Ds is 19 months and I work 3 days and have 2 days with him. I’m finding it so hard. I dread the days with him on top of the weekend. It’s so hard. Everything I read says nursery is bad for them under age 3 but I don’t know if I can carry on like this. I feel like an awful parent all the time
AIBU?
Am I being unreasonable?
274 votes. Final results.
POLLJundapo · 17/04/2024 15:04
It’s just Internet searches say no benefit before 3 etc and it just makes me feel so guilty
Jundapo · 17/04/2024 15:04
It’s just Internet searches say no benefit before 3 etc and it just makes me feel so guilty
Catza · 17/04/2024 15:07
Strange, because even in the most cursory search the first page I get is list of endless benefits of nursery for children of all ages. Agree with the PP. The child is much better off in the nursery with engaging staff and peers than at home with a stressed parent.
Jundapo · 17/04/2024 15:04
It’s just Internet searches say no benefit before 3 etc and it just makes me feel so guilty
What is the best age to send my child to nursery school?
Most of the time, parents decide to send their child to nursery school to get back to work after maternity or paternity leave.
https://www.cheekychums.co.uk/what-is-the-best-age-to-send-my-child-to-nursery-school/#:~:text=However%2C%20experts%20assured%20that%20it,to%20their%20'emotional%20equilibrium'.
Catza · 17/04/2024 14:44
Why is nursery so bad?
Plenty of research out there showing multiple benefits of attending nursery in early years including physical, social, cognitive and emotional development. So I can only imagine that "everything I read" mostly consists of personal anecdotes.
sociallydistained · 17/04/2024 15:14
No, it's actual attachment theory and scientific research. A child being with their main caregiver is the best thing for a child before 3. If you had seen what it's really like in a nursery you wouldn't put any child in one.
Catza · 17/04/2024 14:44
Why is nursery so bad?
Plenty of research out there showing multiple benefits of attending nursery in early years including physical, social, cognitive and emotional development. So I can only imagine that "everything I read" mostly consists of personal anecdotes.
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sociallydistained · 17/04/2024 15:14
No, it's actual attachment theory and scientific research. A child being with their main caregiver is the best thing for a child before 3. If you had seen what it's really like in a nursery you wouldn't put any child in one.
Catza · 17/04/2024 14:44
Why is nursery so bad?
Plenty of research out there showing multiple benefits of attending nursery in early years including physical, social, cognitive and emotional development. So I can only imagine that "everything I read" mostly consists of personal anecdotes.
sociallydistained · 17/04/2024 15:14
No, it's actual attachment theory and scientific research. A child being with their main caregiver is the best thing for a child before 3. If you had seen what it's really like in a nursery you wouldn't put any child in one.
Catza · 17/04/2024 14:44
Why is nursery so bad?
Plenty of research out there showing multiple benefits of attending nursery in early years including physical, social, cognitive and emotional development. So I can only imagine that "everything I read" mostly consists of personal anecdotes.
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