education second.
Confidence and looks after that.
(Good looks etc are great when you're young, while confidence, especially in speaking up and speaking out, is important later in life and thankfully can be acquired.)

I have a really slow metabolism and I put a lot of effort into staying the size I am. I watch what I eat and I exercise. It’s not a privilege, I’m just prepared to do the hard work.

Perhaps the ‘privilege’ works the other way round though?

You can’t comment on what an overweight person is eating (not that I’d like to) but I’ve had endless ‘you don’t need to be on a diet’ or ‘why don’t you get something more substantial’ when I opened my lunchbox at work. Luckily I WFH now.

I don't think PP thinks that but this entire thread is about the stupid privilege categories. See the title of the AIBU.. slim, educated.

Haven't read the whole thread but has anyone mentioned eye colour? How many people that are famous, admired, etc have blue eyes? Even someone who isn't blonde but has blue eyes seems a step above.

Case in point I remember someone talking about Elizabeth Taylor when she was older and had lost a lot of her sex appeal (supposedly). The response to this was "yeah, she's fat and over fifty but violet eyes to die for".

Lol, just put trainers on and off you go to the gym.. that's how some "privileges" are made.

Quite. Some privileges can be gained.🙄

You need to see the bigger context.

This is a good read for anyone that wants to learn
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/explaining-white-privilege-to-a-broke-white-person_b_5269255

When you go to the doctor do they just assume any health issue is due to your weight and refuse to investigate further?

As a matter of fact, this has happened to me before. Very irregular periods. While I wasn't clinically underweight,just small, they told me most woman need to be over a certain weight for periods to be regular so that why I wasn't having them.

Found out years later I have pcos. 🤷‍♀️

I still dont believe being thin is a privilege. Very happy for you to have that opinion, it's just not mine.

Eh? I have blonde hair and am director of a business but it was black for the first 4 years of running the business, I've dyed it blonde.

I agree with being white and rich making a person privileged but how the fck is hair colour a privilege when it takes me 45 mins to dye it every month?

What a ridiculous thing to say. Class AND race are a privilege. Racism exists across classes.

Seeing as you saw fit to correct a PP's spelling of 'dye', you do know that you spelt it wrong yourself in this post, right? 'It is died', LOL. Mabe correct your own spelling before you start correcting other people's?

Also loving the TikTok nonsense of 'blonde privilege' being claimed as an 'objective fact'. Not just a boring old fact, but an objective fact. Hilarious.

@focusonwhatmatters I do see it. I see that if my boys are taught this drivel they will most likely take on a victim status. They're not victims. They are capable of achieving.

Seeing as you saw fit to correct a PP's spelling of 'dye', you do know that you spelt it wrong yourself in this post, right? 'It is died', LOL. Mabe correct your own spelling before you start correcting other people's?

hehe- this made me chuckle 😂

People take you less seriously if you are short or see you as cute. When I went wedding dress shopping I was told in one shop they couldn't help me because I was too short.

I think being short, and fairly young-looking until recently, is why I hate the word ‘cute’ so much. It’s an insult.

I’m taking responsibility for making myself slim but I’ve never fancied being blonde.

So do you think white men NEVER get stopped and searched?

It's not a privilege to be slim. It's making choices everyday to eat healthily. It's within people's control.

To my understand a privilege is an attribute someone is born with or which is bestowed upon them. Wealth, class, race, ethnicity,beauty. Eg, just the same privileges or lack of, that men have.

Age. I’m now old enough to no longer be a target for predatory men.

Although now more likely to be patronised by males of the same age, in my experience men seem to become more sexist as they get old.

Being white, middle/upper class, able-bodied and in good health, access to education and good healthcare , born into money, being young are all privileges. Things that you can have by just sheer luck of how or where you were born or what time of life you are in.

I wouldn’t say that things within our control are privileges. For example hair colour and weight.

I also don’t see how height is a privilege for women. I’m short and can’t in all honesty think of one thing it has stopped me doing. Although perhaps it is in the sense that supermodels must be tall to do their job and that requires being tall.

My white husband experiences racism regularly whilst at work from POC

Can you stop it?

no.

I'll never have to worry about my white boys being stop and searched or racially profiled by police.

As a white male non criminal type I have been unfortunately endlessly interesting to the police, it's not a guarantee at all