To have never sent an explicit photo to anyone?

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It sometimes feels like I’m the only person who isn’t sending off intimate photos?

fair enough I’m mid 50s but even so.

YABU…never ending stream of photos of bits is normal now.
YANBU…God no.

What you think people should or shouldn't do is beside the point @ChristmasGutPunch, many people do have a problem with the thought of sending explicit images and nakedness itself. They are entitled to their opinion, as are you.

Every time there are MN posts about naturists and seeing naked people some posters get very hot under the collar about it - with lots of bits/wotsits/grim/etc

Personally I feel we have double standards with our attitudes to nakedness in the UK and it would be great if there was a sea change in our attitudes (within reason ie not flashers, etc, who set out to deliberately shock/cause upset). But I realise that isn't coming any time soon.

With AI, anyone can make a deepfake with just your face. The don't need a headless picture of your boobs. So I'm a bit confused

Personally a deepfake wouldn't bother me like a real photo or video would, reason being is I have over 50 tattoos all over my body so a very distinctive look. Unless they managed to get every single tattoo correct then it would be obvious that it wasn't my body to anyone who knew me and it would be easy to prove.

I sent some, back in the day. Never unless I'd already got a nude of them first, and never 100% identifiable. They were never leaked to my knowledge, but the idea of a random man wanking over my artily and anonymously lit body bothers me much less than all the people in this thread who seem revolted by the idea of a naked body. Did I seriously read the word "ick" in this thread? This nation needs therapy.

This was also the era of many celebrity sex tapes so you did think about consequences a lot. I wasn't in a job or industry where people would've cared much, and my personal view was the "shame" associated with sex tapes was very much a problem with society rather than with Paris Hilton or whoever. Ultimately I don't think there's a single thing wrong with sexy pics or sex tapes and I reserve my ire for those who'd try to shame people who've done them.

I've also met people who've had naked photos or sex tapes in the public domain and when you actually talk to someone in real life you realise how irrelevant it is.

When my husband and I were in a LDR we would send each other pics. Happened infrequently. Other than that, no. Never done it

@LadySugar because it won't be a photo of my body. I can't control AI I can control photos of my body by not sharing them.

I'm not sure how you're supposed to vote in a thread that only offers the two extremes.
Bits out all over the place or nothing at all?
Yes, I've sent the odd pic to my husband but it's not a huge part of our sex life and we've been together for almost two decades.
I really don't see the issue with what two consenting adults choose to do
Yes, they could end up in the wrong hands but that's illegal now and you could say that about any sexual act - there is always some asshole who is going to take advantage or be disrespectful, you just need to bear this in mind when choosing your sexual partners.

It would be difficult to send my bloke sexually arousing pictures because he reckons sex appeal is located in the grey stuff between my ears. It’s a bit hard to photograph without an X ray machine.

I’m in my 40s and never have, and I met DP online.

I wish I’d taken pictures before I’d had the DC though. I got pregnant at 22 when my boobs didn’t even need a bra, they’ve never looked like that since and I kind of feel it’s a shame there’s no record of it!

What about an ultrasound pic,😉

Does ultrasound work on your skull?

I'm 45 now, but I remember in my late teens reading Mizz or Just 17 or something similar 😁 and the top story was of a famous actress who had let her boyfriend take a very unflattering photo of her with her fanny on display (under tights). I remember the title to this piece was "never, ever, let a boyfriend take a picture like this of you" and the tone of the written story was sympathetic and horror-filled. I feel sorry that the same story and picture would be lauded, encouraged amongst young female readers, and monetised today. Yes you can argue that the 90s mag was "judging" "stigmatising" whatever, but it was sending a far more sensible and kind message to very young women about their sexuality than we as a society do today.

Too much could go wrong so I’ve never sent pics. My husband’s cousin accidentally sent me some not once but twice! This was back in the days of blackberry messenger. I do believe it to be a genuine error as he isn’t great with tech and alphabetically my name is was just above his then girlfriend’s name. I immediately showed my husband because, if I have to see it so do you! And then i told the cousin and deleted it. Funny enough i was telling a friend about it not long after and she asked to see it which i found weird but i told her it was deleted and i wouldn’t have shared even if it hadn’t been but this just goes to show how easily these things could circulate and be shared.

I do it a lot with my partners, but I make sure images are tasteful and if worst case scenario happens and they end up on the internet … I won’t be embarrassed by said images. What I would never ever do is film or photograph myself having sex or in any demeaning way, that’s a no-no in my book. Tasteful nude is fine.

I’m 49.
i did in a long term relationship, which ended a couple of months ago.
Photos and videos.
Now it’s a constant worry that he has those and what he might do with them. Mind you I still have all the ones he sent me (with his face in some) so I should be safe.

stupid thing to have done, it’s a big regret.

I haven't sent any either… but I did some modelling in my youth in the 70s, and there may be some arty nude photos of me kicking about somewhere. Or even some paintings.
I don't mind about those, because I was consenting to these being in the public gaze, and they're nudes, rather than explicit.

I have on occasion been comfortably nude in private contexts, where privacy is understood and assured.

I am surprisingly aggrieved by images of me being posted without consent online (clothed) in other contexts; conferences, for example.

Yes, absolutely, no one should do it if they don't want to! I just don't understand the idea that it's shameful. Is sex shameful? People should be kinder to themselves.

But that could happen with any photo of you. More likely with the pic on your company intranet from the office social than from private pictures.

@ChristmasGutPunch I am not naked in my office photo! The thread is about taking and sharing naked pictures. Am AI image is easily identified by physical differences, which like the pp with tattoos I can disprove if necessary.

They could use your face in all sorts of criminal acts, though. No particular reason the naked part worsens the risk.

@ChristmasGutPunch the thread is about sending photos naked to partners and expectation of privacy.

I have in the distance past and I do worry from time to time what could happen, although it was pre cloud storage and hoping it would have got lost with MySpace!

If he does share the images of you, please do not share the ones of him in retaliation.

No of course YANBU. If you're not comfortable doing it, 100% don't do it.

I have done it. I am in my fifties and it has only been in the last few years that I have sent any. I always make sure my face is not visible.

I have found it to be a turn on and part of foreplay, and it has positively contributed to me learning to accept, and even like, myself and my body.