I think what's really getting under my skin is the bit about who deserves help. The implication that people are regularly whining about ordinary life events and demanding to have lufel8ng financial support.
Firstly, many UC do work but employers do not provide security or a living wage. The mist modest standards of living require a government top up. That's not down to people who want to work/ are working That's down to a system which those in government and their corporate cronies have engineered to increase profits and dividends.
Secondly, these "Life events" which are being overly medicalised, when cumulative, do severely impact the mental health of the most resilient. In my case, I was widowed two years ago, my business has collapsed due to COL etc leaving me in a considerable amount of debt, my section 21 expired on 11th April and I can't access secure housing. I have to be taken to court to get me out otherwise I am classed as intentionally homeless. In addition since New Years I have been helping firefight my elderly parents situation which is a combination of mental and physical health issues, and is ongoing, complicated by family dynamics due to the mental health issues of one of said parents. I am an only child. I'm recently diagnosed with hypertension and feel like my head is going to explode.
Navigating failing systems on mine and my parents behalf is a full time job in itself.
I did not choose this. It is a series of unfortunate events and many others are in similar positions.
I would like nothing more than to be in a stable enough position to appeal to an employer. At my age, 55, I apparently could be a carer. Never mind the CPTSD I apparently have from my Mum's death (cancer), watching my DP die unexpectedly (also cancer) or my first dementia rodeo with my MIL who I cared for while working for 18 months.
Poor life choices and planning? Lack of resilience? Probably in some areas. But when you're in the thick of it you end up dealing with the best option available at the time, not calmly planning for the long term and how you can be useful economic unit.
Sorry for the rant. As I say, I'm aware others have it worse, and I feel for everyone struggling.
The world is a shitshow and the shovels get smaller every day.