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DuchesseNemours · 19/04/2024 12:32

They were always going to do this sort of thing because they have no other angle to campaign on...

Brexit is a shambles
The country is in a noticeably worse state since they took over
They have had three ridiculous leaders
They are so far down in the polls and getting lower all the time
Labour have not given them much to have a significant dig at them for - hence the mountain they are making about a house sale
They have been plagued with sleaze and corruption headlines for years now.
Net migration is higher than ever and, thanks to Rwanda policy we're paying hand over fist for nothing at all.

What else have they got now except to make people fear each other and try to convince us they are the ones to save us from the guy next door who might try to pinch our house/job/money?

Sallyh87 · 19/04/2024 12:33

I think almost all of us agree that people shouldn’t incorrectly get signed off work or claim benefits. However, logically, it’s such a small group. We really shouldn’t make the system more difficult for vulnerable people trying to access it to tackle this small group!

I say that as someone who has never claimed a benefit. I have however had a lot of NHS support and services. I’m happy to live in a society that was able to support me in this. I’m happy to support others with my taxes and even happy to pay higher taxes.

SoundTheSirens · 19/04/2024 12:33

Polishedshoesalways · 19/04/2024 12:29

It’s not exactly surprising that most of the posts support the huge increase in claimants….. when the people footing the bill are nowhere to be seen…I wonder why 🤔

I work FT, have paid tax my entire life and have been a HRTP in the past.

I still don't give a fuck if a minority game the system. We could pay for it 1000 times over if we closed a few tax loopholes and stopped tugging our forelocks as the billionaires roll by.

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 12:34

Polishedshoesalways · 19/04/2024 12:29

It’s not exactly surprising that most of the posts support the huge increase in claimants….. when the people footing the bill are nowhere to be seen…I wonder why 🤔

Well you are posting on here, are you not?

IClaudine · 19/04/2024 12:39

Perhaps Polishedshoesalways has a rich husband?

Maia77 · 19/04/2024 12:41

A lot of people are signed off due to work-related stress - burnout due to high workload, unrealistic expectations, effort-reward imbalance, workplace bullying. And it's often people who are very conscientious and struggle with not being able to do their job properly. They should address lack of funding, understaffing and working conditions in general. And on top of that you have other life challenges - menopause, aging parents, cost of living crisis and so on.

Poodles23 · 19/04/2024 12:44

Well working for the NHS I see huge numbers of staff off sick (then see posts of themselves doing fun things on fb etc!) whilst the majority of us have to cover their work - some virtually brag about it 😡. So I think something definitely needs to be done, whether this is the right way, I don’t know.

mydogisthebest · 19/04/2024 12:49

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Oh don't like the truth?

Something does have to be done about the number of people who can't be arsed to work or only want to work cash in hand, pay no tax or NI and claim benefits on top.

What do you imagine is going to happen when there are more people on benefits than working? Sure you must have all the answers

Polishedshoesalways · 19/04/2024 12:50

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 12:34

Well you are posting on here, are you not?

It’s my lunch break and I couldn’t help but see the connection. It’s important to note that most people work day time hours and won’t be available to post what they think about the sky high benefits bill….. just for balance this is important to say.

MasterShardlake · 19/04/2024 12:50

Ladybir · 19/04/2024 09:48

Like it or not but I believe there will be a good proportion of the UK population who agree with him

Yes, a deliberate move to win votes in the next election. They would have done their research, focus groups etc.

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 12:51

Polishedshoesalways · 19/04/2024 12:50

It’s my lunch break and I couldn’t help but see the connection. It’s important to note that most people work day time hours and won’t be available to post what they think about the sky high benefits bill….. just for balance this is important to say.

Ever heard of shift work, evening work? Annual leave etc...

DuchesseNemours · 19/04/2024 12:51

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 19/04/2024 10:26

Dis labout person not suggest "tax the pensioners more" yesterday?

Both parties are in it for themselves and if you think different, then you have been fooled

They kinda did and kinda didn't.

It was a statement made by a pensions advisor who is working with Labour - so not a Labour policy - and was in reference to his own circumstances where he felt he (and pensioners like him) were not taxed enough. Or, to be even more specific, were given too many tax breaks.

Catza · 19/04/2024 12:52

Poodles23 · 19/04/2024 12:44

Well working for the NHS I see huge numbers of staff off sick (then see posts of themselves doing fun things on fb etc!) whilst the majority of us have to cover their work - some virtually brag about it 😡. So I think something definitely needs to be done, whether this is the right way, I don’t know.

Again, just because someone is signed off sick, doesn't mean they should shut themselves in a dark room. They may not be well enough to handle 12h shift on a ward but they may be perfectly fine to go to the park for 30 minutes or meet friends for dinner.

Bigtrip2026 · 19/04/2024 12:53

I have a breast lump, 12 week waiting list for follow up. I don't see how the Tories have anything to boast about when it comes to people's health. The NHS is a shit show nothing in it, around it, or under it, has improved under their watch. They should be ashamed but unsurprisingly they're not.

mydogisthebest · 19/04/2024 12:54

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 11:47

My neighbour gets benefits because he has such bad anxiety he can't leave his house. I would have sympathy as I have suffered anxiety that bad except in my case I did not leave my house for several months. He leaves his house almost every day to work cash in hand, go shopping, walk his dogs, go swimming etc

It never ceases to amaze me how much people seem to know about their neighbours. You have no idea what he put on his forms, or how his anxiety may present from one day to the next. He is not you!

Well some of us have neighbours that are also friends and yes I do know what he put on his forms.

So anxiety which means he can't leave the house can present hour to hour can it? He goes out Monday to Friday to work cash in hand and then weekends and evenings he goes shopping, walks his dogs, goes swimming, goes to visit friends, goes to judo, goes out to eat.

Polishedshoesalways · 19/04/2024 12:56

mydogisthebest · 19/04/2024 12:54

Well some of us have neighbours that are also friends and yes I do know what he put on his forms.

So anxiety which means he can't leave the house can present hour to hour can it? He goes out Monday to Friday to work cash in hand and then weekends and evenings he goes shopping, walks his dogs, goes swimming, goes to visit friends, goes to judo, goes out to eat.

You should report him. It’s fraud.

Weighnow · 19/04/2024 12:58

I'm conflicted by this. I absolutely agree people who need sick leave and associated benefits should have it, but it is too easy.

I needed a certificate for the first time in my life recently. I told the receptionist my issue and she had one sent. I didn't see or speak to a doctor.

From talking to colleagues, doctors just seem to sign people off when they ask, without any discussion about whether or how or when they might be fit to work.

The system does need some change.

mydogisthebest · 19/04/2024 12:59

Iamme1980 · 19/04/2024 12:29

Why do people keep telling the same old crap about benefits on here.
Nope benefits is not for life anymore! If your single or in a couple if you don't have a disability or is caring for someone once your child reaches 3 you have to look for work!
If you don't you get punished and your money taken of you it's that simple as that!
So I don't know why people are saying they know of someone who has been on benefits for years now with no other issues.

My friend is a carer to her adult son who is in a wheelchair after being in a coma as a child after having a heart attack due to a heart condition that no one knew he had until after.
He can not feed himself or do any basic care needs for himself.
And he was made to go into the job centre and present himself to get UC and prove he was unfit for work and fighting for that!

Unfortunately there are always going to be people taking the mick and mostly the tax dodgers I'm more concerned about!
The government love pitting people against each other and it works.

Absolute bollocks rubbish. Some people definitely know how to play the system.

Makes me furious about my neighbour and I have reported him to the inland revenue for working cash in hand and the benefits people for claiming to be to ill to leave the house but actually leaving the house every day. Nothing is done about it.

He was told if he could not leave the house he could work at home but then they got him to do some sort of spelling and english test which he failed so they said he couldn't work from home!!!!

Polishedshoesalways · 19/04/2024 13:00

mydogisthebest · 19/04/2024 12:59

Absolute bollocks rubbish. Some people definitely know how to play the system.

Makes me furious about my neighbour and I have reported him to the inland revenue for working cash in hand and the benefits people for claiming to be to ill to leave the house but actually leaving the house every day. Nothing is done about it.

He was told if he could not leave the house he could work at home but then they got him to do some sort of spelling and english test which he failed so they said he couldn't work from home!!!!

I could not be friends with someone like this.

IClaudine · 19/04/2024 13:00

mydogisthebest · 19/04/2024 12:54

Well some of us have neighbours that are also friends and yes I do know what he put on his forms.

So anxiety which means he can't leave the house can present hour to hour can it? He goes out Monday to Friday to work cash in hand and then weekends and evenings he goes shopping, walks his dogs, goes swimming, goes to visit friends, goes to judo, goes out to eat.

It is very hard to get ESA. A lot of evidence needs to be provided. The assessors and decision makers don't just take the claimants word for it.

AllTheChaos · 19/04/2024 13:00

Rinoachicken · 19/04/2024 09:56

Wow would you believe more people are sick after government has failed to protect public health and failed to fund the NHS properly (for years) so people can't get timely treatment. Whoever would have guessed that might happen?!

“We’re also going to test shifting the responsibility for assessment from GPs and giving it to specialist work and health professionals”

Another nice fat contract for Capita coming up.

Maybe address the underlying causes of the increase in ill health in this country instead - just a thought. Increased absence due to mental and physical health issues is not caused by “sicknote culture”, but by 14 years of Tory so-called government.

Maybe there would not be so many people off work sick in the UK if we: -

  1. Had functioning GP services.
  2. Didn't have millions of people waiting for treatment on the NHS.
  3. Had decent mental health care.
  4. Didn't have millions living under the constant stress of how to feed, clothe and keep themselves warm.
Maybe Sunak could contemplate whether the Tories have some responsibility for any of the above points after 14 years in power, rather than scapegoating the victims of his party's abject failures.

OMG this! So much this!

KeyboardMash · 19/04/2024 13:00

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/04/2024 10:58

I think what's really getting under my skin is the bit about who deserves help. The implication that people are regularly whining about ordinary life events and demanding to have lufel8ng financial support.

Firstly, many UC do work but employers do not provide security or a living wage. The mist modest standards of living require a government top up. That's not down to people who want to work/ are working That's down to a system which those in government and their corporate cronies have engineered to increase profits and dividends.

Secondly, these "Life events" which are being overly medicalised, when cumulative, do severely impact the mental health of the most resilient. In my case, I was widowed two years ago, my business has collapsed due to COL etc leaving me in a considerable amount of debt, my section 21 expired on 11th April and I can't access secure housing. I have to be taken to court to get me out otherwise I am classed as intentionally homeless. In addition since New Years I have been helping firefight my elderly parents situation which is a combination of mental and physical health issues, and is ongoing, complicated by family dynamics due to the mental health issues of one of said parents. I am an only child. I'm recently diagnosed with hypertension and feel like my head is going to explode.

Navigating failing systems on mine and my parents behalf is a full time job in itself.

I did not choose this. It is a series of unfortunate events and many others are in similar positions.

I would like nothing more than to be in a stable enough position to appeal to an employer. At my age, 55, I apparently could be a carer. Never mind the CPTSD I apparently have from my Mum's death (cancer), watching my DP die unexpectedly (also cancer) or my first dementia rodeo with my MIL who I cared for while working for 18 months.

Poor life choices and planning? Lack of resilience? Probably in some areas. But when you're in the thick of it you end up dealing with the best option available at the time, not calmly planning for the long term and how you can be useful economic unit.

Sorry for the rant. As I say, I'm aware others have it worse, and I feel for everyone struggling.

The world is a shitshow and the shovels get smaller every day.

The bit that killed me here was: The implication that people are regularly whining about ordinary life events. Because it is a demonstrable fact that life has gotten very much shittier for a significant majority of people under the Tories. Even if you're lucky enough to find a job that pays enough to live off, which is no longer a given, you are likely to struggle to find somewhere affordable to put your kids while you're doing it, and if any of us needs an ambulance we better just cross our fingers and hope. They seem baffled that so many people are depressed when quite a lot of the depression people are carrying around is a very rational response to the shitty circumstances we are currently living through. Depression isn't something which is entirely divorced from the circumstances of our lives and it isn't surprising more people are affected as the fabric of society and the services that are supposed to support and help us crumble to nothing. Ordinary life is pretty fucking miserable under these cunts, isn't it?! Makes me want to weep. Often literally.

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 13:00

Polishedshoesalways · 19/04/2024 12:56

You should report him. It’s fraud.

Or she could just concern herself with her own affairs, just a thought.

Itiswhatitis80 · 19/04/2024 13:01

A lot of people play the benefit system,if you think they dont then you are delusional,yes,there is genuine people who need it but most don’t.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 19/04/2024 13:01

I think almost all of us agree that people shouldn’t incorrectly get signed off work or claim benefits. However, logically, it’s such a small group. We really shouldn’t make the system more difficult for vulnerable people trying to access it to tackle this small group

The wider issue is, that there are people who are perfectly able to work that are currently on repeat sick notes issued by the GP's receptionist.

It's another way of covering up the underfunding of the NHS.
Let us think this small group is significant enough for a bit of benefits bashing. When in reality all they need is being seen by their Dr or a specialist to give advice and support in order to return to the workforce.