To have never sent an explicit photo to anyone?

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It sometimes feels like I’m the only person who isn’t sending off intimate photos?

fair enough I’m mid 50s but even so.

YABU…never ending stream of photos of bits is normal now.
YANBU…God no.

I worked with someone many years ago who said he hid a camera inside a cereal packet to film a sexual encounter. I don't know if he shared it or not but it creeped me out to think it could happen to me without my knowledge. I would be devastated if my most personal private moments were out there for all to see .

I never have either but I’ve been married for the best part of 20 years so unsurprising

Why? I don't take much of anything seriously.

I'm still capable of being sexy though. Not sure one even needs a straight face in a sexy pic? Or their face at all.

I don't see the connection? I can laugh at myself and still take a great pic of my ass.

I've taken plenty but I have never sent them to anybody. I think I look good and it's something nice to have. I've always been interested in the female form.

As for those whose nudes end up on the internet, I know a woman who is a secondary school teacher and has a full frontal nude on the internet that she had no control over (other than the taking of the photo). If I found the photo, then it's totally possible that one of her students could, too.

Well that's fine if you think that, but many, if not most, women would be mortified. That's basically the whole point of revenge porn, the embarrassment. If all women didn't care, then there would be no point in them doing it. I think you would have to be pretty hard nosed to be unbothered by the thought that maybe your boss/colleagues/parents/grandparents/other family members/friends/etc could see parts of you that you'd really rather they didn't!

As well as the embarrassment that very personal explicit photos are being shared with people/men against their wishes and without consent, I think the fact that millions of people could potentially see that image also really horrifies people. In the past a polaroid could be shared with a handful of mates (obviously still horribly embarrassing and wrong) but probably not much more than that (unless they really put the work in!). Conversely, being shared so widely could also mean that someone you do know (Joe Bloggs in the cornershop, your neighbour two doors down or one of your colleagues) might come across it.

On top of all that, as is being played out atm, people can be scammed, blackmailed and/or have their careers totally wrecked.

I do think there is a difference if the photos are identifying or not. If it could be anyone's fandango, or whatever, then it can't come back to bite you. Though can understand someone being upset for it being shared without their consent.

Still wouldn't do it though!

The above is all true, but (rare) person who is so awful that they'll send photos to family/colleagues, they'd probably go as far as taking photos without consent anyway.

Thankfully the majority of explicit photos don’t end up as revenge porn. And anyone dumb enough to send photos to People the victim knows is going to prison.

Golden rule as has been said, never include your face or anything identifying

I was talking to my adult son about this and saying I'd never have done this. He said 'Really mum? There weren't mobile phones in the 80s. How do you know you wouldn't have got extremely pissed and thought it was a GREAT idea?' He's right 🤣 I would have.

I'm not sure how common this is, but I've dated two women (I'm a man), who sent me videos of them having sex with other men... maybe to show me what treats I might be in for.

Personally I think that's a bit too far. In a situation like that, you're not just putting yourself at risk, but potentially other people!

Never sent one, never received one.

It's not really a new concept though is it? I mean, polaroid cameras have existed for years, in Silence of the Lambs Jodie Foster finds raunchy pics!

It's highly unlikely for 'those' type of photos to be used for nefarious reasons (unless you are a Tory MP!) but it's that potential - that yours could be the 0.00001% that are - for that slim possibility of major consequences that bother people.

I haven't and don't understand why anyone would want to send photos of their bits to anyone😳

@EBearhug I agree I was just thinking exactly same as you. I have some pictures of myself in a very skimpy bikini taken when I was young. Bloody hell I was gorgeous although I didn’t really realise it at the time! I wouldn’t mind some nudie shots of myself when young to have looked back on. Also @Gowlett you have given me a right laugh I can remember when my fanjo was furry it’s a bit threadbare now😂.

I've sent some, and received some, to people I've been seeing. Face generally isn't in them but I've got distinctive tattoos.

I don't want them distributed of course, but I accept that's the risk I take when send them. It wouldn't be devastating if anyone saw them.

Because for some of us it's a huge turn on.

I think it says something about the stage of life I'm at that I watched the BBC Duchess of Argyll scandal drama recently and my first thought wasn't, 'I must take some sexy photos of myself' but 'I wish I had a signature three-strand necklace of massive south sea pearls.'

Almost 40 never sent and never will

I don't understand why anyone would be embarrassed by a picture of themselves intended for private consumption. How could it come back to bite you? Shouldn't we change our attitudes to what is shameful rather than feel shame at something as mundane as the human form?(Also can everyone stop calling their naked bodies their bits/wotsit - eek).

We aren't all as cool as you or as proud of the way we look.

I don't understand why you don't understand TBH.

I don't want everyone seeing me naked. Simple as that.

@ChristmasGutPunch for a number of reasons, because that image could be imposed into illegal content. Privacy, I don't feel comfortable with strangers viewing myself over who I choose to .

I have no issues with my body, I have no issues being naked. My issue is my image could be used in content where abusive behaviour is taking place. The naive view that the image is private is what scares me most. No image ever sent digital is private.

I would be very surprised if anyone your age had! More common in people under 40 because of how young they were when phones had good cameras on😊 I'm 33 and i'll admit i did this when I was older teen/early 20s, to someone I was in a serious relationship with only!

(Male) I'm too long in the tooth now, but even when I was younger there's no bloody way I would have sent one. Yick.

That's different of you are uncomfortable with your body then posters saying how grim it is.

I'm with you @Josette77 . I love sending them, it turns me on. I discovered the joy of sending them in my early 50s.
I don't include my face or my very outing tattoo though.