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IClaudine · 19/04/2024 22:15

Sorry, link here!

www.benefitsandwork.co.uk/personal-independence-payment-pip/success-rates

OOBetty · 19/04/2024 22:16

IClaudine · 19/04/2024 22:08

That is very unlike HMRC. 🤷‍♀️

I don’t think she’d lie as she always stresses how much she gets taxed for work and how unfair the system is. So if they’d tried to recoup or fine it would simply add fuel to her disdain of the tax system. Also she doesn’t have the money to pay them back, so I’d definitely be told about that.

Shes a good friend but I think hmrc are pathetic.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 19/04/2024 22:18

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/04/2024 18:00

And that my pedigree chums is comedy gold.

It certainly made me laugh. A hollow, mocking laughter but still...

How many times does it have to be explained on here before these people get it?

OnlyTheBravest · 19/04/2024 22:22

Tryingtobewellbalanced · 19/04/2024 22:07

This is annoying. I dont get PIP, but clearly need it, but would spend it on therapy and treatments to allievate my pain and symptoms.

I never considered becoming an addict to get the money to treat my root problem.

I'm in agreement that addicts should get therapy. How that mechanism works I don't know....

Maybe Rishi should focus on training more mental health workers, councillors and theapists and creating a country which isn't destroying people. 🤔

This is what frustrates me the most. People not getting the help they need.
It needs to be more than cut off benefits after a year.

I would also like to see an increase to the number of therapists, mental health specialists etc. Treat the root of the issue better and not the consequence.
I still do not think additional cash benefits long term is the answer for all conditions.

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 22:25

OOBetty · 19/04/2024 20:52

Read the full running thread I posted onto!!!!!
She doesn’t have anything, she’s deliberately lying
She admitted it
Shes claiming her daughters is her carer as well to get reduced grade offers to University too
Its all a scam

Ok, I see. I do find it strange though that people would talk so freely like this. It is not like some people will be slow in reporting them.

Menomeno · 19/04/2024 22:34

My DM is on PIP, and is also an alcoholic. She didn’t get PIP for alcoholism, she got it Dissociative Identity Disorder (used to be called multiple personality disorder) which she had self-medicated for years with alcohol. She’s been sober for a few years now, but she’s still very mentally ill. In many cases the alcoholism will be a co-morbidity, not the primary disease.

IClaudine · 19/04/2024 22:40

That must be so hard for you and your DM menomeno.

OOBetty · 19/04/2024 22:41

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 22:25

Ok, I see. I do find it strange though that people would talk so freely like this. It is not like some people will be slow in reporting them.

I agree.
I suppose my friend knows me too well to know I’d never report her, which I haven’t although I will quite freely tell her I think it’s wrong or at the very least act shocked.
The fact I have never reported anyone makes me part of the problem I suppose.

87SPD · 19/04/2024 22:45

Rinoachicken · 19/04/2024 09:56

Wow would you believe more people are sick after government has failed to protect public health and failed to fund the NHS properly (for years) so people can't get timely treatment. Whoever would have guessed that might happen?!

“We’re also going to test shifting the responsibility for assessment from GPs and giving it to specialist work and health professionals”

Another nice fat contract for Capita coming up.

Maybe address the underlying causes of the increase in ill health in this country instead - just a thought. Increased absence due to mental and physical health issues is not caused by “sicknote culture”, but by 14 years of Tory so-called government.

Maybe there would not be so many people off work sick in the UK if we: -

  1. Had functioning GP services.
  2. Didn't have millions of people waiting for treatment on the NHS.
  3. Had decent mental health care.
  4. Didn't have millions living under the constant stress of how to feed, clothe and keep themselves warm.
Maybe Sunak could contemplate whether the Tories have some responsibility for any of the above points after 14 years in power, rather than scapegoating the victims of his party's abject failures.

Well said! 👏

Gilead · 19/04/2024 22:49

pointythings · 19/04/2024 19:16

@Gilead were you really responding to me rather than to @Polishedshoesalways ? Because I'm not one of the benfits bashers on this thread.

Apologies, I take a fair few meds and occasionally get muddled!

TitusGroanAgain · 19/04/2024 22:54

IClaudine · 19/04/2024 21:34

I genuinely can't find anything specifying Labour's ISA proposals, I would really appreciate a link.

Eta: all I can find is something about simplifying the ISA landscape, but nothing more detailed?

Edited

@IClaudine i have also seen stuff in the papers and ‘money’ websites more recently re savings and ISAs etc
Labour haven’t given actual specifics as yet ( to my knowledge) but I do recall they are trying to encourage more investment in the uk and isa investments are being targeted which will effectively give a lower return than is currently the case. Think there’s a proposed limit as well after which you won’t get tax relief ( to affect 1.5million people)
There are various investment firms advising how to avoid losses on savings and assets if Labour get in. [The asset issue is to do with one partner dying and the remaining partner being affected by inheritance tax whereas now a partner inherits automatically without penalty and just ‘pays’ the tax on their death. ( again no firm details as yet ) ]
Id look at these firms advice if you are interested any further

Toastandbutterand · 19/04/2024 22:54

Menomeno · 19/04/2024 22:34

My DM is on PIP, and is also an alcoholic. She didn’t get PIP for alcoholism, she got it Dissociative Identity Disorder (used to be called multiple personality disorder) which she had self-medicated for years with alcohol. She’s been sober for a few years now, but she’s still very mentally ill. In many cases the alcoholism will be a co-morbidity, not the primary disease.

Well no, you don't get pip for alcoholism.
Pip is a needs based benefit, not dependent on your diagnosis.

The people saying you do are lying Tory bastards.

I hope you're doing ok and your mum is getting the help she needs. Though I appreciate that's nearly impossible in today's society x

eyeofaneedle · 19/04/2024 23:01

OnlyTheBravest · 19/04/2024 21:47

@XenoBitch There are a lot of people who have no issue with disability benefits (me included) but do wonder why additional money is given to addicts. Is this the best we can do for the most vulnerable? This would not stop their UC claim, which would pay for living costs? It is the additional money (PIP/DLA). What is it for? Genuine question

He's going after universal credit to its not just disability

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/04/2024 23:53

Also UC may berthed amount the government has decided you need to live on" but the rent component is based on your Local Authority Housing Allowance which is often at least a couple of hundred pounds shy of actual local rents. If all you get is standard personal allowance on top of the rent allowance, you have to top up the rent from that allowance and pay your bills which is nigh on impossible.

You can apply for council tax relief and Discretionary Housing payments on top, again at the discretion of the LA. It all takes time. If you get the advance payment from UC to plug the gap before UC starts paying, it gets taken back at perhaps 40.00 a month until it's paid off if it's the full amount. This is how you end up spiralling into debt.

Yes, ideally this would be a temporary situation and should incentives one to find better paying work. However if you're struggling to do that, have Housing issues etc, it becomes a nightmare very quickly, especially if your circumstances are complex.

Speaking from bitter experience.

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Robinni · 20/04/2024 00:12

Rinoachicken · 19/04/2024 09:56

Wow would you believe more people are sick after government has failed to protect public health and failed to fund the NHS properly (for years) so people can't get timely treatment. Whoever would have guessed that might happen?!

“We’re also going to test shifting the responsibility for assessment from GPs and giving it to specialist work and health professionals”

Another nice fat contract for Capita coming up.

Maybe address the underlying causes of the increase in ill health in this country instead - just a thought. Increased absence due to mental and physical health issues is not caused by “sicknote culture”, but by 14 years of Tory so-called government.

Maybe there would not be so many people off work sick in the UK if we: -

  1. Had functioning GP services.
  2. Didn't have millions of people waiting for treatment on the NHS.
  3. Had decent mental health care.
  4. Didn't have millions living under the constant stress of how to feed, clothe and keep themselves warm.
Maybe Sunak could contemplate whether the Tories have some responsibility for any of the above points after 14 years in power, rather than scapegoating the victims of his party's abject failures.

This

They aren’t addressing the root cause of the increased sickness.

thepastinsidethepresent · 20/04/2024 00:34

Virtually everyone knows someone who could be working but chooses to live off benefits instead.

That's a very sweeping and untrue generalisation.

We ALL know someone who is working cash in hand but in the pub Friday night boasting about it.

And so is that. What is with these wild unsubstantiated generalisations on this thread?

ClairDeLaLune · 20/04/2024 00:34

Rinoachicken · 19/04/2024 09:56

Wow would you believe more people are sick after government has failed to protect public health and failed to fund the NHS properly (for years) so people can't get timely treatment. Whoever would have guessed that might happen?!

“We’re also going to test shifting the responsibility for assessment from GPs and giving it to specialist work and health professionals”

Another nice fat contract for Capita coming up.

Maybe address the underlying causes of the increase in ill health in this country instead - just a thought. Increased absence due to mental and physical health issues is not caused by “sicknote culture”, but by 14 years of Tory so-called government.

Maybe there would not be so many people off work sick in the UK if we: -

  1. Had functioning GP services.
  2. Didn't have millions of people waiting for treatment on the NHS.
  3. Had decent mental health care.
  4. Didn't have millions living under the constant stress of how to feed, clothe and keep themselves warm.
Maybe Sunak could contemplate whether the Tories have some responsibility for any of the above points after 14 years in power, rather than scapegoating the victims of his party's abject failures.

👏👏 Awesomely put @Rinoachicken

Fr7fr6 · 20/04/2024 01:41

Dollenganger333 · 19/04/2024 20:32

What are you talking about? Since 2010, the Tories have not only cut and cut benefits plus every public service under the sun, but they’ve also made them impossible for people to get in the first place. The people who boast are liars, most likely.

No matter how harsh the government rules becomes, there are people like you still saying that the system is easy to cheat. It isn’t! And the government is now whining about more people out of work than ever, which is a situation entirely of their making.

Edited

I think you've misunderstood me, I haven't said its easy to cheat. I've said that many of us have met someone who has managed to or has claimed to manage to cheat the system and that this leads to a negative perception more broadly despite them making up a tiny fraction of claimants. Over the years, I have met a few people who've shamelessly boasted about dishonestly claiming benefits. Maybe I haven't expressed myself well, but what I am trying to say that the tiniest minority are making things harder for the vast majority claimants who genuinely need help by creating a negative perception. This negative perception then leads people to lap up what Sunak is saying today. I'm well aware that there are many people who are entitled and deserving of support and aren't receiving it due to the cruel system the Tories have put in place.

mathanxiety · 20/04/2024 01:57

tobeconfused · 19/04/2024 19:44

@XenoBitch have you tried to find work? You sound like you've written yourself off. Your MH issues might improve with a bit of work. There's plenty to be had out there. Every restaurant is looking for staff, every nursery is short staffed, plenty of jobs in hospitals in various roles.

Tell me you've never worked in childcare or a restaurant or a hospital without telling me you've never worked in childcare or in a restaurant or a hospital...

Because what everyone who suffers poor mental health needs is a job that pays buttons, perhaps working odd hours, and involving a high degree of stress, plus the joy of "working with difficult people"...

Then you have to start from the beginning with the palaver of an application for benefits when you inevitably lose the job.

mathanxiety · 20/04/2024 02:17

Polishedshoesalways · 19/04/2024 19:32

Oh it’s alive and well alright sadly! You can see plenty of posts on here.

I'm not sure you understood my reference to the execrable Joseph R. McCarthy.

What I'm seeing plenty of is people who would be happy in a world designed by the most rabid of every-man-for-himself libertarians.

mjf981 · 20/04/2024 03:24

I've worked in the UK, Canada and Australia. The 'sicknote' culture is very much more a UK issue than it is elsewhere in my experience.

However...I can see why. The wage suppression and deterioration in public services in the UK over the past 20 years is incredibly demotivating. Add in months of grey rain and cold, and I can see why the population is depressed. Obviously its more nuanced than this, but many people have got to the point of saying 'whats the point anymore' and have basically given up. And this is just mental health, never mind the people with physical ailments.

People need hope to feel well and motivated. When they lose hope...well, history tells us what happens next.

decionsdecisions62 · 20/04/2024 04:41

I'm coming up to retirement. I'm a nurse and tempted to apply for one of their new jobs. Just so I can give more upset, tired and damaged people more time off. I will regard it as my last public duty.

Oblomov24 · 20/04/2024 05:45

No surprise, most people know this is the Tory view, surely?

Thevelvelletes · 20/04/2024 05:46

And MPs will cut their expenses claims....and in other news the moon is made of cheese.
Usual Tory rhetoric to set people against eachother.
And jobs are not plentiful if you are over 55 and ageism does exist.

Polishedshoesalways · 20/04/2024 05:49

mjf981 · 20/04/2024 03:24

I've worked in the UK, Canada and Australia. The 'sicknote' culture is very much more a UK issue than it is elsewhere in my experience.

However...I can see why. The wage suppression and deterioration in public services in the UK over the past 20 years is incredibly demotivating. Add in months of grey rain and cold, and I can see why the population is depressed. Obviously its more nuanced than this, but many people have got to the point of saying 'whats the point anymore' and have basically given up. And this is just mental health, never mind the people with physical ailments.

People need hope to feel well and motivated. When they lose hope...well, history tells us what happens next.

Most of Scandinavia and many other Northern European states suffer the same if not worse and much wetter, darker climate conditions than the U.K. especially in the winter.

Norway for example. Admittedly they are aware of this is and have put some public support and measures in place. There is much more we could do to increase quality of life. Free exercise classes in the parks ( like Japan) Free Access to light boxes for vitamin D and other benefits. Light boxes are not unusual in Northern Sweden. Compulsory Cookery classes pivotal in secondary schools to cook highly nutritious meals instead of cakes. Bigger and greater access and inclusion in women’s and men’s circles for mental health and community support.

The weather plays a small part, and public services aren’t great in some areas but it seems to be more than that, the hopelessness that is seen repeatedly in this country. That is harder to tackle. But it is possible.
The U.K. is a beautiful, culturally rich and historically important country - but unless you are feeling well enough to enjoy it, the essence and benefits will pass you by.

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