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To have never sent an explicit photo to anyone?

124 replies

BarrelOfOtters · 22/04/2024 14:10

It sometimes feels like I’m the only person who isn’t sending off intimate photos?

fair enough I’m mid 50s but even so.

YABU…never ending stream of photos of bits is normal now.
YANBU…God no.

OP posts:
Redherringgull · 22/04/2024 16:16

I'm 35 and have never sent an explicit photo, nor have I received one.

Desecratedcoconut · 22/04/2024 16:17

I'm 44 and back when I was of an age when this might have crossed my mind as a thing to do, my phone was mercifully limited to making calls and playing snake.

Redherringgull · 22/04/2024 16:18

Actually, scratch that. I've taken explicit polaroids to share between me and my DH, but I hold all of them in a secret place 😆

EBearhug · 22/04/2024 18:29

I was thinking, Polaroids existed before smartphones. And sketchbooks before cameras. Not that they were anything like as widespread, and sketching particularly requires a certain amount of skill, but there is nothing new about people (especially men) wanting nude pics.

I don't particularly care about nudes of me. No, I don't really want others to see them, or for them to be shared without my permission, but if they did - so what? I'm not ashamed of it. Even if my colleagues saw - well, not great, but it's just a body. Maybe it's because I've spent a lot of my life hanging round in a swimming cossie (swimming/lifeguarding/teaching.)

Not sure why men think I'll get excited by pics of their dicks, though. They've all got them and they're all keen to show them off - but they're just dicks. There's a lot of them about. They're not that special...

W0rkerBee · 22/04/2024 18:31

CatamaranViper · 22/04/2024 14:16

What a strange thing to write a post about.

Hardly.

So many women have been betrayed by somebody they thought they could trust.

MuggedByReality · 22/04/2024 18:33

I’m over 50 and I have never sent an explicit photo to anyone either. Nor have I received one. To the best of my knowledge, no photos of me wearing less than normal swimwear exist. And that’s how it’s going to stay.

coxesorangepippin · 22/04/2024 18:34

I'm 40s and would never do this

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 22/04/2024 18:36

No, never. But frankly, I doubt anybody would want to look at me. I can’t even bear to look at me.

mitogoshi · 22/04/2024 18:37

No, and never put video messaging on either. Just not my thing. Dc also are wary despite being of the smartphone generation.

missshilling · 22/04/2024 18:37

I have never sent any, to anybody. I have never felt the need.

AdoraBell · 22/04/2024 18:38

YANBU, neither myself- mid 50’s - nor my DDs- early 20’s- have ever sent explicit photos. DDs have been asked for them, one responds with “fuck off” every time and the other has a picture of her hair when she was showering, just her hair piled up with shampoo. She sends that.

Screamingabdabz · 22/04/2024 18:46

I am in my 50s and distinctly remember laughing at 70s porn mags that were left in bushes in our local park when I was kid. I remember the sad, grubby ‘readers’ wives’ section and whenever people talk about sharing ‘nudes’ I think about ‘Doreen’ wearing her slippers and showing off her wares on some grim draylon suite next to a 3 bar electric fire.

Even back then I knew that posing nude in a photograph was a bit desperate and not very edifying. So no op, not for me either. YANBU.

RampantIvy · 22/04/2024 21:46

I work in tech and cybersecurity and it’s one of the stupidest things to do. Even when you think you’ve covered your bases

This sums up why I have drummed it into DD never to send any compromising photos of herself. Although I don't think she would anyway.

Anyone who thinks it is safe to assume that their images will never fall into the wrong hands is very naive.

EBearhug · 23/04/2024 00:49

Anyone who thinks it is safe to assume that their images will never fall into the wrong hands is very naive.

But what are they going to do? There's half an Internet full of naked pictures. Why does anyone care? Yes, it's preferable no one else sees them, but if dome random bloke is wanking over pictures of me, or even commenting , "God, she's awful!" (probably in less polite language,) why would I care? I probably wouldn't find out, but if I did, I don't care what a stranger thinks of me.

Gowlett · 23/04/2024 00:58

Never sent one. Never got one. Bloke I dated years ago got his camera out in the bedroom, I said no way! He once videoed the action on his phone, close-up. Doubt anyone would recognise my furry fanjo, he shared it at the time no question…

PoopingAllTheWay · 23/04/2024 01:00

Im not in my 50’s , im younger but never have, never would

Groovy48592747 · 23/04/2024 01:07

I have, to those I've been in a relationship with. Not to a stranger! I wouldn't now though. It was fun at the time.

And I'd always make sure my face wasn't it in, so it could be of anyone! 😂

Isittimeformynapyet · 23/04/2024 01:10

CatamaranViper · 22/04/2024 14:16

What a strange thing to write a post about.

Well I clicked on it. And so did you tbf.

ChristmasGutPunch · 23/04/2024 01:21

In my forties and yes loads. I trust the recipient not to share but of course I know his phone could be hacked etc. I don't think there's anything wrong with sending your intimate partner something like that and I wouldn't feel shame if somehow others saw - I'd be cross with them for looking, though.

DramaAlpaca · 23/04/2024 01:23

I'm in my 50s. Never sent or received one. I'd never send one, not even to DH. Mind you, we hardly ever message each other let alone send saucy photos, so I don't think it's really our thing.

Thevelvelletes · 23/04/2024 01:50

Late 50s thought wouldn't enter my head.
Nobody needs a pic of my wotsit.

gereat · 23/04/2024 02:32

I'm not sure what OP means exactly by explicit photo. I've sent nude and lingerie photos of myself - not open legs so not completely explicit. Never sent close ups of my vulva. The last time was about 10 years ago.
I'm not hugely bothered if those photos were ever found by someone tbh. I've done life modelling, been to fetish parties, gone to nude saunas, so it doesnt feel like a big deal if people see old nude pictures of me. I'm not in any sort of employment where it would make a difference.

GrumpyOldCrone · 23/04/2024 02:56

I’m mid-50s and never have. I did send a nude drawing to someone in about 1993, but my face wasn’t in it, so I’m not too concerned if it ends up all over the internet 😁

Josette77 · 23/04/2024 03:37

I have.
I've also had a boyfriend paint me naked.
I'm not worried. If someone ever leaked them who's really going to care?

juniorspesh · 23/04/2024 09:07

I think the sheer volume of nudes out there these days makes a bit of a mockery of 'falling into the wrong hands'. Every nude is a single grain of sand on a million beaches. Plus with the rise of deepfake technology, if someone sees a nude of you - well, no they didn't! More worried about my bank details.