Sick and tired of inconsiderate neighbours

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Maria1234567 · 22/04/2024 18:44

Hi everyone. It's just scream out of my heart.. I can't understand why people can be so careless and selfish. Me, my husband and our little daughter always have been nice neighbours and never had any issues with other people. Basically since we moved to ground floor apartment our life became a hell. It was our first official place which we worked hard for to get mortgage and move in... Don't know where to start.. This building allow pets with written permission, but it is not soundproofed at all for this... Leasehold states that there should not be any disturbing, noise for other residents if you have cat or dog... But the reality is different. Basically our neighbours used to have dog and a cat, it was a big issue for us, as we have little child, who goes to sleep early and pets running for hours above us it's just mad even if you don't have children ... We were talking nicely to our neighbours and tried to soundproof, paid for installing carpets in their flat and it became more or less tolerable... But sadly their puppy died and they decided to take another puppy, another kitten. I couldn't believe that they did it after knowing we can hear everything.... So 3 pets above us, waking us up in random hours nevermind heavy footsteps. The girl upstairs works in the police and doesn't seem to care less as they just don't care like no rules apply to her.. It's so awful the way people are.So called directors appointed by management company all have dogs themselves and live one above another and they are mother and daughter, and one of them is dog walker looking after our neighbours pets, so feels so corrupted. We felt unwanted for a long time till I accidentally talked to another neighbour who is also in shock how management company runs this place as she had to live under two bulldogs from top floor, and she had to change bedroom and she is on her 80s!!had to throw ball to ceiling to get some peace ... We had to do that too, when after 3 hours our neighbours completely ruined our Saturday evening and had a cheak to bang back..... I love dogs and cats, but could never behave like that knowing that I can upset people downstairs. They allow pets to play for hours... I'm so frustrated
. And yes we are moving because of it.
I guess I just want support

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Maria1234567 · 23/04/2024 18:04

NadiyahZ · 23/04/2024 13:28

OP, you keep saying that people say they can’t hear your child, that’s what people say to be polite, I get the feeling that maybe English isn’t your first language and that the ‘typical British-ism’ that will be coming into play here will be going over your head.

People will be able to hear your child, no matter how quiet she is, she’s a 4 year old, they’re heavy footed, have no concept of an inside voice and like to play/dance/sing whatever, but as that is a normal part of everyday life, most level headed people will say that they never hear a peep.

Case in point was my neighbours (semi detached house) saying they never heard the baby crying, when they would definitely have been able to as we could hear them snore (both beds against the shared wall).

People will be able to hear your family and are probably irritated by the noise, but accept that it’s part and parcel of living in poorly designed shared housing. By getting yourself all in a tizzy over this you’re just making yourself look unhinged.

If they’re taking the dog out for the day, as you’ve stated several times, they’re being responsible owners, the dog will be appropriately exercised and entertained while out of the flat, be grateful that you’re not having to listen to a bored, destructive dog whining because they’re left home alone.

You’ve decided to move out, which is fine, that’s your prerogative, however it’s worth keeping in mind that you find animal noises offensive, so it’s worth looking for housing where you’re never going to come into contact with pets, which would mean a detached property.

We all have our limits and have to be aware of them, however you can only control yourself in this situation, you don’t know what has caused the people above to take on their pets, asking them to get rid of them, or force them to stay in one room is just as ridiculous as if someone was to ask you to do the same to your child.

I don't find pets noise offensive too and it's totally normal to hear things here and there in share living, also you can hear stuff even if you live in detached house and someone has party in their garden. It's normal as long as people are considerate. What I find offensive, that some people careless and selfish and loads of stuff can be avoided only if they wish too.

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