For only dressing my baby in ‘pyjamas’?

[KellyJellyfish]

DD is 15 weeks old and small for her age (premature, still wearing 0-3months). Yesterday we attended a mums and baby music class and during the pre-class chat we got a couple of comments about how cute my DDs pyjamas were.

I dress her pretty much exclusively in babygrows and bibs, firstly because she has reflux and can write off at least one outfit a day (our record is 4 in 15 minutes!), secondly because most of our stuff is either secondhand, gifted, or cheap multipacks, thirdly because she still very much needs scratch mitts and she cannot stand cold feet or legs (socks fall off, trousers ride up). But most of all, because she’s a baby? Yeah I could waste money on little jeans and hoodies or dresses, but what’s the point? It’s expensive, wasteful, and makes life harder for both of us when it comes to changing and laundry. I’ve never really viewed babygrows as PJs before, just something babies wear.

AIBU?

My first was in baby grows until about 9 months it was lockdown though but they are the most comfy things to wear. Perhaps they didn't mean it in a judgey way? Most likely it's because she looks super cute in them! This time my 3mo has been wearing outfits but that's only because they've been gifted and every single person bought the same size so if I don't put him in them now then it'll be a waste.

Sounds like you are dressing her in soft, comfortable and practical clothes - that's exactly what a young baby will be happy in. Ignore anyone who thinks their babies need to be dressed like models!

Dress her in what you like! I moved my kids to 'clothes' at about 3 months. I like the routine of getting up and dressed to start the day but that was my preference. There were also days where I left them in babygrows if we were staying at home.
The 'clothes' I would put my kids in were second-hand items, gifted items etc. I never brought anything unless it was for a specific event or reason until probably older then 6 months. I did love a little dress on my youngest though over the summer months.

No need to make extra work for yourself with fiddly outfits. Baby grows do what it says on the tin. Comfy, easy to get on and off and don't need ironing. I dislike seeing babies in complicated outfits that might look cute, but don't look particularly comfortable

Baby grows are great, my son wore them all the time, even up to about 18 months, sometimes wi th a jumper over the top. Even now he doesn't wear jeans and shirts and all that, he's six and he prefers joggers and t shirts and sweatshirts. They have a whole adult life of wearing "real" clothes, they should be comfy when they're little. Don't take it personally, I know it's hard when you're knackered tho.

You don't know better than the multiple medical professionals involved in my children's lives. Stop giving out medical advice on the internet.

Also, covering a three month old's hands with scratch mitts is in no way like that. Again, a bit silly.

It's fine

I felt so bad when my (well meaning) friend got a really expensive dress for DD. It was gorgeous. I put it on her once and said never again. It was an awful waste. But essentially not designed for a baby!

Just put them in what you like. It doesn’t sound like they were judging you, if anything it sounds the other way around. I left mine in babygrows as I found it easier, but I think the little outfits are cute wouldn’t even think of judging someone for what they have decided to put their baby in (unless it was a leather gimp suit, then I would totally judge!).

There seems to be this competitive underdressing on here, ‘I only used 5 white babygrows and didn’t put them in anything else until they were 3’. It doesn’t matter! Some people like fashion and dressing up, some don’t. I don’t think either is better than the other.

My youngest wore babygros and rompers until he was 1 and started walking. He was my last baby so I wanted to keep him little for a bit longer!

With impractical things like that I'd just pop them in it, take a photo and send it to the giver. Job done.

I never got why people put their little babies in outfits. My girl is 7 months and still put her mostly in baby grows.

Yep! That's exactly what I did! It was such a lovely dress though, and v expensive. She really meant well. But I really couldn't do with the miniscule buttons on the back of a 9-12 month old dress. Life is hard enough!

Ultra fancy garments like that are made for parents who have staff to dress and undress their child!

A 15 week old has no concept of 'day clothes'. I must say I parents with a concept of 'day clothes' versus 'nightwear' on babies young enough to have not yet got used to being out of the womb completely ridiculous.

I much prefer to see babies in babygrows than in outfits. They have the next 80 plus years to wear outfits.

Mine wore babygros until they started furniture walking, when I found bare feet a bit better for grip. Sometimes they would have a little cardi if it was chilly, sometimes it would be a shorty one if it was warm, but always onesies. Who has time for outfits, laundry and silly tiny socks??

Babygros are comfortable, sensible and cute.

My baby spent first 2 months in babgrows pretty much exclusively. Now he's 19 weeks and I usually have him in 'outfits' during the day. Not jeans or anything with buttons down back etc. I mean bodysuit and leggings/tracksuit bottoms. Probably less poppers than a babygrow 😂 Comfy, not tight waistbands. I usually take the bottoms off in the house. He's trying to roll over and experience things with his hands and feet. He'll lie in his play area and reach for some toys with his hands and kick others. At this stage a babygrow would get in the way, if I change him early at night I notice he doesn't like his feet covered trying to play/roll as he can't get the same traction. He's also got quite skinny legs so his feet end up caught up in excess material.

God love the staff in that case! Whatever about proper buttons on a shirt, proper buttons on the back of a dress is murder. 'Hang on there tiny baby while I stick you face down so I can do up your dress' is madness. She wasn't a mum at the time, and I was just learning to be fair to both of us. But that dress was 'mislaid' straight away 😅

I absolutely loved my baby in baby grows. Just so irresistibly cute and comfy! Now he’s 2 and wears jeans/joggers/tshirts etc I really miss those babygrows days. I feel like we always try to rush them to grow up but they’re only tiny for a short time. Enjoy it while it lasts!!!

My baby is 9 months and I still regularly put her in baby grows! She wears dresses and outfits too now, but baby grows are ideal for a baby who sleeps for a good chunk of time during the day.
Comfort and ease is way more important then style, but tbh babies look adorable in them anyway.

There are (were) plenty of non babygro clothes that weren't proper clothes not too long ago. Elasticated, buttons at the neck etc. I haven't bought anything for a baby in a good while now but assume/ hope these all still exist.

My baby’s just five months and still pretty much in baby gros. Easy, cheaper, he’s not pulling off socks all the time. And he’s only a baby for this tiny amount of time. He has the rest of his life to wear jeans and sweatshirts ffs

I love a baby in a babygrow! I tried to keep my boys exclusively in babygrows for as long as possible as they were so snuggly, cute, happy and easy to change 😊

You do you!