For only dressing my baby in ‘pyjamas’?

[KellyJellyfish]

DD is 15 weeks old and small for her age (premature, still wearing 0-3months). Yesterday we attended a mums and baby music class and during the pre-class chat we got a couple of comments about how cute my DDs pyjamas were.

I dress her pretty much exclusively in babygrows and bibs, firstly because she has reflux and can write off at least one outfit a day (our record is 4 in 15 minutes!), secondly because most of our stuff is either secondhand, gifted, or cheap multipacks, thirdly because she still very much needs scratch mitts and she cannot stand cold feet or legs (socks fall off, trousers ride up). But most of all, because she’s a baby? Yeah I could waste money on little jeans and hoodies or dresses, but what’s the point? It’s expensive, wasteful, and makes life harder for both of us when it comes to changing and laundry. I’ve never really viewed babygrows as PJs before, just something babies wear.

AIBU?

What has OP said about people who dress babies differently? She hasn't judged them to be anything, just explained her opinion on the practicality of the clothes.

I find it bizarre that every third post on MN is someone claiming that stating an opinion on a thing is 'judging' the people that do it. For one thing, judging them as what? Morally lacking, criminal, stupid? Just this vague phrase that gets thrown around with no actual meaning.

Next used to do packs of 3 really bright & colourful baby grows with fab prints on when my DS was a baby! I had loads of them and that is ALL he wore, day & night. Til he was at least a year old! If it was hot he'd just have a romper on! I never understand why babies are stuffed into outfits especially jeans and frilly dresses!

I hate seeing tiny babies in proper outfits. So impractical and probably uncomfortable. I kept mine in babygros for a long time.

Why would you be unreasonable to dress your baby in the most practical and comfortable way for her needs?

But, OP, asking this on MN I can assure you that you’re going to get people telling you you’re quite right and that babygrows are the only proper attire for babies. And that people who dress their babies in ‘scratchy jeans’ (they’re always described as scratchy) are a bit tacky.

It doesn’t matter how you choose to dress your baby or how other people choose to dress theirs . I always dressed mine ,mainly in leggings , vests and tops but I didn’t sneer at people who chose to do it differently which you seem to be veering towards OP

I went to our first baby group this week (my baby is 4 weeks old, the others were up to about 7 months). Mine was admittedly the youngest but he was the only one in a baby gro! I was really surprised. It was a lovely one from jojo with a fancy collar so less like pjs than the ones with poppers up the front, to me definitely daywear designed to be seen not night wear. With my older child I was keen to get her dressed in little outfits (not really dresses and stuff, but leggings and tops) sooner but with this one I’m sticking with babygrows a bit longer. That said, I have been gifted 2 lovely soft dungaree outfits so I shall put them on him at some point…

my husband loves the ease of babygrows so much that he used to dress our daughter in them whenever he was in charge up to well over a year. He only stopped because I pointed out she couldn’t have shoes on with them if we went out anywhere 😂 otherwise he’d still be dressing her in them at 5 I think!

I still often dress my 1 year old in baby grows. Baby sock just fall off while crawling and she gets chilly feet!

Dress your baby in whatever suits you. End of.

I dressed my PFB in stupid, faffy probably not very comfy outfits from the get go.
2nd born was in a vest and sleepsuit for at least the first 6 months. She had a dairy allergy and reflux and was constantly vomming all over herself so it was much easier and she was obviously more comfy too 🥰
If I was sleeping 90% of the day, I'd want to be in my Jim jams as well!

I’m on my third (4 months old) and she is in baby grows too! I did the outfits on my first but for me the practical thing is sleepsuits so this baby and my second baby lived in them for months and months😂 in summer I’ll put dresses on my little girl to keep her cool and because they are handy and comfy but definitely nothing wrong with sleepsuits!

My older DC lived in baby grows until about a year, I’d put an outfit on if we were going out somewhere nice or for a special occasion. I have a 3 week old now, he owns no others clothes aside from baby grows. He has had some outfits gifted but I haven’t bought any myself. I don’t think I will until he’s up on his feet and walking. 15 weeks is still so tiny, I can’t believe anyone would bother to comment. They are nice and comfortable for them!

I dressed my little boy in mainly babygros until around 6 months old haha. He was so comfy and it made life easier. I got a lot of comments but ignored them all. I also got a lot of "oh he's such a content happy baby" comments too. I'm sure being comfortable and cosy helped him he content.. you do you and smile and say thanks to any comments

My dc we're in babygros u til they were about 4 months. Who has time for essentially grown ups clothes for babies?!

Mine spent most of their early months in babygrows. Until 6m, they spend most of their time on their backs or reclining so you don't want clothing styles that ride up or ruche uncomfortably. They're not on a day/ night cycle like most children and adults so need to be comfortable to sleep every few hours.
I gradually shifted more to vests with poppers and soft dungarees for going out and increasingly as regular daywear at around 6-9m and by 9m they were mobile so needed more grip of feet and stronger fabrics.

I bought baby grows as night wear until they grew out of age 2-3. It was simpler than managing seperates and kept them covered all over by a layer as they were wriggly sleepers.

I suspect that the name shift from "babygrow" to "sleep suit" is to imply that they are nightwear and therefore need a more lucrative daytime wardrobe of regular clothes.

It’s a personal choice really. I find baby grows faffy so they are bedtime only, though now he’s over 1 and walking, he just wears two piece pjs.

I’m not sure why it seems to be the extreme of baby grows or hoodies with jeans, baby clothes can be incredibly comfortable.

I always like a routine, even during the early days which meant getting dressed in the morning and having day clothes/night clothes which includes babies.

So cute!

Yes! I've never understood that on here. Baby jeans are just leggins that are dyed to look like denim, or have a very soft lining and stretchy waistbands.

My baby was in hospital at 5 months old and was wearing a white babygrow and her nurse actually had the audacity to say "oh good, the only thing a baby should be wearing is a white babygrow" i was absolutely speechless and she tutted later when she was in a flowery one after vomiting 🤣

I like the soft trousers/long sleeve vest, downsides are DD hates stuff being pulled over her head, and doesn’t like cold legs or feet. I’d gladly do away with the front poppers! Recently started wearing some with poppers up one side which I massively prefer.

i love the look of dungarees but think they’d be too much faff changing, maybe when she’s a bit older I’ll try them.

sorry if some people think I’m being judgey or rude to other Mums, really didn’t intend to come across that way, I was just asking what people’s general preference was as the PJs comment confused me as I’ve never thought of baby grows as nighttime clothes, but just clothes.

i can assure you I was not offended by the comment, and hold no judgement how other Mums dress their babies. My cousin has herself and her 2 girls in matching outfits, they look adorable.

But most of all, because she’s a baby? Yeah I could waste money on little jeans and hoodies or dresses, but what’s the point? It’s expensive, wasteful,

that sounds pretty judgemental to me.

She doesn’t have her hands covered 24/7, sorry if that wasn’t clear, only when she’s fussing and clawing at her face. The reason I favour baby grows is they have the optional mitts built in, whereas the separate ones always come off.

hands are out 99% of the time

I don’t think disliking your feet being cold is unreasonable, what’s the point in having her be upset and uncomfortable and crying lots when it’s so easy to avoid?

she probably takes after me, I can’t wear sandals or pumps or anything where I can’t wear socks, I hate it.