To be shocked at the arrogance of this man

[Mellowmallow201]

Selling my car, man rings me interested. We arrange a time he can come look at the car. I arrive at the time to see he has all my car doors open and is sitting in my car routing through the glove box and at the manuals. My DF was also meeting is there as he had the keys, DF rang to say he had to go get a tyre pump because one tyre was flatish. Df must have left the car open.

I approach the car and said oh have you seen my DF who opened the car for you. He laughs and says no the car was open so thought I'd have a look, why not. No apology. I just thought it was very arrogant to open up someone else's car and sit in it whilst routing around. He knew I would turn up at any minute. He also didn't know my DF would be showing up, so makes me wonder would he have done the same if he knew a man was meeting him. I think he probably wouldn't.

He took it for a drive. Said he would let me know either way yes or no. But he didn't and I didn't hear from him. Why say that if you had no intention of doing it. He was also running on about making his drive bigger to accommodate 8 cars in his drive blah blah.

Aibu to be annoyed about this?

He sounds like a dick but you're unreasonable to care about it. I'd laugh at his arrogance and chalk it up to experience.

Huh? Your issue is he looked and not that the car was left open? Really?

Why would you or your husband leave the car unlocked? That’s the strangest part of this story.

Pump up your own tyres and stop relying on men.

I am seeing more and more posts like this.

Why do people start threads about such non-events?

Mind you I had a guy pull out in front of me yesterday. I gave him the finger.

Bet he wouldn't have done that to a man!

Yeah I wouldn't be impressed with someone opening my car and rooting around in it.

You left it open. He'd come to view it of course he's going to look at it.

Your car was left open, he went through your belongings and THEN you let him take the car for a drive?I hope your DF at least went with him otherwise you're lucky to still have your car.
I think you need to be a bit more security minded both personally and for your belongings. And yes, it is sad that we all have to be on our guard so much but there are people around who will exploit any little opportunity they are given.

Your car was left unlocked ... be glad your car didn't get stolen!

If the car is unlocked and he's there already, it sure looks like a sign he's OK to start taking a look at it. Why did you DF leave it unlocked?

And was this yesterday, a week ago, a month ago? Because if its been a day or two then he might well still be deciding!

He would not have done that if you had a male name/profile. No way.

Well, did you say anything to him at the time about your annoyance?

OP, I agree it was rude and it would have irritated me too. Of course fine to look at the car from outside, but to open it get in / get items out of the glove box etc. is rude. It’s still your property until he buys it! He should have waited.

What’s deemed acceptable / reasonable behaviour had changed over the years though, as reflected by responses here.

And of course what the man did isn’t the worst behaviour in the world, but I’m quite sure the OP knows this 🤨

You are lucky he didn't drive off it it. Who leaves their car open?

TBH whoever left the car open is at fault here and incredibily naive. Yes the man is completely wrong of course, but you will always come accross crazies when dealing with strangers and nothing should be a surprise.

He came to view the car, no one was there and he saw it was unlocked and was looking it over.

Maybe he did wait for a bit before opening the doors.

It seems that you want to fault with him simply because he's male.

I'm female and after standing around a bit I would have opened the doors and had a look inside.

Well it would have been more polite to wait for you but he had come to view the car, so that’s what he did.

Why would you confront a strange man on your own? He is doing it to intimidate.

How is he intimidating her simply by viewing the car?

You said you arrived there... I take it that the car was not on your driveway/outside your house? And if so, your husband left the car unlocked? This is misplaced annoyance. Don't see a problem with it. If a car was left open at a showroom/garage etc and someone got in without the salesperson being there, no one would bat an eyelid. OK, different situation, the car wasn't in a showroom, but the essence of it is there to the potential buyer, all he did was get in a car that he was going to get in anyway and your husband signalled that was OK to him by leaving the car open.

She wasn’t even there.

op is this simply all about he is male?

So DF could be fiance, father or friend. None of these should have left the car unlocked.

He was arrogant to just open it up, but I actually do think he would have done it if you were a man too. He’s just that type of guy.

But you are giving this way too much energy. People say “I’ll let you know either way” all the time and then don’t. Just keep on with selling as though he’d never been.